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California Legalizes Gay Marriage

Thu, May 15, 2008 at 11:11:18 am PDT

In an election year, the California Supreme Court has legalized gay marriage.

Hang on to your hats.

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1 newsjunkie_ky  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:12:00am

Idiots!

2 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:12:02am

Maybe my sister will move there.

3 Who Watches the Watchmen?  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:12:02am

Four lawyers trump the voters of California. Heh™.

4 Uncle Joe  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:12:32am

Change!

5 JohnnyReb  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:12:47am

Remeber this is California, the land of fruits and nuts.

6 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:12:48am

I don't want to be forced into a gay marriage! Why would the state oppress us this way?
/

7 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:13:09am

They meant "gay" as in happy, right?

/

8 itellu3times  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:13:21am

So now John McCain can live openly with the Republican Party?

9 newsjunkie_ky  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:13:52am

A parade will be held in SF on Saturday. Oh wait, there is a parade EVERY Saturday.

10 Dr. Shalit  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:14:06am

Sounds like "PROPOSITION TIME" in CA.

-S-

11 joncelli  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:14:21am

Hummm. Still time for defense of marriage referendums in various states to be set up? Could be a wedge issue for the Republicans.

12 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:14:22am

The big question: "Full faith & credit"?

13 Dahveed  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:14:27am

Activist judges. When you can't win inthe court of public opinion you file a lawsuit. You find enough liberal judges and they will agree to anything.

14 Uncle Joe  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:14:47am

Yeah, stay home because McCain's a chump! The pendulum will surely swing back once the Dems have locked up the courts, the bureaucracy and legislated every nitwit pet agenda they can think of. Then we can really show 'em!

15 rwmofo  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:14:56am

Divorce lawyers are out shopping for that new vacation home. Please leave a message.

16 pat  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:15:12am
Hang on to your hats.

And cover your butt.

17 P. Aaron  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:15:23am

Let it all hang out. Pretty soon they'll be nothing to live for...nothing to die for.

The USA=Europe.

18 Honorary Yooper  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:15:33am

Since when did the courts get to make the law? I thought that Californians had made their choice known by a referendum?

19 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:15:38am

re: #16 pat

ROTF!

20 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:15:43am

The bad news: This will only push weddings to a whole new level of opulence.


/shamlessly stolen from "The Onion"

21 redheadredstate  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:15:54am

They needed to legalize it? I didn't see much evidence that anyone was trying to stop it did you? My cousin is a cop in San Fran, oh the stories he tells about being hit on by gay men. He used to work in Vice and I cannot share some of those stories with you. I cannot wait for the implosion!

22 song_and_dance_man[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:16:12am
23 Diamond Bullet  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:16:22am

Legalized? I'm surprised they didn't make it mandatory.

24 gop_patriot  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:16:23am

re: #16 pat

HAHAHAHA!

25 joncelli  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:16:28am

re: #12 Occasional Reader

Precisely. It's a foot in the door -- if a marriage is legal in California, then you've got to recognize it in Kansas...although specifically banning it might get you around that. That's a legal question, and I don't even play a lawyer on TV.

26 rwmofo  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:16:41am

Give them an inch. Uhh, scratch that.

27 lawhawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:17:17am

There's a move to put a proposition on the ballot in November that would amend the state constitution to clearly spell out that marriage is between a man and a woman, but the Court could rule that that violates the Constitution and would not be permissible.

Never mind that the law struck down today was passed by the voters with a 60% majority.

28 Nevergiveup  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:17:27am

Well since this now seems headed to the Ballot in CA this November, it may only help our cause by mobilizing the base like the Mass same sex debate did last time out.

29 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:17:36am

re: #15 rwmofo

Divorce lawyers are out shopping for that new vacation home. Please leave a message.

LOL!

30 Alouette  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:17:36am

So much for the will of the people, judges know better than the lower voting classes.

31 redheadredstate  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:17:40am

# 22

And soon they will do away with the Governorship and elect a Queen.

CLASSIC!

32 SouthAmericanWay  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:17:56am

It would seem that they're working for the GOP or something... It is wonderful that it brings close to home for conservatives what may happen if they stay home this election cycle.

33 offendi  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:18:10am

Does this dovetail in some way with some of Pastor Manning's theories?

34 Tumulus11  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:18:19am
'It's for the children.'

. Oh, wait, no it's not.

35 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:18:23am

re: #27 lawhawk

but the Court could rule that that violates the Constitution and would not be permissible

The Court could rule that a proposed amendment to the Constitution is unconstitutional?!

36 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:18:38am

re: #27 lawhawk

Yes, constitutional bans on gay marriage are very unpopular and will never happen.

37 pat  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:18:42am

Where does Obama stand?

38 mojo9  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:19:00am

BFD! California is like a bowl of granola. after the fruits and nuts, all you have is flakes.

39 joncelli  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:19:32am

re: #37 pat

With his back against a wall?
/

40 sngnsgt  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:19:33am

I now pronounce you husband and husband. Who gets the pretty ring?
-- * --

41 Sponge  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:19:36am

re: #16 pat

And cover your butt.

Butt to the wall, man......

42 BuddyG[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:20:46am
43 Cygnus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:20:47am

This will go nicely with the... ahem... "M"-a-thon coming up on the 25th. California has become a moral cesspool.

44 pat  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:21:08am

re: #36 Killgore Trout

Yes, constitutional bans on gay marriage are very unpopular and will never happen.

LOL. My State, the bluest in the nation, changed it's Constitution immediately after our Court pulled this stunt. The Referendum was going to be razor thin, according to the MSM, with the gays prevailing. Passed 67%.

45 lawhawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:21:28am

re: #35 Occasional Reader

Consider that some intrepid lawyer could seek to strike down the ballot proposal claiming that it is unconstitutional. Watch for that scenario.

Or, the Cal. S.Ct. could adopt the Mass S.Ct. position that its decision was not reversible by constitutional amendment; the court said it would strike such an amendment as a violation of the existing provisions of the state constitution.

46 Honorary Yooper  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:21:34am

re: #23 Diamond Bullet

Legalized? I'm surprised they didn't make it mandatory.

Nah. It'd take the 9th Circuit to do that.

47 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:21:35am

re: #7 Sharmuta

They meant "gay" as in happy, right?

/

You're talking mythical, right?

}:)     [I, being a divorce survivor ... ]

48 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:21:53am

re: #17 P. Aaron

Let it all hang out. Pretty soon they'll be nothing to live for...nothing to die for.

Whereas the methodology is certainly questionable (judges striking down the will of the people), I don't agree that legal gay marriages are the end of civilization and the world.

49 RoyalCanadian  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:22:07am

One man's vicotry is another man's bummer. Lawyers made millions in the lead up to gay marriage and they will make billions with gay divorce. No wonder they stand behind gays.

50 pat  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:22:23am

When is the Court going to declare the Constitution unConstitutional?

51 Nevergiveup  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:22:28am

If you can't define marriage as between a man and a women, why do they define marriage as only between one man and one "other". I mean then why is polygamy wrong? just pointing out were this may be heading.

52 zmdavid  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:22:45am

re: #35 Occasional Reader

The Court could rule that a proposed amendment to the Constitution is unconstitutional?!

Yes. The court is God. (At least in their view)

53 Bombarafat  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:23:07am

Arizona Bay here it comes

54 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:23:27am

re: #37 pat

Where does Obama stand?

He's a long-legged pimp.

55 Cygnus[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:23:32am
56 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:23:37am

re: #48 JamesTKirk


Then where do you draw the line? Two adults?
Legalized polygamy? What about their "rights"?

57 rwmofo  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:23:49am

re: #34 Tumulus11

. Oh, wait, no it's not.

Actually you're on to something. When conservatives "come out" against this CHILDREN WILL STARVE! ...according to Barbara Boxer.

58 cblesz  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:23:55am

re: #14 Uncle Joe

Yeah, stay home because McCain's a chump! The pendulum will surely swing back once the Dems have locked up the courts, the bureaucracy and legislated every nitwit pet agenda they can think of. Then we can really show 'em!

EXACTLY! See, this is what we can expect from the SCOTUS once Barry gets elected. More and more activist judges just like Ruth Bader Ginsberg. This is the exact argument for voting FOR McCain OR against Barry.

59 world b. free  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:24:00am

If only James Bond hadn't thwarted Christopher Walken's plans in "View to a Kill" to detonate dynamite all along the San Andreas Fault Line and plunge California into the ocean.

60 lawhawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:24:03am

If this case doesn't get the GOP energized about trying to limit the influence of activist courts, nothing will... Elections have repercussions and outcomes - and if you stand on the sidelines in a snit because you don't like McCain, you're going to get exactly what you deserve - even more activist judges that will pump out activist decisions and not based on the law. Penumbras and emanations indeed.

61 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:24:30am

re: #50 pat

When is the Court going to declare the Constitution unConstitutional?

Give obama the White House and a few Supreme Court picks....

62 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:24:32am

What gets me about this is that the court overturned and ammendment to the state constitution.

This is judicial activism on steroids.

Liberals may hail this as a great decision, but the same court could use the same power to dismiss the legislature and the governor and rule by decree.

What is going to stop them - the state constitution?

63 USA  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:24:44am

Man and beast are next. Of course, state's will start with civil unions, then find them unacceptable alternatives to marriage.

64 sngnsgt  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:24:52am

I can hear DUmmies screeching about this thread already.

65 stead63  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:25:03am

California's New Slogan: Where the voice of the people in a Democracy just dont matter.

66 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:25:10am

re: #28 Nevergiveup

...this November, it may only help our cause by mobilizing the base like the Mass same sex debate did last time out.

Make a big issue of this, and you'll kill any chance of major Democratic crossover votes to McCain (all those people who said they'd vote for him if their choice wasn't the Dem nominee).

67 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:25:15am

re: #43 Cygnus

This will go nicely with the... ahem... "M"-a-thon coming up on the 25th. California has become a moral cesspool.

What's an "M"-a-thon?

68 USA  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:25:21am

states PIMF

69 Cygnus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:25:24am

re: #59 world b. free

If only James Bond hadn't thwarted Christopher Walken's plans in "View to a Kill" to detonate dynamite all along the San Andreas Fault Line and plunge California into the ocean.

And Superman stopped Lex Luthor from doing the same thing.

70 Nevergiveup  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:25:33am

re: #60 lawhawk

If this case doesn't get the GOP energized about trying to limit the influence of activist courts, nothing will... Elections have repercussions and outcomes - and if you stand on the sidelines in a snit because you don't like McCain, you're going to get exactly what you deserve - even more activist judges that will pump out activist decisions and not based on the law. Penumbras and emanations indeed.

Other than "Penumbras and emanations"( got to give me time to look them up). What he said!

71 Shug  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:25:37am

I just think the courts and legislatures have better things to do.

Like preventing the sharia law which would make Gay marriage a non-issue.....big time

72 zmdavid  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:25:40am

re: #63 USA

Man and beast are next. Of course, state's will start with civil unions, then find them unacceptable alternatives to marriage.


Polygamy will come before that.

73 cod_is_great  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:25:43am

I'll take this over sharia any day. And she shouldn't forget that one of our greatest commentators on the subject of creeping sharia, Bruce Bawer, lives with a man.

74 song_and_dance_man[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:25:46am
75 newsjunkie_ky  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:25:54am

I love my Country more than I hate McCain.

I love that bumper sticker.

76 Rogue198  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:25:57am

re: #50 pat

When is the Court going to declare the Constitution unConstitutional?

That's what the Paulians want to do

77 Nevergiveup  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:26:00am

re: #66 JamesTKirk

Make a big issue of this, and you'll kill any chance of major Democratic crossover votes to McCain (all those people who said they'd vote for him if their choice wasn't the Dem nominee).

Got a point there.

78 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:26:06am

For some reason, even though I live at the epicenter of the gay marriage movement, this issue leaves me completely unmoved, one way or the other. To me, it's an unimportant side-issue affecting very few people that has been blown way out of proportion by both sides, on purpose.

If forced to take a stand, I'd have to come donw on the laissez-faire side of things: Marry whoever (or whatever) you want to marry. What's it got to do with me?

79 taxfreekiller[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:26:19am
80 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:26:19am

re: #55 Cygnus

What came first, Dick or "dick"?

81 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:26:25am

re: #49 RoyalCanadian

One man's vicotry is another man's bummer. Lawyers made millions in the lead up to gay marriage and they will make billions with gay divorce. No wonder they stand behind gays.

Gonna' refrain.

82 cblesz  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:26:49am

This is perfect...the GOP and McCain ought to make the commercials and ads NOW! Simply bring this freaking activist court's decision to the public and tell them that this is exactly what they are voting for if they vote for Obama's change! Oh, i forgot, the republicans were neutered sometime ago and won't do it...

83 Shug  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:27:00am

re: #78 zombie


my thoughts exactly.
Elizabeth Taylor did more damage to marriage than adam and steve

84 WrathofG-d  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:27:04am

What is the big deal exactly? The people of California are extreme leftists who would support the privilege of Homosexuals to "marry" eachother, and the Government passed a bill saying such.

This is a State's rights issue, and has been decided upon by this State.

This IS California we are talking about.

85 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:27:21am

re: #51 Nevergiveup

If you can't define marriage as between a man and a women, why do they define marriage as only between one man and one "other". I mean then why is polygamy wrong? just pointing out were this may be heading.

Or, group marriage.

86 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:27:26am

re: #45 lawhawk

Or, the Cal. S.Ct. could adopt the Mass S.Ct. position that its decision was not reversible by constitutional amendment; the court said it would strike such an amendment as a violation of the existing provisions of the state constitution.

Wow. I had not heard that. It's simply... beyond parody.

"Your proposed amendment would violate the existing Constitution!"

Er... yeah, that's, um, kind of the point.

"SILENCE! We have spoken! So it is written, so it shall be done!"

87 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:27:49am

re: #59 world b. free

If only James Bond hadn't thwarted Christopher Walken's plans in "View to a Kill" to detonate dynamite all along the San Andreas Fault Line and plunge California into the ocean.

Or Superman hadn't thwarted Lex Luthor's plans in "Superman" to detonate nuclear weapons all along the San Andreas Fault Line and plunge California into the ocean.

}:)     [Wait, that thinking is faulty ... ]

88 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:27:54am

re: #66 JamesTKirk

"crossover votes" ? Hmmmm, like "swing votes"?

89 stead63  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:27:58am

re: #51 Nevergiveup

If you can't define marriage as between a man and a women, why do they define marriage as only between one man and one "other". I mean then why is polygamy wrong? just pointing out were this may be heading.

thats just around the corner I fully agree. What about a man and a horse? I mean the gate's standing wide open

90 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:28:02am

re: #14 Uncle Joe

Yeah, stay home because McCain's a chump! The pendulum will surely
swing back once the Dems have locked up the courts, the bureaucracy and
legislated every nitwit pet agenda they can think of. Then we can
really show 'em!

In 40 years. Just like the New Deal. We will be dead when the "pendulum swings back."

Dems have a way of hanging on to power. Decisions like this one give us insight into how.

91 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:28:05am

re: #78 zombie

For some reason, even though I live at the epicenter of the gay marriage movement, this issue leaves me completely unmoved, one way or the other. To me, it's an unimportant side-issue affecting very few people that has been blown way out of proportion by both sides, on purpose.

If forced to take a stand, I'd have to come donw on the laissez-faire side of things: Marry whoever (or whatever) you want to marry. What's it got to do with me?

Exactly. Doesn't change my marriage in any way, shape, or form.

Besides, marriage is much healthier than random sex in bathhouses with thousands of strangers. And I'd rather see people at gay pride marches flashes their wedding rings than ... well, what they're flashing now.

92 MigueldowninMexico  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:28:30am

This is the next enlightened step California should take.
Already being considered by some Europeans.

Go all the way! Why stop at a third of it?

93 quickjustice  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:28:34am

The N.Y. Court of Appeals said it was up to the N.Y. legislature, elected by the people, to make this decision. By taking this decision away from the California legislature, the California Supreme Court exposes its arrogance and its contempt both for the elected California legislature, the elected governor of California, and the people of California.

Time for another one of your legendary Propositions, Californians!

94 rawmuse  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:29:05am

Oh, well, why should straights be the only ones who are miserable?

95 Cygnus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:29:12am

re: #67 MandyManners

What's an "M"-a-thon?

Look here. Sorry, I was too much of a wimp to type it out.

96 kyleb  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:29:17am

Can't we just call them Butt Buddies? I mean that sounds like a fair compromise and a more accurate term to boot.

97 cblesz  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:29:33am

re: #84 WrathofG-d

What is the big deal exactly? The people of California are extreme leftists who would support the privilege of Homosexuals to "marry" eachother, and the Government passed a bill saying such.

This is a State's rights issue, and has been decided upon by this State.

This IS California we are talking about.

Um, I live in California and resent that remark. I think you really need to distinguish NORTHERN CALIFORNIA (San Fran, berkely) with Southern California. And, may I ask where you live?

98 VegasRick  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:30:21am

re: #95 Cygnus

Look here. Sorry, I was too much of a wimp to type it out.

That should cum with some kind of warning!

99 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:30:36am

re: #43 Cygnus

This will go nicely with the... ahem... "M"-a-thon coming up on the 25th. California has become a moral cesspool.

The masturbate-a-thon is mostly a straight thing.

100 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:30:37am

re: #78 zombie

For some reason, even though I live at the epicenter of the gay marriage movement, this issue leaves me completely unmoved, one way or the other.

I am sorta kinda with you... EXCEPT for the glaring judicial activism aspect to the whole thing. Go back and read what lawhawk posted about the Mass. court; "our decision cannot be undone, even by constitutional amendment, so there!" Very disturbing.

101 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:30:38am

re: #91 JamesTKirk

"random sex in bathhouses with thousands of strangers"

Do you really think that would stop if gays could be legally married?

102 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:30:41am

re: #78 zombie

For some reason, even though I live at the epicenter of the gay marriage movement, this issue leaves me completely unmoved, one way or the other. To me, it's an unimportant side-issue affecting very few people that has been blown way out of proportion by both sides, on purpose.

If forced to take a stand, I'd have to come donw on the laissez-faire side of things: Marry whoever (or whatever) you want to marry. What's it got to do with me?

Exactly.  And I only live 90 miles from said same epicenter ... right in the middle of Sacramento ...

}:)     [BUT I live nowhere near Arnold, so don't anyone come over ... ]

103 lawhawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:30:58am

re: #84 WrathofG-d

There's a Constitutional provision called full faith and credit, that would extend that decision to every other state in the country. If you're in New Jersey or Montana, you'd have to accept the marriage between two people married in California under their law, even if you disagree with the law.

104 NoSubmission  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:31:10am

re: #78 zombie

For some reason, even though I live at the epicenter of the gay marriage movement, this issue leaves me completely unmoved, one way or the other. To me, it's an unimportant side-issue affecting very few people that has been blown way out of proportion by both sides, on purpose.

If forced to take a stand, I'd have to come donw on the laissez-faire side of things: Marry whoever (or whatever) you want to marry. What's it got to do with me?


I agree.

105 Cygnus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:31:12am

re: #80 BuddyG

What came first, Dick or "dick"?

Inquiring minds want to know. :)

106 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:31:42am

re: #86 Occasional Reader

Wow. I had not heard that. It's simply... beyond parody.

"Your proposed amendment would violate the existing Constitution!"

Er... yeah, that's, um, kind of the point.

"SILENCE! We have spoken! So it is written, so it shall be done!"

I get this image of Q in the ST:TNG episode "Encounter at Farpoint."

107 rwmofo  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:31:51am

re: #60 lawhawk

If this case doesn't get the GOP energized about trying to limit the influence of activist courts, nothing will... Elections have repercussions and outcomes - and if you stand on the sidelines in a snit because you don't like McCain, you're going to get exactly what you deserve - even more activist judges that will pump out activist decisions and not based on the law. Penumbras and emanations indeed.

I totally agree. The "centrist" Clinton appointed Ginsburg and Breyer who vote just left of Karl Marx and--SURPRISE!--they're still on the court.

108 rawmuse  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:31:51am

re: #103 lawhawk

There's a Constitutional provision called full faith and credit, that would extend that decision to every other state in the country. If you're in New Jersey or Montana, you'd have to accept the marriage between two people married in California under their law, even if you disagree with the law.

Also known as "reciprocity". It does not work with guns, though.

109 joncelli  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:31:56am

re: #78 zombie

That would be my attitude too if marriage didn't have state sanction (and by "state" I mean "sanction by the individual states -- this is a local issue in which the Feds have no right to interfere). The state does sanction marriages, though, so marriage takes on the role of an institution that can be used to mainstream an agenda. I would just as soon make marriage a purely private matter, devoid of state interference, but since it isn't, alternate definitions of marriage have to be defeated.

110 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:31:59am

re: #78 zombie

For some reason, even though I live at the epicenter of the gay
marriage movement, this issue leaves me completely unmoved, one way or
the other. To me, it's an unimportant side-issue affecting very few
people that has been blown way out of proportion by both sides, on
purpose.

If forced to take a stand, I'd have to come donw on
the laissez-faire side of things: Marry whoever (or whatever) you want
to marry. What's it got to do with me?

While I agree with you on the issue itself (I am basically libertarian), what about the state constitution itself?

The court just said that it can declare any ammendment to the state constitution as unconstitutional.

That translates into "the constitution is whatever we want it to be."

I have a HUGE problem with that.

111 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:32:00am
112 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:32:29am

re: #84 WrathofG-d

What is the big deal exactly? The people of California are extreme leftists who would support the privilege of Homosexuals to "marry" eachother, and the Government passed a bill saying such.

This is a State's rights issue, and has been decided upon by this State.

This IS California we are talking about.

What if the couple decides to move to a conservative state, such as West Virginia?

113 Cygnus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:32:31am

re: #98 VegasRick

That should cum with some kind of warning!

It was posted a couple of days ago. Turned out to be one of the funniest threads I've ever read!

114 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:32:35am

re: #91 JamesTKirk

Besides, marriage is much healthier than random sex in bathhouses with thousands of strangers. And I'd rather see people at gay pride marches flashes their wedding rings than ... well, what they're flashing now.

I don't really think the Folsom Street crowd were just waiting all along for a legal justification to settle down into stable, monogamous marriages, and join the PTA. But that's just me.

115 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:33:06am

re: #95 Cygnus

Look here. Sorry, I was too much of a wimp to type it out.

Oh, that!

116 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:33:16am

re: #112 MandyManners

California to W.Virginia; deliverance

117 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:33:19am

re: #101 BuddyG

"random sex in bathhouses with thousands of strangers"

Do you really think that would stop if gays could be legally married?

No, any more than every single straight person is monogamous due to the availability of straight marriage.

118 VegasRick  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:33:22am

re: #105 Cygnus

Inquiring minds want to know. :)

I'm glad I didn't take the nic VegasDick.

119 WrathofG-d  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:33:42am

re: #97 cblesz

I live in the Los Angeles area. (born and raised)

There are those of us that would disagree with the uber Leftistness of California, but that is the State we live in.

No offense meant.

120 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:33:44am

re: #99 zombie

The masturbate-a-thon is mostly a straight thing.

Homosexuals don't do that?

121 Cygnus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:33:45am

re: #115 MandyManners

Oh, that!

Yeppers.

122 rwmofo  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:33:46am

re: #96 kyleb

Can't we just call them Butt Buddies? I mean that sounds like a fair compromise and a more accurate term to boot.

They say that the cowboy in the Village People was a Rump Ranger.

123 Shug  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:34:08am

re: #110 karmic_inquisitor

The court just said that it can declare any ammendment to the state constitution as unconstitutional.

The inmates are running the loony bin

124 Uncle Joe  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:34:16am

re: #38 mojo9

BFD! California is like a bowl of granola. after the fruits and nuts, all you have is flakes.

Although I share your frustration with California lunacy, I was born in California, have lived here all my life, and can tell you that most of the fruits, nuts and flakes have been imported from every state in the union (and even from overseas) because of hyperliberal promotion by San Francisco and Hollywood. They know how to recruit!

Meanwhile, the Republican Party makes no attempt to even have a presence here and have abandoned one of the nation's largest, most important states to the kooks. How do you think that makes Republicans here feel? Look at the voting record in the middle and eastern part of the state (away from SF and Hollywood). Huge areas of the state vote Republican trying to turn things around but the Republicans only go the McCain/Ahnold route and parrot and pander to leftists. They don't have any firm principles and do a terrible job of selling very saleable conservative ideas to the people here. So what happens? More and more conservatives just give up. They move out of state and more fanatical leftists move in.

125 Spider Mensch  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:34:22am

it would take a few years to prove out, but it will be interesting to see if the divorce rate among gay couples is higher than hetero couples. I have a strange inkiling it just might be. but I'll leave that to the sociologists to speculate why.

126 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:34:23am

re: #109 joncelli

That would be my attitude too if marriage didn't have state sanction (and by "state" I mean "sanction by the individual states -- this is a local issue in which the Feds have no right to interfere). The state does sanction marriages, though, so marriage takes on the role of an institution that can be used to mainstream an agenda. I would just as soon make marriage a purely private matter, devoid of state interference, but since it isn't, alternate definitions of marriage have to be defeated.

And how does that state sanction threaten you so much?

127 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:34:36am

re: #117 JamesTKirk

Then it isn't a good arguement for gay marriage

128 WrathofG-d  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:34:43am

re: #103 lawhawk

I'd repeal the ff&C clause and go back to a states rights approach. We are way too far off from what the Constitution permits.

This is a great opportunity to start peeling back.

129 Macker  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:34:50am

re: #42 BuddyG

Dang! What store is that in?

130 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:34:51am

re: #63 USA

Man and beast are next.

Actually, the reason that's not going to happen is not any moral opposition to man-animal marriage, but because the animal is not able to "give consent." So, it'll never happen -- unless someone tries to marry one of those chimps who know sign language.

131 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:35:10am

re: #122 rwmofo

They say that the cowboy in the Village People was a Rump Ranger.

As opposed to all the rest of the Village People how?

132 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:35:37am

re: #121 Cygnus

I snickeed and laughed a long time.

133 WrathofG-d  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:35:44am

re: #130 zombie

Actually, the reason that's not going to happen is not any moral opposition to man-animal marriage, but because the animal is not able to "give consent." So, it'll never happen -- unless someone tries to marry one of those chimps who know sign language.


ok then....brother and sister are next.

134 Russkilitlover  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:35:45am

re: #38 mojo9

BFD! California is like a bowl of granola. after the fruits and nuts, all you have is flakes.

And....
Year-round fabulous weather
Yosemite
Kings Canyon
Mt. Shasta
Redwoods
1,000 miles of awe inspiring beaches
Rolling golden hills
Agriculture to feed the world
Joshua Tree National Park
Mammoth
Tahoe

Yup. Sure sucks here.

135 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:35:50am

re: #129 Macker

Dang! What store is that in?


Don't ask, don't tell

136 Widow'smight  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:36:01am

re: #91 JamesTKirk

I seriously doubt Gays and Lesbians will flock to ? to get married, and I doubt the piece of paper will change their habits. The problem here is that it is framed that marriage is a "Right", and it is not. You give up rights when you get married. Marriage is an obligation.

137 ploome hineni[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:36:23am
138 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:36:30am

Judicial activism simply invalidates the entire idea of a Constitution.

A Constitution is a contract. The founders of this country made the contract explicit after having promoted the enlightenment era idea of a "social contract" - that a government serves by the permission of the governed.

Here we have the Government deciding that the very contract with the Governed can be changed unilaterally by the Government.

That is no longer a contract.

139 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:36:32am

re: #128 WrathofG-d

I'd repeal the ff&C clause

Um, no. That's called "throwing out the baby with the bathwater". We'd cease to be a country, and become a collection of city-states. Easy pickings for the commies and jihadists.

140 The Pulchritudinous Patriot  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:36:41am

re: #59 world b. free

If only James Bond hadn't thwarted Christopher Walken's plans in "View to a Kill" to detonate dynamite all along the San Andreas Fault Line and plunge California into the ocean.

Actually, I blame Superman, and all because his big head stopped working at the thought of Lois Lane.

141 Cygnus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:36:43am

re: #132 MandyManners

I snickeed and laughed a long time.

I had to get away from it for a while because I was at work and uncontrollable laughter was threatening to break out.

142 unreconstructed rebel  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:36:54am

OT, but

Obama Takes Issue With Bush Foreign Policy Speech

A bit touchy there, ain't we, Barry? Well, if the shoe fits ...

143 song_and_dance_man[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:36:58am
144 Sol Roth  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:37:03am

Unless a super majority of homosexual unions adopt and raise children, this can be nothing more that the furtherance of Marxism (nuclear family destruction). Legal instruments already exist that allow homosexuals to transfer property and appoint power of attorney for health care; the biggest arguments for this favoring of a minority population at the expense of ALL our freedoms.

Feh.

145 rawmuse  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:37:06am

re: #136 Widow'smight

I agree. I can remember when gays would not dream of marriage. That was for squares. Too restrictive.

146 Maximu§  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:37:21am

I have a Gay client who is raising a little girl with his partner and from what Ive seen...the child is normal, she is Happy and they are a happy family....so WTF is the problem?

I say....leave people alone, MYOB, let gay couples be married and live their lives in peace.

Gay Marriage hurts no one.

Maximu§
3/11 ACR

147 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:37:46am

REPUBLICAN SENATOR ACCUSED OF DEFECATING IN PUBLIC SEX ROOM!

148 zmdavid  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:37:51am

re: #143 song_and_dance_man

Well, at least they won't be able to procreate.

That's what embryonic stem cell research is for.

149 MigueldowninMexico  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:37:52am

re: #130 zombie

Actually, the reason that's not going to happen is not any moral opposition to man-animal marriage, but because the animal is not able to "give consent." So, it'll never happen -- unless someone tries to marry one of those chimps who know sign language.

That's not an argument. In many different "cultures", even today, women are never asked their consent. Or children.
You're thinking in Western terms.
But other "cultures" can see things in a very different light.

150 Jimmy The Clam  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:38:04am

I thought this was settled back in 2000, but I guess it doesn't matter what 61% of the California voters wanted.

151 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:38:09am

re: #141 Cygnus

I had to get away from it for a while because I was at work and uncontrollable laughter was threatening to break out.

Works gets in the way of a lot of stuff.

152 Cygnus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:38:43am

re: #147 Peacekeeper

REPUBLICAN SENATOR ACCUSED OF DEFECATING IN PUBLIC SEX ROOM!

Linky please!

153 joncelli  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:38:54am

re: #126 JamesTKirk

Full faith and credit. If a gay marriage must be recognized in California, it must be recognized in PA. I would be willing to accept some kind of legal arrangement short of marriage, but accepting gay relationships as marriage diminishes the true purpose of the institution, which is to domesticate men and promote child rearing.

154 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:39:17am

re: #136 Widow'smight

I seriously doubt Gays and Lesbians will flock to ? to get married, and I doubt the piece of paper will change their habits. The problem here is that it is framed that marriage is a "Right", and it is not. You give up rights when you get married. Marriage is an obligation.

Regardless of whether you call it a "right" or an "obligation", neither term explains why it's a disaster if gay people do it.

155 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:39:22am

re: #152 Cygnus

Sorry, I'm channeling the future, 2012 or so...

156 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:39:31am

re: #152 Cygnus

Linky please!

It is funny joke, tovarisch. (And rerun, too... tovarisch PK, must have new material to fight moose & squirrel)

157 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:39:41am

Next up, gay divorce

158 ploome hineni[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:39:51am
159 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:39:52am

re: #153 joncelli

Full faith and credit. If a gay marriage must be recognized in California, it must be recognized in PA. I would be willing to accept some kind of legal arrangement short of marriage, but accepting gay relationships as marriage diminishes the true purpose of the institution, which is to domesticate men and promote child rearing.

WTF?

160 wolfie  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:40:00am

re: #100 Occasional Reader

I am sorta kinda with you... EXCEPT for the glaring judicial activism aspect to the whole thing. Go back and read what lawhawk posted about the Mass. court; "our decision cannot be undone, even by constitutional amendment, so there!" Very disturbing.

BINGO. The really important question, IMO, is how these decisions are made. The Illuminati impose their vision of righteousness on the unwashed masses, regardless of law, procedure, and the Common Law tradition.....all of which they have (ahem!) deconstructed. Not even the College of Cardinals nor the Pope are so dictatorial.
Legal positivism= the law means whatever we say it does.
Vox judicium vox Dei= The voice of judges is the voice of God.
Bow down to your new priests.

161 Cygnus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:40:21am

re: #155 Peacekeeper

Sorry, I'm channeling the future, 2012 or so...

Can you give me some winning lottery numbers then?

162 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:40:28am

re: #144 Sol Roth

Unless a super majority of homosexual unions adopt and raise children, this can be nothing more that the furtherance of Marxism (nuclear family destruction). Legal instruments already exist that allow homosexuals to transfer property and appoint power of attorney for health care; the biggest arguments for this favoring of a minority population at the expense of ALL our freedoms.

Feh.

I fail to see how this affects my marriage or freedom in any way.

163 sventopia  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:40:50am

Wow! So let me get this straight (pun intended): Gay folks should pay the same taxes but shouldn't get all the benefits of government-issued marriages because allowing such would ... umm ... instantly transform us into non-bathing Euro-trash hippies and take The Price Is Right reruns off the air forever?

Would it, perhaps, make you doomsayers feel less arrogant and justifiable in your false sense of superiority? The law doesn't force churches and private orgs to marry the homosexuals... just the government whom they all pay taxes too. It seems like it's just plain fair to me.

Otherwise, we'll need to institute a "homosexual exemption" from all fed, state and local taxes to compensate them for paying into a marriage system that they are banned from participating in.

164 WrathofG-d  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:41:09am

re: #139 Occasional Reader

NOt to get into a long drawn out discussion about the purpose of the Federal government as (although I'd love the discussiON) I don't have the time.

Short answer NO.

The Fed would still authority over Multi State Military issues and certain issues of national security.

Anyway, if you want to know how it would actually work, read the constitition.

165 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:41:21am

re: #162 JamesTKirk

It affects the society in which you live.

166 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:41:25am

re: #153 joncelli

Full faith and credit. If a gay marriage must be recognized in California, it must be recognized in PA. I would be willing to accept some kind of legal arrangement short of marriage, but accepting gay relationships as marriage diminishes the true purpose of the institution, which is to domesticate men and promote child rearing.

My marriage is undiminished.

167 Iron Fist  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:41:56am

re: #139 Occasional Reader,

FF&C has never applied to concealed carry permits. Why should it apply to Gay Marriage? States that don't recognize gay marriage don't recognize gay marriage.

Seems pretty simple to me.

168 MigueldowninMexico  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:42:03am

This is a completely gramscian move.
Funny to see how many lizards don't get it.

Another step in "deconstructing" our Western civilization.

169 sngnsgt  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:42:11am

If John Doe & Jack Doe get married in CA, is it recognized by other states as a legal marriage?

170 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:42:28am

re: #91 JamesTKirk

Exactly. Doesn't change my marriage in any way, shape, or form.

Besides, marriage is much healthier than random sex in bathhouses with thousands of strangers. And I'd rather see people at gay pride marches flashes their wedding rings than ... well, what they're flashing now.

EXACTLY.

Actually, the truth is this: there will be a big flurry of about 5,000 gay couples getting married at first, with much media coveragde and fanfare...and then gay marriages will slow to a tiny trickle or only a few every month.

I know a LOT of gay people. (In fact, probably the majority of people I know are gay.) And I can't think of a single one that would have the slightest interest in getting married.

The whole thing is just one of those "prove a point" issues. Like flag-burning. Across America every day, how many people burn an American flag every week? One? Two? Totally unimportant. And yet it became a huge "free speech" issue. Same applies to gay marriage. A few will get married, and no one will really notice or care.

And the world keeps turning.

171 WrathofG-d  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:42:30am

re: #142 unreconstructed rebel

Its like when a politician states that he is against Terrorism, indoctrination, imperialism, and the murder of civilians....

and CAIR screams Islamophobia.

172 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:42:31am

re: #163 sventopia

to compensate them for paying into a marriage system

Gay people helped pay for my marriage? Then where the hell is my rebate?

173 Shug  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:43:10am

re: #140 The Pulchritudinous Patriot

Actually, I blame Superman, and all because his big head stopped working at the thought of Lois Lane.


My Little head stops working at the thought of Margot Kidder

174 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:43:12am

re: #162 JamesTKirk

I fail to see how this affects my marriage or freedom in any way.

The only thing affecting my freedom here is the court disenfranchising my vote on a ballot initiative.

175 cblesz  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:43:16am

re: #119 WrathofG-d

I live in the Los Angeles area. (born and raised)

There are those of us that would disagree with the uber Leftistness of California, but that is the State we live in.

No offense meant.


I know...was just kidding. Actually, I was born and raised in the other leftist joke = Mass. Moved to Los Angeles, met my wife and am raising my family here. I agree, CA is a joke, but not ALL of it.

176 zmdavid  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:43:32am

re: #163 sventopia

1. It's not a law, it's a court decision.
2. How do you know it doesn't force Churches to marry gay couples?

177 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:43:43am

re: #165 BuddyG

It affects the society in which you live.

The society in which I live already includes many same-sex couples known to me personally who are living in long-term relationships, raising children, and so forth without leading to a crisis of biblical proportions. Then again, I have also seen cats and dogs living together...

178 marge45b  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:43:48am

I can see it now the Catholic Church will be sued for discrimination when it refuses to perform "Same-Sex" Church Weddings.

179 MigueldowninMexico  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:44:00am

Got to go have lunch.
Laters, lizards :)

180 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:44:05am

re: #164 WrathofG-d

Anyway, if you want to know how it would actually work, read the constitition

I've read the Constitution, thank you very much. The one that has that, you know, full faith & credit clause (Article IV, Section 1). Which the framers of the Constitution included, for damn good reasons.

181 Iron Fist  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:44:12am

re: #150 Jimmy The Clam,

Democracy is much to important to be trusted to the voters.

182 redheadredstate  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:44:17am

# 166

The fact is that a majority of the California electorate voted that this not go forward and this decision negates that. If for no other reason (and I have many others) this shouldn't stand.

183 NoSubmission  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:44:31am

re: #136 Widow'smight

I seriously doubt Gays and Lesbians will flock to ? to get married, and I doubt the piece of paper will change their habits. The problem here is that it is framed that marriage is a "Right", and it is not. You give up rights when you get married. Marriage is an obligation.


Not all gay people are promiscuous. I know many who are surprisngly rather conservative Republicans and in long term monogamous relationships.

184 Macker  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:44:31am

What gay marriage hath wrought, the IRS will still not recognize said couples as married. Link

185 song_and_dance_man[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:45:08am
186 CyanSnowHawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:45:12am

re: #35 Occasional Reader

The Court could rule that a proposed amendment to the Constitution is unconstitutional?!

If I am looking at this correctly, the initiative in the pipeline now (1.1 million signatures submitted, subject to verification, requires about 695,000), Proposition 22, will be an amendment to the CA State Constitution that will define marriage as a union of one Man and one Woman. That could not be ruled unconstitutional at the State level, and I am pretty certain that the US Constitution is mum on the issue of marriage.

187 rawmuse  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:45:18am

Supreme Court, here we come.

188 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:45:20am

re: #51 Nevergiveup

You hit the nail on the head.

Legal precedent like this will lead to outright mandating of socialistic onslaught.

Seriously, how could an argument stand on merit, or for that matter, a moral argument, that would prevent polygamists, or people involved in other social structures from petitioning for recognition as well?

Could you imagine the retort being that is does not follow norms?

Take away any religious or moral component to the argument. Imagine the windfall that will follow this domino. Public benefits, state insurance regulators, the list is endless.

Moreover, when put to the vote of the people, the court has decided to step and become the legislative branch it was never elected to be.

189 cblesz  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:45:20am

re: #182 redheadredstate

# 166

The fact is that a majority of the California electorate voted that this not go forward and this decision negates that. If for no other reason (and I have many others) this shouldn't stand.

Exactly...the MAJORITY of Californians are not nutso...

OK...a large amount are...but the majority are still sane.

190 Ceemack  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:45:26am

re: #84 WrathofG-d
Gee, it's fun listening to people who've clearly never lived here talking about what us silly Californians are like.

In case you haven't been reading carefully, we the voters have passed several ballot measures--like no social services to illegal aliens, no racial preferences, and no marriage except between one man and one woman--that most people in the other 56 states would call "conservative".

Unfortunately, we've got an activist Supreme Court that sees fit to overturn the will of the people, seemingly at a whim.

I'm unsettled by the idea of men marrying men and women marrying women. It's like brother marrying sister...it's just wrong.

But I'm even more unsettled to see that my vote apparently doesn't county.

I've lived here all my life, but it may be time to take another look at moving out of state.

Perhaps the constitutional amendment will make it to the November ballot and then carry another majority.

191 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:45:29am

re: #163 sventopia

Would it, perhaps, make you doomsayers feel less arrogant and justifiable in your false sense of superiority?

Ah, honest debate! So refreshing.

/

192 The Pulchritudinous Patriot  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:45:43am

re: #153 joncelli

the true purpose of the institution, which is to domesticate men

....


lol!

193 Shug  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:45:46am

re: #183 NoSubmission

Not all gay people are promiscuous. I know many who are surprisngly rather conservative Republicans and in long term monogamous relationships.

and none of them are named Larry Craig

194 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:45:50am

re: #174 Sharmuta

The only thing affecting my freedom here is the court disenfranchising my vote on a ballot initiative.

I agree with the "judicial activism" issue; it's the people in hysterics over gay marriage that dismay me.

195 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:46:00am

re: #176 zmdavid

1. It's not a law, it's a court decision.
2. How do you know it doesn't force Churches to marry gay couples?

Ummmmm...it IS a law. Case law carries the same weight as statutory law.

196 incanus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:46:28am

re: #176 zmdavid

1. It's not a law, it's a court decision.
2. How do you know it doesn't force Churches to marry gay couples?

Or that it won't? I'm sure churches would never be accused of intolerance and hauled before a Thought Crimes court because they opted to not marry a gay couple.

197 MigueldowninMexico  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:46:49am

re: #182 redheadredstate

# 166

The fact is that a majority of the California electorate voted that this not go forward and this decision negates that. If for no other reason (and I have many others) this shouldn't stand.

It's already happening in Europe.
The Gramsci Nazis at work.

*POOF*

198 jemima  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:46:52am

I used to live in a town where a guy would break into a barn to rape a little girl's pony.

I guess it's okay if he really really wanted to do it. Who are we to judge etc.

199 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:46:53am

( Los Angeles) A young married couple from San Francisco were shocked and dismayed entering the LAX rest area. TV 5's NewsNow team interviewed the victims:
"Well, Brian and I were just getting heated up, we wanted a quickie before boarding the New York flight when suddenly there was this sound from the next stall, and he asked asked me 'Mike do you smell something?'
OMG! It smelled horrible! "What's happening?" I screamed and Brian just held his breath and ran for the door. It was terrible.
We don't have anything against heteros but they need to be considerate and take care of things like that at home, before coming out into an airport.

200 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:46:54am

re: #186 CyanSnowHawk

I was referring to lawhawk's note upthread of the position taken by the Mass. court (not this one), that their decision was immune to constitutional amendment. Shocking judicial arrogance, and flatly undemocratic.

201 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:46:59am
#110 karmic_inquisitor

re: #78 zombie

For some reason, even though I live at the epicenter of the gay
marriage movement, this issue leaves me completely unmoved, one way or
the other. To me, it's an unimportant side-issue affecting very few
people that has been blown way out of proportion by both sides, on
purpose.

If forced to take a stand, I'd have to come donw on
the laissez-faire side of things: Marry whoever (or whatever) you want
to marry. What's it got to do with me?

While I agree with you on the issue itself (I am basically libertarian), what about the state constitution itself?

The court just said that it can declare any ammendment to the state constitution as unconstitutional.

That translates into "the constitution is whatever we want it to be."

I have a HUGE problem with that.

Oh, I agree. The judicial activism is distasteful. But the underlying topic (gay marriage) just makes me shrug.

I have a feeling a lot of pundits and so forth expressing outrage over this are simply using the judicial-activism aspect to mask their true feelings (i.e. revulsion at the thought of gay marriage).

202 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:47:01am

re: #142 unreconstructed rebel

OT, but

Obama Takes Issue With Bush Foreign Policy Speech

A bit touchy there, ain't we, Barry? Well, if the shoe fits ...

Obama's reaction deserves attack and ridicule.

1) Obama was not mentioned ONCE in Bush's remarks.

2) The context of the remarks was a speech to a foreign legislative body outlining why the US will support Israel should she take military action against terror states - again, nothing to do with Obama

3) The fact that Obama is touchy about it shows -

a) very poor foreign policy judgment - should Obama's policies be undermined in such a way if he should ever make a speech to a foreign legislature?

b) an incapacity to unite the country - what exactly was controversial about what Bush said? Is Obama going to unite the country with such a line of attack?

4) "Methinks he doth protest too much" sums up Obama's objections when it comes to the appeasement crtiticisim.

Obama should be getting hit with both barells today - but he isn't. Blind media.

203 The Pulchritudinous Patriot  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:47:11am

re: #159 MandyManners

WTF?


Single men are like bears with furniture.

204 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:47:22am

re: #176 zmdavid

1. It's not a law, it's a court decision.
2. How do you know it doesn't force Churches to marry gay couples?

For the same reason churches already can't be forced to perform marriages. I defy you to tell a Catholic priest, Jewish rabbi, or muslim imam to marry you if neither you nor your spouse are members of that religion or subscribe to any of its tenets.

205 rawmuse  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:48:15am

There are already gay churches and gay weddings in SF, and have been for decades. This is more about spouse's rights, such as being able to get on your spouse's health insurance, visiting them in the hospital, etc.

206 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:48:16am

re: #163 sventopia

Wow! So let me get this straight (pun intended): Gay folks should pay the same taxes but shouldn't get all the benefits of government-issued marriages because allowing such would ... umm ... instantly transform us into non-bathing Euro-trash hippies and take The Price Is Right reruns off the air forever?

Would it, perhaps, make you doomsayers feel less arrogant and justifiable in your false sense of superiority? The law doesn't force churches and private orgs to marry the homosexuals... just the government whom they all pay taxes too. It seems like it's just plain fair to me.

Otherwise, we'll need to institute a "homosexual exemption" from all fed, state and local taxes to compensate them for paying into a marriage system that they are banned from participating in.

That's next.

207 LeftJustAintRight  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:48:31am

The FUN will start when the divorces start
LOL
Now the courts will decide who is the man when alimony payments are requested by both partners
LOL
I just have one thing to say to all the gay people
Careful what you wish / Cause you may just get it
LOL

208 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:48:49am

re: #177 JamesTKirk

The society in which I live already includes many same-sex couples known to me personally who are living in long-term relationships, raising children, and so forth without leading to a crisis of biblical proportions. Then again, I have also seen cats and dogs living together...

Why do same sex couples need to be legally married?

209 Shug  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:48:57am

re: #190 Ceemack

I agree that your vote should count but if the voters approved a ballot initiative that banned surgery on the elderly or something else that violated the constitution, then that would be overturned ( rightly )
So on that account, I can see where a court can overturn the will of the voter and that is a good thing.

That's why amending the State constitution is really the only way any more to make any decision fool proof

Until the 9th circuit court overturns that state court and the state amendment for violation of the US constitution.......

I'm getting a migraine

210 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:49:06am

re: #203 The Pulchritudinous Patriot

Single men are like bears with furniture.

Ha!

(of course you mean "bears" not in the Andy Sullivan sense... but that brings us back to the thread topic)

211 bulwrk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:49:08am

I'm sure the happiest people of all are the divorce lawyers.

212 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:49:23am

re: #203 The Pulchritudinous Patriot

Single men are like bears with furniture.

So are some single women.

213 joncelli  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:49:33am

re: #159 MandyManners

Yeah, that kind of sounds weird. Let me fall back and explain. I don't want the state in the marriage business; I want all marriages to be private contracts. Gays could get married, polygamous marriages would be okay, etc. In general, it's none of my business what consenting adults do, and more power to them if they want to sanctify their union with a contract or a religious observance.

BUT (and you saw that coming) what I meant with the "domesticate men" statement was that the institution of marriage ties men legally and culturally to the home, to protecting women, and to raising and protecting children. Men are naturally anarchic; marriage is society's way of directing their wild energy to positive ends. The state has an interest in that. When marriage wanes, men direct their energies into negative pursuits. Gay marriage is a means of gaining the legal benefits of marriage without satisfying all of its cultural outcomes; it may or may not domesticate men, but it most certainly doesn't protect women and promote child rearing. And I probably just finished digging myself a deep, deep hole, so I'll just pretend to work now.

214 Widow'smight  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:49:50am

re: #154 JamesTKirk

I didn't say it was a disaster, I said it wasn't a right, nor is it even mentioned in our Constitution. And, according to our Constitution, it should be left up to the LEGISLATURE of each State.

My problem is that some of the same people pushing so hard for Gay Marriage are also pushing for lowering the Age of consent to 10 or 12. In that case, the child would no longer be protected from gay/straight predators, but would have to face defense lawyers and such. Unless they were kids in my family, the SOB would have a private Pre-trial hearing, then an opportunity to check out the nearest healthcare facility.

I'm sure most Gay folks don't think that way, but lacking is the reporting on the supporters of this movement, and their real intent.

215 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:49:52am

re: #205 rawmuse

There are already gay churches and gay weddings in SF, and have been for decades. This is more about spouse's rights, such as being able to get on your spouse's health insurance, visiting them in the hospital, etc.

Those are already legal.

216 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:50:03am

re: #154 JamesTKirk

Exactly how are gays going to ruin the institution of marriage. Haven't heteros already done that?

217 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:50:05am

re: #208 BuddyG

Why do same sex couples need to be legally married?

Why shouldn't they? And if they want to, why are you telling them they can't?

218 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:50:35am

re: #194 JamesTKirk

I agree with the "judicial activism" issue; it's the people in hysterics over gay marriage that dismay me.

I hold to the view we're all equal in the eyes of the Law.

219 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:50:43am

re: #211 bulwrk

I'm sure the happiest people of all are the divorce lawyers.

And, china shops!

220 wolfie  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:50:44am

re: #162 JamesTKirk

I fail to see how this affects my marriage or freedom in any way.

A handful of sanctimonious judges imposing their views on you without regard for law, procedure, democracy, or political custom affects your freedom. You may like or dislike or be neutral about the substance of their decision, but you'd better worry about the way they made it.

221 rawmuse  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:50:46am

re: #203 The Pulchritudinous Patriot

Single men are like bears with furniture.

Some men, yes. I know some guys where you would have to go in to their living rooms with a fire hose in order to find the front door. Intelligent life forms develop in their refrigerators and are now petitioning congress for their own district. It can be bad.

222 lawhawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:50:56am

re: #86 Occasional Reader

The Mass court had given the legislature 180 days to come up with a definition allowing gays to wed, and that only full, equal marriage rights would be constitutional.

They basically threatened to overturn anything that didn't meet their definition.

223 incanus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:50:58am

re: #201 zombie

Oh, I agree. The judicial activism is distasteful. But the underlying topic (gay marriage) just makes me shrug.

I have a feeling a lot of pundits and so forth expressing outrage over this are simply using the judicial-activism aspect to mask their true feelings (i.e. revulsion at the thought of gay marriage).

Come now, you're better than that. "[group] is opposing this not because of the points they have raised but because they are [racist]" (where "racist" means "in opposition to some identity group"). This is a fallacious argument.

224 Athos  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:51:03am

re: #187 rawmuse

Supreme Court, here we come.

Not from this case. Only recourse is the likely constitutional amendment proposition expected on the November ballot. If that passes, it trumps the creative interpretation of the CA Supreme Court for a “fundamental constitutional right to form a family relationship.”

225 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:51:07am

All you screamers who can't stand the idea that gay sex is happening ought to support gay marriage.

After all, nothing kills sex faster than getting married, right?

226 song_and_dance_man[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:51:16am
227 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:51:35am

BIG GAY IS RIPPING US OFF!

228 incanus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:51:43am

re: #204 JamesTKirk

For the same reason churches already can't be forced to perform marriages. I defy you to tell a Catholic priest, Jewish rabbi, or muslim imam to marry you if neither you nor your spouse are members of that religion or subscribe to any of its tenets.

Wait a few years.

229 unreconstructed rebel  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:51:50am

re: #137 ploome hineni

re: #202 karmic_inquisitor

What's worse, Pelosi & Biden have jumped in too.

230 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:52:17am

re: #220 wolfie

A handful of sanctimonious judges imposing their views on you without regard for law, procedure, democracy, or political custom affects your freedom. You may like or dislike or be neutral about the substance of their decision, but you'd better worry about the way they made it.

They're not imposing their views on me. They're imposing their views on the less than 1% of the population who are (a) gay and (b) want to get married.

I'm already married. This changes nothing for me.

231 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:52:23am

re: #219 MandyManners

re: #211 bulwrk

I'm sure the happiest people of all are the divorce lawyers.

And, china shops!

LMAO!

232 rawmuse  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:52:25am

re: #225 JamesTKirk

Just the Good Sex. But, sometimes the old sneakers feel pretty good.

233 antishock8  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:52:29am

Cool. I don't see why anyone would discriminate against homosexual Americans. There's no rational basis. It's all religious. Long live democracy and equality.

234 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:52:31am

re: #213 joncelli

Yeah, that kind of sounds weird. Let me fall back and explain. I don't want the state in the marriage business; I want all marriages to be private contracts. Gays could get married, polygamous marriages would be okay, etc. In general, it's none of my business what consenting adults do, and more power to them if they want to sanctify their union with a contract or a religious observance.

BUT (and you saw that coming) what I meant with the "domesticate men" statement was that the institution of marriage ties men legally and culturally to the home, to protecting women, and to raising and protecting children. Men are naturally anarchic; marriage is society's way of directing their wild energy to positive ends. The state has an interest in that. When marriage wanes, men direct their energies into negative pursuits. Gay marriage is a means of gaining the legal benefits of marriage without satisfying all of its cultural outcomes; it may or may not domesticate men, but it most certainly doesn't protect women and promote child rearing. And I probably just finished digging myself a deep, deep hole, so I'll just pretend to work now.

It does the same to women.

Oh, and I don't need a man to protect me. I've a Desert Eagle and a good aim.

235 Shug  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:52:37am

re: #224 Athos

Not from this case. Only recourse is the likely constitutional amendment proposition expected on the November ballot. If that passes, it trumps the creative interpretation of the CA Supreme Court for a “fundamental constitutional right to form a family relationship.”


then somebody will sue them in federal court.

Can the federal court then ban the state constitutional amendment for violation of some federal protection?

236 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:53:12am

re: #226 song_and_dance_man

Exactly. Churches are free to ignore gay marriages but at the same time they can't force the state to ignore them too.

237 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:53:14am

re: #114 Occasional Reader

I don't really think the Folsom Street crowd were just waiting all along for a legal justification to settle down into stable, monogamous marriages, and join the PTA. But that's just me.

Exactly. Truth be told -- and believe me, I'm no fire-and-brimstone conservative, but a San Francisco laissez-faire liberal -- but my personal observations of people's lifestyles pretty much confirms the stereotypes, that gay men are fairly promiscuous (at least around these parts), and marriage is about the last thing on their minds. Casual multiple sexual partners seems pretty much standard behavior.

Which, actually, is also perfectly fine by me. Again: i am opposed to nanny-state-ism telling people what to do in their personal lives. I guess you'd call that a libertarian streak. Want to make love to a park bench and then stage a wedding ceremony with it, presided over by a taxidermed aardvark? Be my guest.

238 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:53:15am

re: #217 JamesTKirk

Why shouldn't they? And if they want to, why are you telling them they can't?

Because (as someone mentioned earlier on this thead) it's another attack on the nuclear family. It erodes tradition. And if same-sex couples are permitted to legally marry, then where do you draw the line?

239 LeftJustAintRight  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:53:18am

re: #225 JamesTKirk

After all, nothing kills sex faster than getting married, right?


Reminds me of a joke
The only cure for a nymphomaniac is wedding cake

240 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:53:27am

re: #214 Widow'smight

I didn't say it was a disaster, I said it wasn't a right, nor is it even mentioned in our Constitution. And, according to our Constitution, it should be left up to the LEGISLATURE of each State.

My problem is that some of the same people pushing so hard for Gay Marriage are also pushing for lowering the Age of consent to 10 or 12. In that case, the child would no longer be protected from gay/straight predators, but would have to face defense lawyers and such. Unless they were kids in my family, the SOB would have a private Pre-trial hearing, then an opportunity to check out the nearest healthcare facility.

I'm sure most Gay folks don't think that way, but lacking is the reporting on the supporters of this movement, and their real intent.

Homosexuality is NOT THE SAME AS PEDOPHILIA.

241 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:53:47am

re: #225 JamesTKirk

All you screamers who can't stand the idea that gay sex is happening

I think you're being a little... "reductivist", I believe is the word, in your characterization of those who disagree with you.

(Me, on the substantive question, I have mixed feelings, but generally support the idea that gays should be able to have what I'll still call "civil unions" (since I think the M-word just confuses the whole issue, really); at the same time, I am troubled by possible long-term cultural effects.)

242 incanus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:53:47am

re: #235 Shug

then somebody will sue them in federal court.

Can the federal court then ban the state constitutional amendment for violation of some federal protection?

Of course; the Federal Government is all powerful and trumps all. At least they're there to take care of us and guide us along the path to true enlightenment.

243 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:53:49am

re: #165 BuddyG

It affects the society in which you live.

How does gay marriage effect the society you and I live in?

244 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:53:53am

re: #226 song_and_dance_man

Gays can get married in the eyes of the State, but they will never be married in the eyes of God.

You're free to hold that belief, but the state's not in the business of determining God's intent in any case. Besides, it's "til death do we part" for all of us... None of us will be married on Judgement Day when we meet the Dude.

245 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:54:06am

re: #117 JamesTKirk

re: #101 BuddyG
"random sex in bathhouses with thousands of strangers"

Do you really think that would stop if gays could be legally married?

No, any more than every single straight person is monogamous due to the availability of straight marriage.

Excellent answer, and undoubtedly true ...

}:)     [But prepare to duck ... ]

246 Widow'smight  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:54:22am

re: #183 NoSubmission

Never said they were! I just don't think that you'll have that many Gay couples willing to give up their rights just to prove a point.

247 sngnsgt  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:54:50am

re: #239 LeftJustAintRight

Reminds me of a joke
The only cure for a nymphomaniac is wedding cake

LOL!

248 snowcrash  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:54:51am

I have no problems with homosexuality or homosexuals in a committed relationships. I only fear that legalizing gay marriage will encourage the normalizing of alternate lifestyle teaching in the early elementary school setting. I would not want my daughter coming home from the 2nd grade with a book called "King and King", a homosexual love story book for kids. This happened in Lexington MA in 2006, I think. I regret that gay marriage cannot be kept separate from a political agenda.

249 The Pulchritudinous Patriot  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:54:55am

re: #221 rawmuse

Some men, yes. I know some guys where you would have to go in to their living rooms with a fire hose in order to find the front door. Intelligent life forms develop in their refrigerators and are now petitioning congress for their own district. It can be bad.

My ex-husband had an incredible collection of empty Pert shampoo bottles under his bathroom vanity and along the edge of his bathtub before I married him.

I can't even begin to describe the sheer hugeness of his emply toilet paper roll collection, I still tremble when I think of it.

250 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:55:12am

re: #238 BuddyG

Because (as someone mentioned earlier on this thead) it's another attack on the nuclear family. It erodes tradition.

So, you were fine with the tradition of white people and black people being prohibited from marrying?

251 CyanSnowHawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:55:27am

re: #89 stead63

thats just around the corner I fully agree. What about a man and a horse? I mean the gate's standing wide open

Um, why is one of the first arguments against gay marriage almost always bestiality? That seems to me to be a rather big leap.

252 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:55:46am

re: #240 MandyManners

Homosexuality is NOT THE SAME AS PEDOPHILIA.

Consenting human adults. Big difference.

253 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:55:46am

re: #120 MandyManners

Homosexuals don't do that?

No, they do it too -- it's just that the masturbate-a-thon organizers are mostly straights.

Actually, what they are are media whores, who will do anything to get attention. The sexual counterparts of Code Pink. Personally I wish no one would give any attention their stupid stunts, because they're just attention vampires and they're feeding off your gawking and shock.

They are boring old creeps.

254 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:55:47am

re: #237 zombie

Want to make love to a park bench

Ah, no, you lost me on that point right there. That's public behavior, and the state has a legitimate interest.

255 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:55:54am

re: #248 snowcrash

I regret that gay marriage cannot be kept separate from a political agenda.

But how else can the democrats pander to homosexuals?!

256 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:56:16am

re: #235 Shug

then somebody will sue them in federal court.

Can the federal court then ban the state constitutional amendment for violation of some federal protection?

I'm dizzy.

257 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:56:31am

re: #243 unrealizedviewpoint

How does gay marriage effect the society you and I live in?

More musicals, apparently. Hey, I liked "Chicago", so bring 'em on!

258 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:56:42am

Want to make love to a park bench and then stage a wedding ceremony with it, presided over by a taxidermed aardvark? Be my guest.


What if I want to walk down the street without my toddler seeing two leather clad freaks caulking socks? Do I have a right?

259 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:56:43am

re: #250 JamesTKirk


I'm fine with a man & a woman having children and creating a family.

260 WrathofG-d  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:56:56am

re: #190 Ceemack

I live in CA but was unaware that we have passed any ballots against Same-Sex marriage.

One would be surprised to find that we have a Conservative state when we continue to vote in the same leftist idiots.

261 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:57:19am

re: #236 Killgore Trout

Exactly. Churches are free to ignore gay marriages but at the same time they can't force the state to ignore them too.

What about the photographer who's in hot water for refusing to photograph a homosexual wedding?

262 sventopia  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:57:49am

re: #172 Occasional Reader

Gay people helped pay for my marriage? Then where the hell is my rebate?

re: #176 zmdavid


2. How do you know it doesn't force Churches to marry gay couples?

Separation of church and state. Besides, gay marriage is old news in Massachusetts, a state even bluer than Cali, and churches can still marry (and not marry) whomever they want there. Example: the Roman Catholics don't believe in inter-faith marriages, but inter-faith marriages are recognized by the govt. So, does that force the RC church to marriage a Catholic and a Hindu? Absolutely not. Same concept applies here.

263 incanus  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:57:56am

re: #258 Peacekeeper

Want to make love to a park bench and then stage a wedding ceremony with it, presided over by a taxidermed aardvark? Be my guest.


What if I want to walk down the street without my toddler seeing two leather clad freaks caulking socks? Do I have a right?

No, you're a Luddite. Report to Cattle Car #343 at &30 am next Tuesday. no need to pack.

264 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:58:03am

And for Pete's sake- the men here whining about marriage...

Did she hold a gun to your head literally? Glad I'm not your wife, guys.

265 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:58:10am
266 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:58:15am

re: #258 Peacekeeper

Want to make love to a park bench and then stage a wedding ceremony with it, presided over by a taxidermed aardvark? Be my guest.


What if I want to walk down the street without my toddler seeing two leather clad freaks caulking socks? Do I have a right?

Public sex is illegal regardless of the genders and orientations involved.

267 Shug  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:58:42am

re: #266 JamesTKirk

Public sex is illegal regardless of the genders and orientations involved.

and whether or not the couple is married

268 song_and_dance_man[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:58:52am
269 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:59:05am

re: #259 BuddyG

I'm fine with a man & a woman having children and creating a family.

I know personally gay parents who are a hell of lot better at it than Britney and K-Fed.

270 Kragar (Proud to be Kafir)  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:59:18am

re: #84 WrathofG-d

What is the big deal exactly? The people of California are extreme leftists who would support the privilege of Homosexuals to "marry" eachother, and the Government passed a bill saying such.

This is a State's rights issue, and has been decided upon by this State.

This IS California we are talking about.

The point is that the "extreme leftists" of California, of whom I am one of apparently, voted by a large margin to ban such marriages by a constitutional ammendment. This amendment was just overturned by the courts. Note that homosexual marriage is still illegal, it just can't be banned at this point.

271 Widow'smight  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:59:19am

re: #240 MandyManners


I think you read that post wrong. Some of the folks behind this movement are trying to lower the age of consent, I said some, not all.

272 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:59:31am

re: #265 buzzsawmonkey


Where do you draw the line?

273 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 11:59:51am

re: #147 Peacekeeper

REPUBLICAN SENATOR ACCUSED OF DEFECATING IN PUBLIC SEX ROOM!

Hilarious!

274 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:00:14pm

re: #268 song_and_dance_man

I guess the Founding Fathers had it all wrong.

Only if you're saying that gays aren't allowed the same life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness that the rest of us have.

275 LeftJustAintRight  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:00:27pm

This thread will be as good as the ID threads
LOL

276 Sol Roth  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:00:43pm

re: #162 JamesTKirk

I fail to see how this affects my marriage or freedom in any way.

IMHO, the re-definition of marriage to include non-reproducing homosexuals dilutes its original intent; to provide a stable, monogamous mating of a heterosexual pair for the production of offspring that have the maximum fitness to survive and pass on that fitness to the next generation.

Unless this is the intent of homosexual marriage proponents, and what I have read it is not, then you have a dilution of a practice that has served to stabilize societies for thousands of years. It may indeed be a slippery slope to weaken and ultimately destroy the nuclear family which, if we take the out-of-wedlock black birthrate as an example, wholly unhealthy to society. Destruction of the nuclear family is a stated goal of Marxism. You can read their propaganda here: [Link: www.fifthinternational.org...] This is where I see threats to my marriage and freedom.

277 zmdavid  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:01:01pm

re: #262 sventopia

If the law means whatever some judge says, there are no gaurantees of anything.

Minor quibble - The Roman Catholic Church recognizes interfaith marriage if they agree that any children will be raised Catholic.

278 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:01:03pm

re: #261 MandyManners


What about the photographer who's in hot water for refusing to photograph a homosexual wedding?


That's a tricky issue. It gets complicated; Imagine if the photographer refused service to blacks? Or a muslim photographer refusing service to Jews? What if it was a gay photographer refusing to service heteros?

279 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:01:09pm

re: #269 JamesTKirk


Gay people are fine. Gay marriage is not fine.

280 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:01:24pm

re: #257 JamesTKirk

More musicals, apparently. Hey, I liked "Chicago", so bring 'em on!

281 Athos  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:01:30pm

re: #201 zombie

My issue is with the use of the term 'marriage' in addition to the process. I can't find in the CA Constitution a “fundamental constitutional right to form a family relationship” that was denied by the inability to get a marriage license / certificate.

I'm fine with domestic partnerships legally entered and legally binding. That includes the need to legally dissolve failed partnerships and making economic restitutions if warranted.

I'm also fine with states via the legislature / voters deciding to extend benefits and stature previously denied to same-sex couples if they are legally entered and legally binding. This ultimately is a states rights issue and should not extend to the other states under the full faith clause.

However, to me, I do not see sexual preference as a foundation for a right or the need to redefine marriage to include this type of union. Just as some express bewilderment over the opposition to gay marriage, I in turn express bewilderment over the pressure for its acceptance if not to achieve a political goal - particularly since CA has a very strong domestic partnership law that few conservatives have an issue with.

282 LeftJustAintRight  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:01:38pm

I bet Charles has the Ban Stick ready

283 Shug  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:01:46pm

So are heterosexual couples that don't want any or can't have any children still allowed to marry?

284 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:02:00pm

re: #265 buzzsawmonkey

It is absurd to contend that homosexual couples do not have property which needs safeguarding

That's actually my hidden agenda; my gay neighbors have really nice stuff. Why can't I just take it?

285 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:02:05pm

re: #276 Sol Roth

IMHO, the re-definition of marriage to include non-reproducing homosexuals dilutes its original intent; to provide a stable, monogamous mating of a heterosexual pair for the production of offspring that have the maximum fitness to survive and pass on that fitness to the next generation.

I know many married couples who have no children, nor plan to have any. Are you going to rule their marriages invalid? Is childbearing to be a legal requirement for married couples?

286 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:02:15pm

re: #264 Sharmuta

And for Pete's sake- the men here whining about marriage...

Did she hold a gun to your head literally? Glad I'm not your wife, guys.

Dinged ya' up!

287 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:02:19pm

re: #136 Widow'smight

re: #91 JamesTKirk

I seriously doubt Gays and Lesbians will flock to ? to get married, and I doubt the piece of paper will change their habits. The problem here is that it is framed that marriage is a "Right", and it is not. You give up rights when you get married. Marriage is an obligation.

Ooo, ooo, soooo close ... I think you almost had the right word* there.  I know at times my marriage seemed kinda like an obligation, or perhaps a greatly-inflated karmic payback for something I did very wrong in a past life.  Oh, sorry, I live in California, we speak that way ... heh ...

* Other, better words, might include: choice, option, duty, entitlement, lifestyle, priviledge, booby-trap, mire, time-bomb, fantasy, etc.

}:)     [Hmm ... marriage as obligation ... hmm ... to who?]

288 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:02:45pm

re: #277 zmdavid

If the law means whatever some judge says, there are no gaurantees of anything.

Minor quibble - The Roman Catholic Church recognizes interfaith marriage if they agree that any children will be raised Catholic.

IOW, churches are free, and continue to be free, to set their own standards for marriage recognition.

289 unreconstructed rebel  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:02:58pm

re: #282 LeftJustAintRight

Does this constitute entrapment? After all, Charles brought the subject up. :)

290 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:03:01pm

re: #201 zombie

I have a feeling a lot of pundits and so forth expressing outrage over
this are simply using the judicial-activism aspect to mask their true
feelings (i.e. revulsion at the thought of gay marriage).

While that is probably true in many cases, I see those people as having a right to object to gay marriage in the first place.

Marriage is a contract, and states have the right (and obligation) to make clear what kinds of contracts are legal and which one's aren't.

At issue (from a state's interests stand point) in Gay marriage are the rights that one gets when part of a marriage contract - taxation treatment, estate and property issues, custodial issues over children, medical issues and whatnot. Within that, there are real issues to be addressed that the state has a keen interest in.

I could not care one bit about who is sleeping with whom and how long they want to maintain that relationship. But we have a body of law going back sometime that has made assumptions about what a marriage consists of and we ought to be deliberate in weeding through the implications of a full recognition of marriage to same sex couples.

Were it my issue to deal with, I would remove the word "marriage" from law and use another term. The institution of "marriage" was first given "force" by religious authorities long before states started regulating it (with blood tests, marriage licenses and whatnot). Then it would be up to religions to declare people "married" and it would be up to society to "recognize" a marriage, whereas the legal institution would simply be a state designation recognizing a type of contract that gives the parties to the contract certain rights.

As it sits now in Claifornia by this ruling, all of the aspects of marriage as a social institution have been confered on same sex couples as a civil right. So anyone denying that civil right for social recognition and acceptance (not just legal) can find themselves hauled into either a civil or criminal court for having violated those people's civil rights.

It will be interesting to see which church is sued first for not conducting a full marriage ceremony for a same sex couple that demands such as a civil right.

291 The Pulchritudinous Patriot  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:03:01pm

re: #244 JamesTKirk

You're free to hold that belief, but the state's not in the business of determining God's intent in any case. Besides, it's "til death do we part" for all of us... None of us will be married on Judgement Day when we meet the Dude.

Righto....this is why there is and should be the seperation of Church and State in the Constitution.

I don't care if there are civil unions between same sex couples if that is what each state decides. If a particular religious denomination decides to not marry same sex couples in the church, then fine.

If, however there were ever any legislation forcing a religious body or bodies to conduct marriage ceremonies, then I'd have a problem simply because the State was imposing it power on the Church and that would be unconstitutional.

292 Creeping Eruption  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:03:03pm

I wonder who here has had the time to read and digest the 172 page decision? Not me. I will reserve judgment until then. It sucks seeing normally erudite Lizards spouting off sound bites. I'll sit back now, take my down-dings, and wait for a new thread.

293 opnion  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:03:10pm

re: #18 Honorary Yooper

Since when did the courts get to make the law? I thought that Californians had made their choice known by a referendum?


The courts can always find a constitutional right even where it does not exist.
Look at Roe V Wade. They took it away from the states & the theory was silly.

294 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:03:32pm

re: #278 Killgore Trout

That's a tricky issue. It gets complicated; Imagine if the photographer refused service to blacks? Or a muslim photographer refusing service to Jews? What if it was a gay photographer refusing to service heteros?

Some would say that being homosexual is a choice whereas race is not.

295 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:03:43pm

re: #279 BuddyG

Gay people are fine. Gay marriage is not fine.

And yet no one can give a clear answer (screaming "tradition" or "communism" is not a clear answer) on why that second sentence is the case.

296 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:03:46pm

re: #286 MandyManners

Dinged ya' up!

When did you turn you ratings on?

297 vagabond trader  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:03:51pm

A gay male friend, who has no interest in marrying , told me that gays deserve to have the same right to be miserable as any straight couple.lol.

298 song_and_dance_man[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:04:20pm
299 Athos  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:04:55pm

re: #235 Shug

From my understanding, there is no federal grounds at this point for the SCOTUS to take the case or appeal. If there were a Federal law or Constitutional Amendment, then SCOTUS would have the option to hear it.

I don't think the Feds can step in and rule a State Constitutional amendment unconstitutional under the US Constitution since it's a state constitutional issue and independent of the Fed.

300 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:05:01pm

re: #281 Athos

particularly since CA has a very strong domestic partnership law that few conservatives have an issue with.


From the hot air article....;

Yes, (some) conservatives seem to be saying, gays can go ahead and have civil unions that grant them all the benefits married couples have — but for god’s sake, don’t let them call themselves “married.” To which a court can only reply, “Why not?” The right’s strategy, in other words, has been to concede 99 yards and then stand on the one-yard line and say “no further,” but that’s not how discrimination jurisprudence works. If you’re going to discriminate you need a good reason, and depending upon whom you’re discriminating against, you may need a very, very good reason.
301 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:05:34pm

re: #295 JamesTKirk

If same-sex marriage is allowed, where would you then draw the line?
And what are your reasons for that boundary?

302 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:05:49pm
303 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:05:52pm

re: #296 Sharmuta

Earlier this week.

304 Maximu§  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:06:00pm

OMG...Gay Marriage is legal?

Our whole world is coming to an end.....we're finshed! Our whole society is going to fold like a Chinese lawn chair! Lock up the kids!

s/

Seriously, you people need to calm down. Gays are an extreme minority and their getting marrried hurts no one. I expect at least 4-5 negetive mark downs from the Zealots in here for this comment, but thats Ok, I can take it.

305 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:06:04pm

re: #204 JamesTKirk

For
the same reason churches already can't be forced to perform marriages.
I defy you to tell a Catholic priest, Jewish rabbi, or muslim imam to
marry you if neither you nor your spouse are members of that religion
or subscribe to any of its tenets.

This decision changes that - marriage is now a civil right. One's standing in society is damaged when one is not recognized as "married" because of one's sexual preference.

A priest CANNOT refuse to mary a black parishoner to a white parishoner if either would be allowed to marry someone of their same race.

This is now a civil right, and has to be viewed under the same tests.

306 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:06:06pm

re: #298 song_and_dance_man

I'm not saying that. It was to illustrate that our nation was founded on the principle and acknowledgment of a Creator in refutation to your suggestion that the state's not in the business of determining God's intent.

But the State's NOT in the business of religion! It's in the First Amendment!

307 Da_Beerfreak  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:06:23pm

re: #12 Occasional Reader

The big question: "Full faith & credit"?

That's why an amendment to the U.S. Constitution will be the only way to stop this madness.
// {:-(™

308 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:06:27pm

re: #276 Sol Roth

IMHO, the re-definition of marriage to include non-reproducing homosexuals dilutes its original intent; to provide a stable, monogamous mating of a heterosexual pair for the production of offspring that have the maximum fitness to survive and pass on that fitness to the next generation.

Unless this is the intent of homosexual marriage proponents, and what I have read it is not, then you have a dilution of a practice that has served to stabilize societies for thousands of years. It may indeed be a slippery slope to weaken and ultimately destroy the nuclear family which, if we take the out-of-wedlock black birthrate as an example, wholly unhealthy to society. Destruction of the nuclear family is a stated goal of Marxism. You can read their propaganda here: [Link: www.fifthinternational.org...] This is where I see threats to my marriage and freedom.

So a small percentage of folks, 1% of the 6% of the American population want to wed, and it's considered a threat. Gimme a break.

309 Roger  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:06:37pm

re: #229 unreconstructed rebel

re: #202 karmic_inquisitor

What's worse, Pelosi & Biden have jumped in too.

Pelosi, Biden and Reed are queer.

/And I don't mean in a homosexual way.

310 Intrepid  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:06:46pm

re: #176 zmdavid

1. It's not a law, it's a court decision.
2. How do you know it doesn't force Churches to marry gay couples?

Your second point is, IIRC, Tammy Bruce's objection to legalizing gay marriage. Her concern was that this would begin a process of obligating priests/pastors, who have a religious belief against it, to perform ceremonies that are against their religious beliefs. Therefore a huge issue between church/state separation.

311 Sol Roth  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:06:46pm

re: #237 zombie

Which, actually, is also perfectly fine by me. Again: i am opposed to nanny-state-ism telling people what to do in their personal lives. I guess you'd call that a libertarian streak. Want to make love to a park bench and then stage a wedding ceremony with it, presided over by a taxidermed aardvark? Be my guest.

LOL!

312 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:06:55pm

re: #303 MandyManners

Good deal, Mandy. Welcome to the fabulous world of Dings!

313 lawhawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:07:37pm

re: #235 Shug

then somebody will sue them in federal court.

Can the federal court then ban the state constitutional amendment for violation of some federal protection?

The case was decided on State Constitutional grounds, so the case ends with the Cal. Supreme Court - they're the final arbiters of California law.

314 NoSubmission  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:07:38pm

re: #304 Maximu§

OMG...Gay Marriage is legal?

Our whole world is coming to an end.....we're finshed! Our whole society is going to fold like a Chinese lawn chair! Lock up the kids!
s/
Seriously, you people need to calm down. Gays are an extreme minority and their getting marrried hurts no one. I expect at least 4-5 negetive mark downs from the Zealots in here for this comment, but thats Ok, I can take it.


If I had my ratings turned on, I'd ding you up.

315 sventopia  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:07:57pm

re: #172 Occasional Reader

Gay people helped pay for my marriage? Then where the hell is my rebate?

When you think of all the legal fees they have to spend preparing the hundreds of contracts that automagically come along with a legal marriage, not to mention all the other marriage related bennies -- you bet they pay. Gay folks have to file taxes separately, cannot usually rely on their partner for health insurance, survivor benefits, immigration stuff, and on and on.

But regardless, gays entering into a legal contract like marriage doesn't deny anyone else's right to do the same, so I just don't think it's anything to get worked up over.

316 joncelli  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:08:03pm

re: #304 Maximu§

I dinged you up just to be cantankerous. ;-)

317 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:08:41pm

re: #304 Maximu%uFFFD

OMG...Gay Marriage is legal?

Our whole world is coming to an end.....we're finshed! Our whole society is going to fold like a Chinese lawn chair! Lock up the kids!

s/

Seriously, you people need to calm down. Gays are an extreme minority and their getting marrried hurts no one. I expect at least 4-5 negetive mark downs from the Zealots in here for this comment, but thats Ok, I can take it.

Zealots. Maximu again hits nail squarely.

318 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:08:44pm

re: #294 MandyManners

Some would say that being homosexual is a choice whereas race is not.


That's a pretty loaded argument but it's not a choice for many/most gays. It simply isn't. Attempts at curing homosexuality don't work and are often psychologically damaging to the "patients". If gay sex really was a choice why would so many pastors, priests, and conservative politicians ruin their lives, careers, and families by pursuing gay sex. Gay sex must be really fantastic because people take great risks and pay high prices to get it.

319 Shug  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:08:49pm

re: #313 lawhawk

The case was decided on State Constitutional grounds, so the case ends with the Cal. Supreme Court - they're the final arbiters of California law.

thanks. I was just wondering at what point the federal court could overturn the state court.

Like what if the people of california amended the california constitution to deny voting rights to black people or women?

320 newsjunkie_ky  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:09:04pm

re: #266 JamesTKirk

Seem to remember seeing pictures of public sex in SF on zombie's site. Don't think they were arrested.

321 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:09:33pm

re: #198 jemima

I used to live in a town where a guy would break into a barn to rape a little girl's pony.

I guess it's okay if he really really wanted to do it. Who are we to judge etc.

What are you talking about? Gay marriage is the same as bestiality rape?

Weird.

322 ArmyWife  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:09:42pm

re: #306 Sharmuta

No, the first amendment states there will not be a Government imposed religion - a la the Anglican church in England, nor will you be punished for practicing whatever religion you follow. It never said there would be no reference to religion ever, ever. The "wall of separation" is a fallacy and made up by....you guessed it...COURTS.

323 Squirrelguy  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:09:42pm

re: #12 Occasional Reader

The big question: "Full faith & credit"?

Then my concealed handgun license should work in Kali.

324 Dianna  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:09:50pm

This thread is moving really fast, and I'm working, so I just wish to say that ignoring the voters is not what judges are for. And, while I do not have a dog in the gay marriage fight, I feel that this is something that gays need to persuade married people about. This isn't going to help, at all.

325 vagabond trader  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:09:55pm

re: #276 Sol Roth

Oh please, my straight spouse and I are already being punished with higher taxes because we failed to produce offspring. Should our legal marriage also be dissolved?

326 opnion  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:09:55pm

Alright, someone had to ask. How do you decide which one gets to soften the window treatments?

327 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:10:08pm

re: #302 buzzsawmonkey

Would you be okay with legal polygamy; A multi-partner marriage?

328 wolfie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:10:19pm

re: #277 zmdavid

If the law means whatever some judge says, there are no gaurantees of anything.
Minor quibble - The Roman Catholic Church recognizes interfaith marriage if they agree that any children will be raised Catholic.

Indeed.

329 Ojoe  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:10:22pm

1. This stuff makes dreadful politics.

2. Gay "M---" is not the same thing, don't use the same word.

3. Language is not meant to obscure but to clarify.

4. God loves everyone.

330 Dianna  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:10:26pm

re: #314 NoSubmission

Me, too.

Got to go back to work.

331 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:10:38pm

re: #321 zombie

What are you talking about? Gay marriage is the same as bestiality rape?

Accounts Differ...

332 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:10:45pm

re: #301 BuddyG

If same-sex marriage is allowed, where would you then draw the line?
And what are your reasons for that boundary?

Consenting adults.

Children cannot consent. Animals cannot consent.

No one has demonstrated to me any valid reason why they have any business telling other adults who they can and cannot marry. I don't care if they're from different races (It was as recently as 1967 when Loving vs. Virginia struck down the laws against mixed-race marriages!), different religions (long, bloody history there; which still continues with muslims and their honor killings), or the same sex...

They are consenting adults and it's their business, not yours, what they do.

333 OldLineTexan  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:10:50pm

re: #278 Killgore Trout

That's a tricky issue. It gets complicated; Imagine if the photographer refused service to blacks? Or a muslim photographer refusing service to Jews? What if it was a gay photographer refusing to service heteros?

If I have a business without public facilities* (such as many wedding photographers), what business is it of the Government whether or not I am a bigot, or just uncomfortable in certain settings? What right then does this photographer have to refuse to take pornographic pictures, if I as a customer demand them?

To take it further, if the Gov't starts telling this photographer who he will accept as a customer, will the same Gov't tell his customers which photographer to choose? There's an LDS Temple down the street...were I a photographer, I could not work in that Temple because I am not Mormon and do not hold a Temple recommend. Does the photographer have rights in that case that trump the rights of the Mormons to preserve the sanctity of their Temple?

*the public facilities question has LONG been settled

334 sventopia  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:10:51pm

re: #277 zmdavid


Minor quibble - The Roman Catholic Church recognizes interfaith marriage if they agree that any children will be raised Catholic.

Quibble taken... all the Catholics are know are also the most anti-Catholic people I know, so my sources regarding RC theology probably aren't the most reliable.

335 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:11:00pm

re: #318 Killgore Trout

That's a pretty loaded argument but it's not a choice for many/most gays. It simply isn't. Attempts at curing homosexuality don't work and are often psychologically damaging to the "patients". If gay sex really was a choice why would so many pastors, priests, and conservative politicians ruin their lives, careers, and families by pursuing gay sex. Gay sex must be really fantastic because people take great risks and pay high prices to get it.

But, for those who believe it IS a choice, and a sinful one at that, it would be forcing them to violate their own religious beliefs. Is the next step forcing a church to perform the ceremony?

336 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:11:12pm

re: #319 Shug

thanks. I was just wondering at what point the federal court could overturn the state court.

Like what if the people of california amended the california constitution to deny voting rights to black people or women?

Yeah- we should end women's suffrage- those women are suffering!

/Old Tom Green joke

337 unreconstructed rebel  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:11:17pm

re: #309 Roger

Time was when queer as an adjective & queer as a noun meant different things, but I got your meaning.

But, in the above context queer is to gentle a word. Vicious anti-american traitors suits me better.

338 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:11:21pm

re: #292 Creeping Eruption

I wonder who here has had the time to read and digest the 172 page
decision? Not me. I will reserve judgment until then. It sucks seeing
normally erudite Lizards spouting off sound bites. I'll sit back now,
take my down-dings, and wait for a new thread.

Page 7.

We therefore conclude that in view of the substance and significance of the fundamental constitutional right to form a family relationship, the California Constitution properly must be interpreted to guarantee this basic civil right to all Californians, whether gay or heterosexual, and to same-sex couples as well as to opposite-sex couples.

Marriage is a now civil right.

339 nyc redneck  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:11:25pm

re: #183 NoSubmission

Not all gay people are promiscuous. I know many who are surprisngly rather conservative Republicans and in long term monogamous relationships.

i know several gay couples (both male and female) who have been together for yrs. also. at least 3 couples have adopted children and are good parents. my gay male friends are conservative business owners. they adopted their daughter when she was born to a woman who had no way of caring for her. she is 12 now and such a sweet kid. and somehow, she looks just like both of her dads. they are good solid people and caring parents. ( i jokingly ask them to adopt me, sometimes.)

340 Peter Griffin  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:11:40pm

Maybe the whole country should allow gay marraiges from Memorial to Labor Day to see if all of those FABULOUS weddings will stimulate the economy?

341 Squirrelguy  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:11:41pm

Let them get married. Let be be as unhappy as I was. Let them give up half of everything they own when they want out.

Equality can be a bitch.

342 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:11:54pm

Congrats Charles this has all the earmarks of careening into a FOAD thread.

Talk about boldly going...

343 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:12:09pm

re: #305 karmic_inquisitor

This decision changes that - marriage is now a civil right. One's standing in society is damaged when one is not recognized as "married" because of one's sexual preference.

A priest CANNOT refuse to mary a black parishoner to a white parishoner if either would be allowed to marry someone of their same race.

This is now a civil right, and has to be viewed under the same tests.

Marriage is a civil right for Jews, yet priests ARE most certainly allowed to refuse to marry Jews within a Catholic church. Getting married is a right. Getting married by a priest is not and never was.

344 Squirrelguy  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:12:31pm

re: #327 BuddyG

Would you be okay with legal polygamy; A multi-partner marriage?

Geez, I don't want one. Why in the hell would I want more?

345 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:12:37pm

re: #332 JamesTKirk

You'd be okay with multiple consenting adults all getting legally married to eachother as a group ?

346 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:12:51pm
347 zmloh  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:12:54pm

Well, goodbye California it was so nice to know YA!

348 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:13:19pm

re: #320 newsjunkie_ky

Seem to remember seeing pictures of public sex in SF on zombie's site. Don't think they were arrested.

And how will gay marriage change that, if they're already having public sex in SF?

349 opnion  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:13:27pm

i am just saying that throwing beastiality in here seems like such bigotry against Islam. Ya know it"s a cultural thing.
Ok a stretch

350 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:13:33pm

re: #340 Peter Griffin

Maybe the whole country should allow gay marraiges from Memorial to Labor Day to see if all of those FABULOUS weddings will stimulate the economy?

Just don't put registry information in with the wedding invitations.

351 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:13:37pm

re: #198 jemima

I used to live in a town where a guy would break into a barn to rape a little girl's pony.

I guess it's okay if he really really wanted to do it. Who are we to judge etc.


re: #321 zombie

What are you talking about? Gay marriage is the same as bestiality rape?

Weird.


Like I said before, there should be some test administered somewhere between hatching and delousing prior to granting posting privileges.

352 The Pulchritudinous Patriot  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:13:43pm

re: #310 Intrepid

Your second point is, IIRC, Tammy Bruce's objection to legalizing gay marriage. Her concern was that this would begin a process of obligating priests/pastors, who have a religious belief against it, to perform ceremonies that are against their religious beliefs. Therefore a huge issue between church/state separation.

But this is why we have the Supreme Court. It's also why it takes 3/4s of the states to ratify any changes to the Constitution. Any law that orders priests/rabbis etc to perform the "religious" aspect of the marriage contract would get challenged immediately.

353 experiencedtraveller  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:13:49pm

re: #265 buzzsawmonkey

I would marry buzzsawmonkey.

/c'mon you know what I mean!

354 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:14:05pm

re: #322 ArmyWife

No, the first amendment states there will not be a Government imposed religion - a la the Anglican church in England, nor will you be punished for practicing whatever religion you follow. It never said there would be no reference to religion ever, ever. The "wall of separation" is a fallacy and made up by....you guessed it...COURTS.

I know that- but legally- the courts and the government are not in the business to decide God's intent, which was Song & Dance Man's argument.

355 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:14:16pm

re: #329 Ojoe

1. This stuff makes dreadful politics.

2. Gay "M---" is not the same thing, don't use the same word.

3. Language is not meant to obscure but to clarify.

4. God loves everyone.

Does God love Hitler?*


* Which is a rhetorical point and I do not think that gays are hated by God. Some people yes, not gays as a class.

356 Widow'smight  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:14:23pm

re: #287 Kulhwch

Well around here, some folks speak PA Dutchified, Vunst.

I have a financial obligation to my Wife and Children, a Moral Obligation to them, and an Obligation to protect them.

BTW, THIS wife is a real blessing to me and our kids. I can speak honestly about Marriage being an obligation cause I went through a real ugly divorce.

357 Intrepid  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:14:38pm

re: #253 zombie

Hey Zombie - what's the strangest parade/protest/?-a-thon you've seen/photo'd in SF?

Just wonderin', since there's such a myriad of choices....

358 Roger  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:14:44pm

re: #329 Ojoe

4. God loves everyone.

He does think some folks are idiots for carving something out of wood, stone or polycarbonate and then worshiping it.

359 freetoken  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:14:52pm

re: #144 Sol Roth

If I read the link Charles posted correctly, it is this approach (that you advocate) that got the decision rendered as it was. Namely, that having given up so many "yards", so to speak, the court simply found that to not go all the way was fundamentally wrong, according to California constitution and law.

360 CyanSnowHawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:15:00pm

re: #178 marge45b

I can see it now the Catholic Church will be sued for discrimination when it refuses to perform "Same-Sex" Church Weddings.

Do you mean the same way that the Catholic Church is constantly being sued in order to allow women to become priests?

/Separation of Church and State works both ways

361 NoSubmission  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:15:00pm

re: #353 experiencedtraveller

I would marry buzzsawmonkey.

/c'mon you know what I mean!


I {heart} buzzsawmonkey! I get first dibs..

362 Ojoe  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:15:06pm

This is something that should never be in the arena of public policy, one way or another.

I do not think it was a wise idea to bring it t here in the first place.

363 kynna  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:15:14pm

I've got friends in a civil union so I'm not bashing the idea of gay marriage. I haven't totally made up my mind, actually.

But IIRC the voters made this ban as per the state constitution. I agree with posters who hope this kind of judicial meddling will energize the voters to put more conservatives (ie Federalists) in office. Someone has to be thinking about 'by the people, for the people'. If they can overturn this voter realized action then they could turn over anything the voters have decided on. Including keeping Islam out of our classrooms and banning sex ed in 2nd grade.

364 JamesTKirk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:15:29pm

re: #342 Peacekeeper

Congrats Charles this has all the earmarks of careening into a FOAD thread.

Talk about boldly going...

Hey! Leave my catchphrase out of this!

/ gotta be going anyway...

365 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:15:45pm

re: #350 MandyManners

Just don't put registry information in with the wedding invitations.

LMAO! It's soooo uncouth.

366 joncelli  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:15:54pm

So the solution is pretty clear: take marriage out of the ambit of the state. Make all marriage contractual. Marry three guys and woman, if you want. Just don't get government involved, with its implications of societal acceptance.

367 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:16:04pm

re: #346 buzzsawmonkey

Won't answer the question, huh?

368 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:16:17pm

re: #343 JamesTKirk

Marriage
is a civil right for Jews, yet priests ARE most certainly allowed to
refuse to marry Jews within a Catholic church. Getting married is a
right. Getting married by a priest is not and never was.

The example I laid out was among parishoners of the said church. The case law on such is huge.

Again - civil right.

Loving v. Virginia

369 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:16:32pm

re: #214 Widow'smight

My problem is that some of the same people pushing so hard for Gay Marriage are also pushing for lowering the Age of consent to 10 or 12. In that case, the child would no longer be protected from gay/straight predators, but would have to face defense lawyers and such.

Link for that?

Oh sorry, there isn't one. Just another ridiculous slander.

99% of the activists seeking to lower the age of consent are straight. Many, in fact, are members of fringe religious sects who want girls to be able to marry at 13 with no parental veto power.

Strange how these social issue debates bring out the real rifts in the lizard community. We agree on so many other things.

Just as with the other divisive issues around here, things break down along theological lines, with Team Secular facing off against Team Religious.

I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree.

370 Honorary Yooper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:16:49pm

re: #228 incanus

Wait a few years.

They already can't be told to perform the marriage. For example, a Catholic church will not perform a marriage if the previous marriage has not been annulled within the church. This stands even with a civil divorce.

Now a justice of the peace on the other hand...

371 OldLineTexan  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:16:51pm

re: #314 NoSubmission

If I had my ratings turned on, I'd ding you up.

I wouldn't because I have yet to see the hyperventilating that some people are hyperventilating about. But that's just me.

/and BEFORE you kick me, I don't give a rat's ass. Both sides are half-right. Good luck with that. The judicial activism is real and a serious threat, but hey, that just makes me a bigot with a hidden agenda.

372 restitutor orbis  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:16:59pm

Oh jeez. I bet Savage popped a blood vessel. Maybe this will give him something new to talk about rather than the lefty talking points he's been spewing lately (Corporations!.... Big Oil!...... Bush greatest disaster to befall the country!....... Who's pulling his strings?............... Puppetmasters!)

373 average_guy  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:17:00pm

More details here.

Apparently there will be a gay marriage ban on the ballot in November 2008 in The Golden State, although this could be subsequently overturned in the courts as well. Of course, any marriages performed between now and then would be legal, at least I presume so. I wonder if the ballot initiative will drive conservative voter turnout this November in California? Interesting...

374 freetoken  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:17:06pm

re: #176 zmdavid

On #2 - for the same reason that TODAY churches are NOT forced to marry anyone that simply wants to be...

375 Ojoe  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:17:10pm

re: #338 karmic_inquisitor

WTF it is a fundamental constitutional right?

Where does that come from?

This whole area is a spiritual area and the state should keep its nose out of it.

376 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:17:15pm

re: #364 JamesTKirk

You screwed that male/female thing from Trek VI, but at least you didn't marry it.

377 unreconstructed rebel  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:17:21pm

re: #366 joncelli

Just don't get government involved

Please! The tax code is complicated enough.

378 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:17:24pm

re: #365 Sharmuta

LMAO! It's soooo uncouth.

Nothing like opening up those stiff double envelopes to have a bunch of business cards fall all over the counter.

379 Peter Griffin  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:17:28pm

re: #350 MandyManners

Oh look honey, they are registered at The White Rabbit, The Gay Dolphin, and Crate & Barrel

380 song_and_dance_man[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:17:35pm
381 Shug  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:17:47pm

re: #369 zombie

I like team zombie

382 Athos  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:17:59pm

re: #300 Killgore Trout

What I think AP is missing is that 60.1% of the CA electorate defined marriage as between one man and one woman. If the Supreme Court is to overturn that vote then they need to have a specific right to that is being denied other than use of the term or the redefinition of the term to fit a “fundamental constitutional right to form a family relationship.”

Then there is the other argument twist of AP's position, that the burden of proof is on those same-sex persons to prove why it has to be called marriage and not a domestic partnership. Shouldn't that burden be on the group trying to influence change as opposed to the group holding the traditional definition (and the definition as defined by the electorate).

383 sparrowlake  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:18:30pm

re: #295 JamesTKirk

And yet no one can give a clear answer (screaming "tradition" or "communism" is not a clear answer) on why that second sentence is the case.

Tradition beats Communism, though, ya gotta admit.

384 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:18:32pm
385 maddogg  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:18:35pm

Just a matter of time til you can marry your dog.

386 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:18:47pm

re: #204 JamesTKirk

You have seen the story floating around about the guy who called the catholic hospital main number, asked if they did sex change operations, knew the answer would no, and now has a lawsuit.

To think somehow, the motivation behind this is to just live and let live, you are fooling yourself.

There is an effort by politically motivated people, subverting our constitutional process of a couple hundred years.

I don't like where this goes. Only because it never stops with equality. It is a barge to encroach upon people's free will if they so disagree with this lifestyle.

Think about some small business person who may decide to hire someone, or not based upon certain attributes they feel might have a negative impact for their success.

This type of thing has a major domino effect.

387 Russkilitlover  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:18:48pm

re: #170 zombie

But it's a nice way to distract the masses from what's really important! Wouldn't want anyone turning away from monumental issues like gay marriage to contemplate oh, say, appeasing terrorists, nationalizing health care, or importing abject poverty.

388 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:19:05pm
I guess we'll just have to agree to disagree.

Why ? Because you said so?

;)

389 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:19:15pm

re: #379 Peter Griffin

Oh look honey, they are registered at The White Rabbit, The Gay Dolphin, and Crate & Barrel

Anyone who puts that into a wedding invitation guarantees I won't buy crap.

390 MellyMel  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:20:01pm

re: #349 opnion

i am just saying that throwing beastiality in here seems like such bigotry against Islam. Ya know it"s a cultural thing.
Ok a stretch

LOL. I need that laugh -- thanks!

391 CyanSnowHawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:20:01pm

re: #200 Occasional Reader

I was referring to lawhawk's note upthread of the position taken by the Mass. court (not this one), that their decision was immune to constitutional amendment. Shocking judicial arrogance, and flatly undemocratic.

Oh. That is shocking and arrogant, but I sort of expect that from Mass.

392 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:20:05pm
#223 incanus
re: #201 zombie

Oh, I agree. The judicial activism is distasteful. But the underlying topic (gay marriage) just makes me shrug.

I have a feeling a lot of pundits and so forth expressing outrage over this are simply using the judicial-activism aspect to mask their true feelings (i.e. revulsion at the thought of gay marriage).

Come now, you're better than that. "[group] is opposing this not because of the points they have raised but because they are [racist]" (where "racist" means "in opposition to some identity group"). This is a fallacious argument.

I stand by my statement: a lot of conservative pundits are just opposed to gay marriage in principle, but they'll use the "judicial activism" aspect of this story (which is a valid aspect) to make it seem like they have a different motivation.

People publicly misrepresenting their motives happens all the time.

393 joncelli  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:20:05pm

re: #385 maddogg

Some men think they've already done that.

/Thank you! I'll be here all week!

394 Squirrelguy  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:20:08pm

re: #379 Peter Griffin

Oh look honey, they are registered at The White Rabbit, The Gay Dolphin, and Crate & Barrel


The Blue Oyster Bar.

395 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:20:08pm
396 Shug  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:20:13pm

re: #385 maddogg

Just a matter of time til you can marry your dog.


Why buy the dog when you can get the bone for free?

397 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:20:31pm

re: #214 Widow'smight

My problem is that some of the same people pushing so hard for Gay Marriage are also pushing for lowering the Age of consent to 10 or 12. In that case, the child would no longer be protected from gay/straight predators, but would have to face defense lawyers and such. Unless they were kids in my family, the SOB would have a private Pre-trial hearing, then an opportunity to check out the nearest healthcare facility.

I'm sure most Gay folks don't think that way, but lacking is the reporting on the supporters of this movement, and their real intent.

The reporting must be really lacking. I've never heard of anyone pushing this idea. How did you happen to hear about it

398 Sharmuta  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:20:39pm

Actually- I'd like to see more equity in divorce laws.

399 opnion  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:20:51pm

re: #390 MellyMel

LOL. I need that laugh -- thanks!


My pleasure.

400 MandyManners  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:21:00pm

re: #396 Shug

*whack*

401 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:21:00pm

re: #387 Russkilitlover

But it's a nice way to distract the masses from what's really important! Wouldn't want anyone turning away from monumental issues like gay marriage to contemplate oh, say, appeasing terrorists, nationalizing health care, or importing abject poverty.

COMRADE!

402 NoSubmission  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:21:15pm

re: #371 OldLineTexan
I don't want to kick anyone. We all have a right to express our points of view here.

403 Ornery Potlicker  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:21:17pm

This will only make me more bitter and clingy.

404 Creeping Eruption  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:21:18pm

re: #338 karmic_inquisitor

Marriage is a now civil right.

If that is the case, I don't have a problem with that. I have not read the full decision though to agree or disagree with your analysis.

405 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:21:19pm
406 newsjunkie_ky  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:21:28pm

re: #348 JamesTKirk
Don't know what you are asking. I responded to this:
re: #258 Peacekeeper

Want to make love to a park bench and then stage a wedding ceremony with it, presided over by a taxidermed aardvark? Be my guest.


What if I want to walk down the street without my toddler seeing two leather clad freaks caulking socks? Do I have a right?

JamesTKirk said, "Public sex is illegal regardless of the genders and orientations involved."

Apparently it is not illegal in SF between gay men, according to zombie's pictures and her writings that police look the other way. If a straight couple were engaging in oral sex on a public street they would be arrested.

407 Da_Beerfreak  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:21:44pm

re: #50 pat

When is the Court going to declare the Constitution unConstitutional?

FDR already did that before WWII IIRC.

We have FDR to thank for today's Ogliarchy.

(In case you missed the memo:
The Republic is dead.)

408 Dianna  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:22:04pm

re: #366 joncelli

Then you're saying (sigh) that the state has no interest in marriage?

That position won't hold up, unfortunately, because of a bunch of statistics. The sad and sorry fact is that the state should be backing marriage to the hilt, because children do better in families with stable marriages; men behave better when married; both men and women do better, financially, physically and mentally when married; and it's better for the state for people to be married.

Sorry.

I'm just a secular person, who isn't married but living with someone of the other sex.

409 joncelli  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:22:06pm

re: #405 buzzsawmonkey

Bwahahaha!

410 ArmyWife  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:22:13pm

I am opposed to gay marriage. I am not opposed to gay relationships - I don't care much what happens in people's bedrooms so long as its not harming me or something innocent such as a child or animal.

What we need to remember is there IS a cost associated with this - health insurance premiums will go up, that being the biggest one. Is that enough to say we shouldn't do this? I am not sure, but we kid ourselves if we don't think this isn't a part of the debate. I also don't buy the "discrimination" argument. If gay people wanted to marry for the insurance benefits and whatever else, no one is stopping them - so long as they marry someone of the opposite sex.

The scary part of this particular issue (CA) is the way it came about. It flies in the face of necessary checks and balances - that should scare you whether you are gay, straight or undecided.

411 Ward Cleaver  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:22:19pm

That should make the jihadis love California.

412 Ojoe  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:22:26pm

re: #404 Creeping Eruption

Marriage is more basic than anything "civil".

IMHO

413 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:22:29pm

re: #335 MandyManners

But, for those who believe it IS a choice, and a sinful one at that, it would be forcing them to violate their own religious beliefs.

Yes, it does. To some extent if someone's religious beliefs are so rigid then they need to take responsibility and insulate themselves from the rest of society. Muslims who object to guide dogs, booze and pork should move to Saudi Arabia. America has no obligation to create a society that accommodates all religions without offense. People should take responsibility for their own sensitivities not expect the rest of society to accommodate them.

414 NoSubmission  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:22:33pm

re: #385 maddogg

Just a matter of time til you can marry your dog.


As long as I can marry both my dogs... Polydoggie!
All kidding aside, my dogs are nicer than my last two husbands.

415 Squirrelguy  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:22:34pm

re: #403 Ornery Potlicker

This will only make me more bitter and clingy.

Lock & load!

416 Maximu§  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:23:12pm

My Brother who is a born-again-Christian believes anyone outside of his little Church is going to Hell!...course, I think he is a f**king Idiot.

I have a real problem with Christians who think God only smiles on them and the rest of us regular folk are going to burn in the eternal fires of Hell.

If a Gay couple marries, raises children and are productive members of society.....who the F**K are we to judge them?

Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone....

417 unreconstructed rebel  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:23:23pm

re: #407 Da_Beerfreak

The Republic is dead

Happened when they stole our gold.

418 Sol Roth  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:23:25pm

re: #285 JamesTKirk

I know many married couples who have no children, nor plan to have any. Are you going to rule their marriages invalid? Is childbearing to be a legal requirement for married couples?

Marriage of heterosexuals that are sterile, or who don't want children are no threat to the original purpose of marriage.

419 Peter Griffin  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:23:32pm

I'm picturing 5 groomsmen - dressed as The Village People

420 DownRightMeanAmerican  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:23:40pm

I wonder what the folks in River Bend-Dover NH are thinking?

421 runrabbitrun  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:23:59pm

re: #285 JamesTKirk

I know many married couples who have no children, nor plan to have any. Are you going to rule their marriages invalid? Is childbearing to be a legal requirement for married couples?

No, not every hetero couple can have, or wish to have children - but only hetero couples may bring a child into existence, which was one of the original intents of marriage: to encourage couples which MAY produce children to take financial and physical responsibility for those children. Remember, if a homosexual couple seeks to ADOPT a child, they are investigated and declare their commitment to provide same to the child as a part of the investigation. Not so with heteros, which was a benefit to the culture of couples being married.

The legal normalization of homosexual marriage may affect adoptions, state/fed funding assistance of religious schools - they may all lose funding and not be able to exist if they teach that a homosexual lifestyle is contrary to their faith. It may affect foster care/adoptions by religious groups - which care for enormous numbers of at-risk kids - and there will be demands for equal representation of gay families in textbooks, primers, etc. (not to mention the shakedown of corporations to include gay families represented in movies, ad campaigns, and so on).

It will definitely change the culture - interesting.

422 noraono  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:24:03pm

I went to the second "most gay" UC school after Berkeley- we were the first to have non-gendered bathrooms and had the largest LGBTQIA club in the system.

that said, I had a lot of gay friends. Nearly 100% of those had no interest in "marriage" as it stands- they considered marriage to be an institution for straight people. What they did want was a recognized civil union that gave them all the rights, privileges, and benefits of a married couple.

I'm all for civil unions and think gay couples should have every RIGHT of a straight couple- my only objection is to the naming. I believe marriage is a building block of families and should not apply to a same sex couple. But, that's just me being a zealot i guess.

423 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:24:03pm

re: #384 buzzsawmonkey

You have not explained your objections to any--let alone all--of the points I raised in #265 above.

I will be interested to hear your answers--but until you provide them, I see no purpose to dignifying your attempts to introduce red herrings into the discussion.

I imagine that we both agree that legal marriage can't be anything goes.
My boundary is one man & one woman. What's yours?

424 Squirrelguy  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:24:04pm

re: #411 Ward Cleaver

That should make the jihadis love California.

Only if they include camels & goats.

425 Ojoe  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:24:11pm

State go away

Activists go away

426 Slumbering Behemoth  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:24:12pm

re: #128 WrathofG-d

I'd repeal the ff&C clause and go back to a states rights approach.

The only problem with that (if someone hasn't already beat me to this point) is that the clause also covers other things such as graduate degrees.

Remove that, and your AS, BA, Doctorate, and so on are now only valid in the state your earned them in.

427 LeftJustAintRight  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:24:14pm

Who the he! cares what we think ?
What does Obama think
And
Wright
CAIR
Hillary
They are the voices that matter
Us Typical UnPigmented People do not even matter

428 Ornery Potlicker  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:24:20pm

re: #332 JamesTKirk

If you looked into my dogs eyes when I walk through the door, you would see the embodiment of consent.

429 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:24:25pm

re: #225 JamesTKirk

All you screamers who can't stand the idea that gay sex is happening ought to support gay marriage.

After all, nothing kills sex faster than getting married, right?

EXACTLY.

What is so heinous about gay marriage? If anything, it will only serve to DECREASE promiscuity in the gay community.

Or are people just opposed to gay sex in principle, and they're expressing their opposition to it by opposing gay marriage?

I started this thread being ambivalent about gay marriage, but the more I read, the less a problem I have with it.

Where are your laissez-faire principles, people? You don't want anyone telling you what you can and cannot do -- right? Why then tell others what they can and cannot do?

430 Morganfrost  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:24:47pm

Please! Stop arguing! The Court has decided this is something (else) which must be removed from the purview of (what's left of) a democratic society. If you don't have a black robe, your opinion (and that of your elected representatives) on this matter is no longer of any consequence. There goes another piece of your democracy; don't worry-- it's for your own good.

431 NoSubmission  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:24:53pm

re: #422 noraono
Non gender bathrooms? EW!

432 hayseed  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:25:03pm

what does our leader thik of this

433 Golem Akbar  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:25:06pm

re: #379 Peter Griffin

Oh look honey, they are registered at The White Rabbit, The Gay Dolphin, and Crate & Barrel

Now don't knock Crate and Barrel. I like their furniture. [not that there is anything wrong with Crate and Barrel]

434 Intrepid  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:25:09pm

re: #352 The Pulchritudinous Patriot

But this is why we have the Supreme Court. It's also why it takes 3/4s of the states to ratify any changes to the Constitution. Any law that orders priests/rabbis etc to perform the "religious" aspect of the marriage contract would get challenged immediately.

I wonder if interracial couples who were denied religious wedding ceremonies in the past by pastors ever sued successfully?

Not trying to stir anything up - I am personally still on the fence on this issue - but I'm just curious.

435 vagabond trader  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:25:23pm

re: #418 Sol Roth

That could be debated in Europe where the birth rates for indigenous people are pretty low.

436 maddogg  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:25:50pm

With all the responses I got from the Marry your dog comment, I'm not even going to mention marriage to your cat.......oops.

437 Sol Roth  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:25:54pm

re: #325 vagabond trader

Oh please, my straight spouse and I are already being punished with higher taxes because we failed to produce offspring. Should our legal marriage also be dissolved?

I never said that. Married couples with no children are no threat to the institution of marriage.

438 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:26:08pm

re: #375 Ojoe

WTF it is a fundamental constitutional right?

Where does that come from?

This whole area is a spiritual area and the state should keep its nose out of it.

It goes back to freedom of association.

The state of California extands that to the freedom to create a "family relationship" (see page 7 of the decision).

Again - my problem with this is that the State of California decided to overturn an amendment to the state constitution. To do it, it had to create a new civil right - one called "marriage".

Up until now, marriage was a contract regulated by the state (which is why one has to get a "Marriage License" in the State of California before getting married.

This is going to cause a lot of new cases to be filed as people who would, until today, could not get married because marriage was (until today) granted by the state as a privilege.

My drivers license is a privilege. Just think if the state declared that operating a vehicle were a civil right.

The court has created a set of problems for itself and will now have to rule on how the state will be allowed to prohibit certain people at certain times from exercising this civil right.

439 Golem Akbar  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:26:17pm

re: #385 maddogg

Just a matter of time til you can marry your dog.

Just a matter of time before polygamy becomes legal -- equal access and all that.

440 Squirrelguy  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:26:26pm

re: #426 Slumbering Behemoth

The only problem with that (if someone hasn't already beat me to this point) is that the clause also covers other things such as graduate degrees.

Remove that, and your AS, BA, Doctorate, and so on are now only valid in the state your earned them in.

Should be. Since my state issued Concealed Handgun License, (which, btw, was harder to get thean my driver's license), isn't recognized in all 50 states.

441 The_Vig  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:26:40pm

They approved gay marriage, but it didn't say anything for gay divorce.

Choose wisely.

442 Ornery Potlicker  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:26:45pm

I must now file for divorce from the state of California due to irreconcilable differences.

443 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:26:48pm

re: #248 snowcrash

I have no problems with homosexuality or homosexuals in a committed relationships. I only fear that legalizing gay marriage will encourage the normalizing of alternate lifestyle teaching in the early elementary school setting. I would not want my daughter coming home from the 2nd grade with a book called "King and King", a homosexual love story book for kids. This happened in Lexington MA in 2006, I think. I regret that gay marriage cannot be kept separate from a political agenda.

Don't parents have the right to opt out (on behalf of their children) of sex education classes? Real question. I have the impression that most school districts provide for parental choice, but I could be wrong.

444 Ojoe  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:26:50pm

re: #429 zombie

It is an issue of truth & language at the most basic and important level.

It is not the same thing.

Don't use the same word, It will muddle things that should be clear.

445 Izzy Dunne  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:27:06pm

re: #66 JamesTKirk

Make a big issue of this, and you'll kill any chance of major Democratic crossover votes to McCain (all those people who said they'd vote for him if their choice wasn't the Dem nominee).

There is no censorship like self-censorship.

446 MellyMel  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:27:12pm

re: #369 zombie

Zombie:

"Just as with the other divisive issues around here, things break down along theological lines, with Team Secular facing off against Team Religious."

Actually, I am one of the "team religious" and happen to have no problems whatsoever with gay marriage and no, I don't believe being gay is a choice. My only issue is with how it went down in the courts.

BTW -- I also could have removed the word "gay" from a few posts and inserted "black" and the results IMO were repugnant in their insinuations either way.

/Let the onslaught of down dings begin!

447 Squirrelguy  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:27:22pm

re: #436 maddogg

With all the responses I got from the Marry your dog comment, I'm not even going to mention marriage to your cat.......oops.

No different than my ex-wife.

448 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:27:25pm

re: #382 Athos


What I think AP is missing is that 60.1% of the CA electorate defined marriage as between one man and one woman.


What if that 60% wanted to ban blacks from getting married? What if 60% wanted to put Jews in concentration camps? Constitutionality is not popularity.

449 Ojoe  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:28:15pm

re: #438 karmic_inquisitor

The state of California has no power to confer that right; in my opinion, that right is there already.

In this matter the State of California should go home.

450 Squirrelguy  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:28:29pm

re: #439 Golem Akbar

Just a matter of time before polygamy becomes legal -- equal access and all that.

As long as the state gives free head examinations with it. One wife is too many. Why someone would willingly want more is beyond me.

451 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:28:59pm

re: #254 Occasional Reader

Ah, no, you lost me on that point right there. That's public behavior, and the state has a legitimate interest.

I didn't mean in the park. Just a bench in your living room.

452 wolfie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:29:00pm

re: #371 OldLineTexan

I wouldn't because I have yet to see the hyperventilating that some people are hyperventilating about. But that's just me.

/and BEFORE you kick me, I don't give a rat's ass. Both sides are half-right. Good luck with that. The judicial activism is real and a serious threat, but hey, that just makes me a bigot with a hidden agenda.

May I join your club!? :)

453 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:29:12pm
Where are your laissez-faire principles, people? You don't want anyone telling you what you can and cannot do -- right? Why then tell others what they can and cannot do?



You can't talk to us like that!

454 redc1c4  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:29:19pm

re: #78 zombie

pretty much my point..... why shouldn't they have a chance to be as unhappy as married straight people?

/don't tell 2H6 i said this %-)

455 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:29:32pm

re: #258 Peacekeeper

Want to make love to a park bench and then stage a wedding ceremony with it, presided over by a taxidermed aardvark? Be my guest.


What if I want to walk down the street without my toddler seeing two leather clad freaks caulking socks? Do I have a right?

I misstated. I wasn't referring to public sex.

456 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:29:57pm
457 Ornery Potlicker[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:30:15pm
458 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:30:15pm

re: #451 zombie

I didn't mean in the park. Just a bench in your living room.

We accept your apology!

459 stevedecatur  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:30:28pm

I like this, it would be good for the slowing down multi-billion dollar wedding industry that employs tens of thousands of people (though way too many in the service industry are employed illegally, that's for another thread). And any liberal, gay rights issue is bound to piss off the Jihadists and make us look a little bit more like Great Satan, maybe they'll even burn down their own communities like they did over the cartoons, a win for the anti-sharia law team.

460 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:30:35pm

re: #379 Peter Griffin

Oh look honey, they are registered at The White Rabbit, The Gay Dolphin, and Crate & Barrel


Ha! I guess they were looking for lots of ashtrays made from seashells.

(Yes, I've been in "The Gay Dolphin", Myrtle Beach, SC)

461 sventopia  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:31:15pm

islamophobicre: #171 WrathofG-d

Its like when a politician states that he is against Terrorism, indoctrination, imperialism, and the murder of civilians....

and CAIR screams Islamophobia.

Hmm... that's a great way to get more people behind gay marriage: get CAIR to claim that gay marriage supporters are islamophobes who make Muhammad cry -- just like women who read and Jews and dog-owners.

462 CyanSnowHawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:31:30pm

re: #258 Peacekeeper

Want to make love to a park bench and then stage a wedding ceremony with it, presided over by a taxidermed aardvark? Be my guest.


What if I want to walk down the street without my toddler seeing two leather clad freaks caulking socks? Do I have a right?

Public lewdness and homosexuality are not the same thing. Please stop confusing the perverts.

463 The_Vig[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:31:31pm
464 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:31:35pm

re: #265 buzzsawmonkey

I still do not see what the big deal is. Honestly.
...etc.etc.
How does this in any way hurt existing, or traditional, marriages?

Swoon. I think I'm in love!

465 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:31:40pm

re: #456 buzzsawmonkey

Do you think there should be any limitations on who/what can get married?

466 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:31:42pm

re: #410 ArmyWife

I am opposed to gay marriage. I am not opposed to gay relationships - I don't care much what happens in people's bedrooms so long as its not harming me or something innocent such as a child or animal.

What we need to remember is there IS a cost associated with this - health insurance premiums will go up, that being the biggest one. Is that enough to say we shouldn't do this? I am not sure, but we kid ourselves if we don't think this isn't a part of the debate.

Why in the world would health insurance premiums go up? Please enlighten me.

467 unrealizedviewpoint[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:32:59pm
468 joncelli  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:33:26pm

re: #408 Dianna

Actually, I agree that marriage has all these benefits; what I'm saying is that you can't change only one thing. If you agree that the state should be promoting marriage because it's good for parents and children, then you must ban gay marriage; if you agree that the state shouldn't interfere in questions of marriage and shouldn't ban gay marriage, then you have to find some other means of promoting heterosexual marriage. You can't change just one thing.

469 LeftJustAintRight  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:33:37pm

I heard on another thread that Obama and Wright were gay lovers
I question the timing of this courts decision

470 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:33:39pm

re: #460 Occasional Reader

All this gay talk is making me feel gay. This is why even thinking about gays can gay you up.

The country won't be safe until the last sensitive artsy type gives up ballet to go see tractor pulls.

471 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:34:11pm
472 scott in east bay  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:34:14pm

I am here at work in San Francisco. I am reading a lot of very angry comments on this issue.

For those of you that don't live here, or know CA law, this is not a decision out of the blue. The state has passed many, many laws that give gay individuals and gay couples most of the same rights as straight married couples. California has had a Domestic Partnership law for over 5 years, with some 40,000 couples registered with the Secretary of State in Sacramento.

Also, the state legislature has passed laws to legalize gay marriage two years in a row. Arnold vetoed those because he said he wanted to courts to settle the Prop 22 argument, which it did today.

The court did NOT overturn the will of the people as the legislature voted to do this twice. The court, today, said there is no conflict between the legislative approach and Prop 22.

The state has made it clear, for years, that gays are to be treated like anyone else under state law. Now that will include marriage.

Marriage is a civil institution. You can get married in a church without the state's involvement, but it has no legal force without a state license. And no church can be forced to marry anyone it does not wish to, as witness Catholic priests who will not marry divorced persons (well, mostly).

In reality, this ruling will not give gay couples any more rights than they already have. All it does is allow the state to issue marriage licenses instead of domestic partnership certificates.

Even if the November measure passes, it will change nothing. It will just leave us with domestic partnerships as we have now.

Just for the record, I am in one of those domestic partnerships, with my partner of 18 years. If you think I am a "threat" to marriage, that's your issue, not mine.

We have moved on.

473 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:34:19pm

re: #462 CyanSnowHawk

Public lewdness and homosexuality are not the same thing. Please stop confusing the perverts.

Zombie started it! WAAAH!

474 redc1c4[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:34:34pm
475 sparrowlake  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:34:37pm

re: #265 buzzsawmonkey

I still do not see what the big deal is. Honestly.

I agree with you.
But many feel that homosexuality is an abnormal condition and that granting equal legal status to homosexual relationships will encourage homosexual conduct and will eventually result in a substantial increase in the proportion of homosexuals in the society. They would argue that an abnormal condition must not be allowed to become too common, lest it achieve a kind of critical mass which then begins to destroy or at least transform the society in ways that then may begin to threaten the existing institutions.

476 Widow'smight  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:34:53pm

re: #369 zombie

Actually Zombie, you and I agree on very little, nor do I constantly bash Non-Christians.

Do you have any Links to your "Fringe Religous Groups", and how their beliefs compare with mine, and many of the Evangelicals who post here?

I doubt very seriously based on your previous remarks if we'd ever be on the same "Team" anyway, but that's ok with me.

477 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:35:10pm

re: #471 buzzsawmonkey

Ahhhh, so there should be a boundary. We just disagree on it's location.

478 The_Vig  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:35:26pm

I think the best way to ummmm...stick it... to the islamists is to embrace the things they hate. Freedom, equality, feminism (not the leftist kind but you know, the good kind), Dogs, and even Homosexuality. It just drives them....uhhhhh.... nuts.

479 Athos  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:35:32pm

re: #438 karmic_inquisitor

My drivers license is a privilege. Just think if the state declared that operating a vehicle were a civil right.

The court has created a set of problems for itself and will now have to rule on how the state will be allowed to prohibit certain people at certain times from exercising this civil right.

Exactly.

Driver licenses for illegal immigrants will be one of the first that will come back to bite the court and the state. We've already had the receipt of state benefits by those in the state illegally defined as a civil right since it was not the state that defined those people as being illegally in the state / country.

Confusing priviledges with rights creates a very slippery slope. The only priviledge denied is the ability to use the term 'marriage'. There is no denial of the priviledge to create a legal family relationship and share the same benefits of civil marriage short of the term. So why is redefining the term so important? If there are to be no differences, then why any classifications by the state based on gender, race, ethnicity, sexual preference, or religion?

480 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:35:45pm

re: #470 Peacekeeper

The country won't be safe until the last sensitive artsy type gives up ballet to go see tractor pulls.

So you're in favor of state-mandated "butch"?

Fascist.

481 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:36:02pm

re: #471 buzzsawmonkey

Of course. But what I think about the outer limits is not the issue here.

Stop behaving like a barroom drunk and respond to the points in #265, or STFU.


And there is... nukular weapons

482 Ojoe  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:36:04pm

re: #472 scott in east bay

I have no problem if two different words are used to describe two different things.

This makes such dreadful politics.

483 Ornery Potlicker[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:36:08pm
484 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:36:28pm
485 StinkHammer  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:36:29pm

re: #463 The_Vig

I guess because it fits?

Funniest post on the thread. You got up-dinged for that.

/You'll be receiving a bill for my new monitor shortly.

486 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:36:54pm

re: #277 zmdavid

If the law means whatever some judge says, there are no gaurantees of anything.

But don't all our laws mean what some judge says? The U.S. Constitution is set up w/ judicial review as the final arbiter.

487 redc1c4  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:37:18pm

re: #472 scott in east bay

hear hear...... marriage is a *religious* institution, and is properly the issue for various religious bodies to adjudicate. the government has no business being in the marriage business.

IMHO, of course.

/CA native

488 Ojoe  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:37:45pm

re: #487 redc1c4

IMHO no business at all

489 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:37:48pm

re: #480 Occasional Reader

So you're in favor of state-mandated "butch"?

Fascist.

fetishist

490 wolfie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:37:49pm

re: #408 Dianna

I think you are looking at this through the eyes of historical experience, practical wisdom, and common sense. :O Yikes!

491 soccerdad  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:37:55pm

re: #84 WrathofG-d

What is the big deal exactly? The people of California are extreme leftists who would support the privilege of Homosexuals to "marry" eachother, and the Government passed a bill saying such.

This is a State's rights issue, and has been decided upon by this State.

This IS California we are talking about.

Wrath....wrong. The people voted 63% to NOT have gay marriage and an activist Judiciary decided that THEY knew better than the people. Overturned the proposition, and nullified the will of the people. Chilling.

492 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:38:10pm

re: #471 buzzsawmonkey

But what I think about the outer limits is not the issue here.

Cheap knockoff of "The Twilight Zone", if you ask me.

/do not attempt to adjust your television

493 joncelli  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:38:11pm

re: #457 Ornery Potlicker

Because it's more fun than putting it in a park bench? (I mean, think of the splinters!)

494 Golem Akbar  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:38:32pm

re: #470 Peacekeeper

All this gay talk is making me feel gay. This is why even thinking about gays can gay you up.

The country won't be safe until the last sensitive artsy type gives up ballet to go see tractor pulls.

I would make an excellent lesbian.

495 BuddyG  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:38:54pm

re: #484 buzzsawmonkey

We could quibble about the reasons where/why we draw our respective borders, but the point remains the we both have borders.

496 redc1c4  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:39:02pm

re: #475 sparrowlake

I agree with you.
But many feel that homosexuality is an abnormal condition and that granting equal legal status to homosexual relationships will encourage homosexual conduct and will eventually result in a substantial increase in the proportion of homosexuals in the society. They would argue that an abnormal condition must not be allowed to become too common, lest it achieve a kind of critical mass which then begins to destroy or at least transform the society in ways that then may begin to threaten the existing institutions.

yet all those years of keeping homosexual acts/relationships/etc illegal were unable to eliminate the existence of homosexuals...... that dog won't hunt.

497 Edouard  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:39:58pm

The CA Supremes in the minority on this decision wrote two dissenting opinions. From NRO Online, here are a couple of key quotes from these two opinions:

From associate justice Baxter’s dissent (joined by associate justice Chin): “Nothing in our Constitution, express or implicit, compels the majority’s startling conclusion that the age-old understanding of marriage ... is no longer valid. California statutes already recognize same-sex unions and grant them all the substantive legal rights this state can bestow. If there is to be a further sea change in the social and legal understanding of marriage itself, that evolution should occur by similar democratic means."

From associate justice Corrigan’s separate dissent: “The principle of judicial restraint is a covenant between judges and the people from whom their power derives.... It is no answer to say that judges can break the covenant so long as they are enlightened or well-meaning.... If there is to be a new understanding of the meaning of marriage in California, it should develop among the people of our state and find its expression at the ballot box.”

498 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:40:00pm

re: #404 Creeping Eruption

If that is the case, I don't have a problem with that. I have not read the
full decision though to agree or disagree with your analysis.

re: #449 Ojoe

The state of California has no power to confer that right; in my opinion, that right is there already.

In this matter the State of California should go home.

Regardless of how anyone feels about it, or its religious implication, states have regulated marriage for a very long time. Blood tests and marriage licenses are all commonly understood aspects of state regulation of marriage that most reasonable people understand and support.

But we have rights and we have privileges. Rights we are bron with and the state cannot take away except by due process (I lose my right to vote if I am convicted of a felony). Privileges one can get (and cannot be unreasonably refused) by complying with the state's requirements for the grant of such a privilege. Be it a drivers license or a cosmatology license, I have to demonstrate to the state that I have met the stated and clear requirements for such a privilege.

Marriage as a contract was, until today, a privilege. The state REQUIRED that I prove (through a blood test, for example) that I am not closely related to the person I wanted to marry. I also cannot get that license if the state finds that I am already married. Thus the basis for granting licenses.

As a civil right, however, the state has a much higher burden of state interest for regulating exercise of a right. We have such regulation - I cannot yell "fire" in a crowded theater, and (perhaps more controversially) I cannot buy a gun without a background check.

As for churches - they are free and have been free to describe whatever they want to as a marriage. Any one of us could establish a religion today and declare a refrigerator and a lamp as married - that marriage just wouldn't be recognized as a legal (and licensed) contract.

499 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:40:07pm

re: #492 Occasional Reader

Cheap knockoff of "The Twilight Zone", if you ask me.

/do not attempt to adjust your television

You green blooded son of a bitch! This all just one big joke to you isn't it?

500 sngnsgt  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:40:43pm

Marriage civil? When did this begin?

501 noraono  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:41:06pm

re: #476 Widow'smight

With the last few threads where religion has been discussed I'm so confused as to why all of us religious folks are mean, nasty, stupid, zealots.

I love others MORE than most non-religious people because my God told me to love everyone like he does. I do believe gays are sinners, but that's just one more thing we all have in common.

Sigh, I'm too much of a lurker to be a real lizard but i hate to see the divide in the army.

502 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:41:17pm

re: #372 restitutor orbis

Oh jeez. I bet Savage popped a blood vessel. Maybe this will give him something new to talk about rather than the lefty talking points he's been spewing lately (Corporations!.... Big Oil!...... Bush greatest disaster to befall the country!....... Who's pulling his strings?............... Puppetmasters!)

I agree. Savage has gone off the rails a bit too much recently. But he'll really have an anurysm over this story.

503 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:41:28pm

re: #499 Peacekeeper

You green blooded son of a bitch! This all just one big joke to you isn't it?

It is. UNTIL SOMEONE PROPOSES "GAY PON FARR". Then, the gloves come off.

504 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:41:42pm

re: #483 Ornery Potlicker

why don't you and zombie get a room and STFU yourself?


I hope the stick comes out soon. This ones a .. oh forget it.

505 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:41:54pm

re: #472 scott in east bay


The state has made it clear, for years, that gays are to be treated like anyone else under state law.


Witness the horrors or judicial activism.
/

506 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:42:57pm

re: #381 Shug

I like team zombie

Boy, if there really was a Team Zombie, we'd make the Bad News Bears look like the New York Yankees.

507 CyanSnowHawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:42:58pm

re: #473 Peacekeeper

Zombie started it! WAAAH!

Crybaby thread is next one over.

508 sngnsgt  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:43:17pm

This thread hit 500 posts quick.

509 dhimmimoore  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:43:21pm

re: #78 zombie

For some reason, even though I live at the epicenter of the gay marriage movement, this issue leaves me completely unmoved, one way or the other. To me, it's an unimportant side-issue affecting very few people that has been blown way out of proportion by both sides, on purpose.

If forced to take a stand, I'd have to come donw on the laissez-faire side of things: Marry whoever (or whatever) you want to marry. What's it got to do with me?

The problem is that by granting it state approval, despite the constitutional nonsense of it, it will now become mandatory to give it fair time in public schools.

It is only a matter of time before terms like MOM and DAD are deemed to be heterosexual-centric and therefore stricken from texts. Because if homosexual marriage is recognized by the state, then public school's better recognize it too, and they'll have to teach it to children.

This isn't just in sex education classes, its in all aspects of culture at school. It is a travesty and a disaster.

And it doesn't matter that private school is an option, for the vast majority of people who don't really know or care what their kids learn in school, the indoctrination will be complete.

510 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:43:45pm

re: #270 Kragar (Proud to be Kafir)

The point is that the "extreme leftists" of California, of whom I am one of apparently, voted by a large margin to ban such marriages by a constitutional ammendment. This amendment was just overturned by the courts. Note that homosexual marriage is still illegal, it just can't be banned at this point.

Is this correct? I thought the provision overturned was a law but not a constitutional amendment.

511 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:43:57pm

re: #475 sparrowlake


....granting equal legal status to homosexual relationships will encourage homosexual conduct and will eventually result in a substantial increase in the proportion of homosexuals in the society.

Do you really think straight people are going to turn gay because of this court decision?

512 scott in east bay  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:44:10pm

Just for the record, I keep seeing comments that say that the court overturned a part of the California constitution today.

That is incorrect. Prop 22 was a statute, not a constitutional amendment.

The November ballot issue IS a proposed constitutional amendment. I do, however, think it likely that even if it passes it will be struck down by the court for same reason as today. It institutionalizes discrimination in state law and state spousal rights based on sexual orientation which the court today defined as "immutable" and therefore suspect as a means of discrimination.

513 song_and_dance_man[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:44:12pm
514 Iron Fist  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:44:20pm

re: #397 JustMyView,

You've never heard of NAMBLA? Are you serious, or are you just ignoring a rather unpleasant reality?

515 newsjunkie_ky  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:44:36pm

re: #429 zombie
In an earlier post on this thread you wrote:

Exactly. Truth be told -- and believe me, I'm no fire-and-brimstone conservative, but a San Francisco laissez-faire liberal -- but my personal observations of people's lifestyles pretty much confirms the stereotypes, that gay men are fairly promiscuous (at least around these parts), and marriage is about the last thing on their minds. Casual multiple sexual partners seems pretty much standard behavior.


Now you write:

If anything, it will only serve to DECREASE promiscuity in the gay community.

So which is it then?

516 Athos  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:44:47pm

re: #448 Killgore Trout

What if that 60% wanted to ban blacks from getting married? What if 60% wanted to put Jews in concentration camps? Constitutionality is not popularity.

I don't entirely subscribe to the pure states rights positions simply because of those specific examples. In a pure states rights position, states should be able to do that and then have to live with any and all consequences.

In your specific examples we are addressing discrimination based on race and religion. Those are protected. A sexual preference does not rise to that level. States should permit domestic partnerships....not as a right, but as a priviledge to represent a binding legal contract of partnership to permit those partners to share benefits and make legal / financial / medical decisions on behalf of their partners.

Constitutionality is not about creating rights where rights do not exist.

We therefore conclude that in view of the substance and significance of the fundamental constitutional right to form a family relationship, the California Constitution properly must be interpreted to guarantee this basic civil right to all Californians, whether gay or heterosexual, and to same-sex couples as well as to opposite-sex couples.

So, where specifically in the CA State Constitution is a fundamental right to form a family relationship defined - and how does a domestic partnership not fulfill this and a civil marriage will?

517 BeerDrinking_VictoryMonkey  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:45:00pm

My whole life has been like a lesbian wedding.

518 BeerDrinking_VictoryMonkey  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:46:20pm

re: #514 Iron Fist

,

You've never heard of NAMBLA? Are you serious, or are you just ignoring a rather unpleasant reality?

What do the North American Marlon Brando Look-Alikes have to do with this?
/

519 Golem Akbar  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:47:05pm

re: #509 dhimmimoore

The problem is that by granting it state approval, despite the constitutional nonsense of it, it will now become mandatory to give it fair time in public schools.

It is only a matter of time before terms like MOM and DAD are deemed to be heterosexual-centric and therefore stricken from texts. Because if homosexual marriage is recognized by the state, then public school's better recognize it too, and they'll have to teach it to children.

This isn't just in sex education classes, its in all aspects of culture at school. It is a travesty and a disaster.
And it doesn't matter that private school is an option, for the vast majority of people who don't really know or care what their kids learn in school, the indoctrination will be complete.

And there is another slippery-slope issue: one of fairness. The ACLU said that gay marriage is just one step to equality. Polygamous marriages are also an issue with the ACLU, and to deny polygamous marriages is to deny equal access. It's the next logical step.

520 sparrowlake  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:47:21pm

re: #496 redc1c4

yet all those years of keeping homosexual acts/relationships/etc illegal were unable to eliminate the existence of homosexuals...... that dog won't hunt.

Yes, but let's say for argument's sake that keeping it illegal is what has kept the current percentage (say 10%) from climbing much higher.
Woof.

521 LeftJustAintRight  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:47:25pm

I am glad
I have been a lesbian trapped in a mans body my whole life

522 Grok the Fullness  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:47:32pm

re: #496 redc1c4

All those years of keeping murder illegal hasn't worked either.

523 Roger  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:47:46pm

Here comes the Bride!
Here comes the Bride!

[*commotion in the 'sanctuary'*]
[*shuffling of papers*]

Here comes the Gride!
Here comes the Broom!

524 ArmyWife  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:47:48pm

re: #466 unrealizedviewpoint

Because more people would be covered on a family plan or employee +1 plan. This costs more for the company - its more expensive to cover more people. Right now, except in certain states, companies do not have to offer insurance unless you are legally married. Also, premiums are based on usage - if you have more people covered under the policy, the spend goes up, even if its only used for non-catastrophic events such as routine physicals.

You could argue that now these people pay for their own policies so its net neutral, however, one of the most common arguments I've seen in support of this is for one partner to add the other to their policy or to cover a partner that doesn't have insurance, or doesn't work so they don't have company sponsored insurance, which is cost prohibitive.

By the way, the answer is NOT universal health care. Just sayin'

525 Slumbering Behemoth  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:48:19pm

re: #440 Squirrelguy

Should be. Since my state issued Concealed Handgun License, (which, btw, was harder to get thean my driver's license), isn't recognized in all 50 states.

I'm not quite sure what you mean by "should be". If you mean that your degree should only be valid in the state in which you earned, that is not a good thing.

Imagine spending 8+ years time and money earning a degree, then having to do that all over again in another state if you move.

C&C permits should be covered under the full faith and credit clause, as that is a second amendment issue which should also apply equally to all states. Of course we know it isn't, but it should be.

526 Charles  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:48:24pm

Again -- people are quoting offensive comments that are bound to be deleted.

PLEASE use the 'reply' button, not 'quote', if you want to reply to an offensive comment. Otherwise, your comment will be deleted too.

527 DownRightMeanAmerican  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:48:45pm

re: #265 buzzsawmonkey

I think you make some very good points there.

At my last house there was a gay couple that lived next door, they lived as and did all the same things a straight married coupled did, same thing with a gay couple client I had, so why not have the same rights.

I have members of my family that are straight have children and have been playing house for 20 years (unmarried) I think it is weird that gays fight for the right to be married, yet so many other Americans who have the right, don’t use it and are kinda against it.

528 Golem Akbar  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:49:01pm

re: #511 Killgore Trout

Do you really think straight people are going to turn gay because of this court decision?

No, but more straight teenagers will experiment with gay sex, because it is more accepted. Their are social implications that go well beyond "marriage" between two adults.

529 NoSubmission  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:49:03pm

OrneryPotlicker got the stick.
Heh,.

530 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:49:08pm

re: #386 formercorpsman

You have seen the story floating around about the guy who called the catholic hospital main number, asked if they did sex change operations, knew the answer would no, and now has a lawsuit.

To think somehow, the motivation behind this is to just live and let live, you are fooling yourself.

There is an effort by politically motivated people, subverting our constitutional process of a couple hundred years.

I don't like where this goes. Only because it never stops with equality. It is a barge to encroach upon people's free will if they so disagree with this lifestyle.

Think about some small business person who may decide to hire someone, or not based upon certain attributes they feel might have a negative impact for their success.

This type of thing has a major domino effect.

And if things go too far I will "switch sides" in an instant and join with those who want to stop special privileges for gays or any group.

But this particular ruling is not about special privileges. It's about equality.

I do understand the Gramscian aspect of this, and do acknowledge that a certain percentage of those activists pushing for gay marriage are doing so for the specific purpose of overturning social norms. And that they intend to push for more concessions.

But they don't realize that there are a LOT of people like me who will grant them reasonable concessions to bring equality to society, but who will fight them tooth and nail once they start pushing too far.

531 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:49:21pm

re: #367 BuddyG


Whether you agree with Buzz or not, he is a very fair, very intellectual member on the site.

It may be he did not see your post, or has had time to respond.

532 Widow'smight  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:50:01pm

re: #501 noraono

I don't worry about it, my faith is strong enough to survive the ire of someone sitting at a keyboard.

533 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:50:12pm

re: #514 Iron Fist

I cannot believe I am agreeing with JustMyView but you need read #369 zombie

534 Golem Akbar  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:50:16pm

re: #521 LeftJustAintRight

I am glad
I have been a lesbian trapped in a mans body my whole life


I can understand that. If I had been a woman, I think I would've made a great lesbian.

535 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:50:34pm
536 wolfie  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:50:52pm

re: #413 Killgore Trout

Yes, it does. To some extent if someone's religious beliefs are so rigid then they need to take responsibility and insulate themselves from the rest of society. Muslims who object to guide dogs, booze and pork should move to Saudi Arabia. America has no obligation to create a society that accommodates all religions without offense. People should take responsibility for their own sensitivities not expect the rest of society to accommodate them.

I am in basic agreement with what you say, but it's still problematic. The problem comes in with that little phrase, "the rest of society." In other words, you are implicitly talking about minorities attempting to force the majority to
accomodate their beliefs.
But suppose hypothetically that 90% of Americans are opposed to polygamy. What should those who want to practice it (w/ sanction of contract law behind them) do? I would say, with you(?), that they are out of luck and perhaps should move. I would also say that they can try to convince Americans to change their minds and work to overturn the laws.
I would NOT say that they can impose their views on the majority by judicial fiat.

537 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:51:00pm

re: #516 Athos

- and how does a domestic partnership not fulfill this and a civil marriage will?

I think AP nailed when he pointed out the problem with that line of thinking. I a understand your point correctly your saying that you don't object to gays having the same right but you just don't want them to call it marriage. Just like gays shouldn't have more rights in society neither should heteros. Why should you care if they call it a marriage? It doesn't take anything away from you or infringe on your rights.

538 coquimbojoe  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:51:28pm

Saw this this morning. If I can't use it here, where can it be used?

/My humble apologies...

539 Dianna  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:52:27pm

re: #429 zombie

License versus liberty may be the question; I'm not trying to say anything either way, just, I would like to know how gays are going to persuade married people with children, who feel that marriage is under enough threat already?

540 coquimbojoe  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:52:55pm

re: #538 coquimbojoe

Saw this this morning. If I can't use it here, where can it be used?

/My humble apologies...

Nevermind, Linky didn't work.....

541 Killgore Trout  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:53:48pm

re: #528 Golem Akbar

No, but more straight teenagers will experiment with gay sex, because it is more accepted.


Would you turn gay if it was socially acceptable?

542 Edouard  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:53:57pm

re: #512 scott in east bay

Just for the record, I keep seeing comments that say that the court overturned a part of the California constitution today.

That is incorrect. Prop 22 was a statute, not a constitutional amendment.

The November ballot issue IS a proposed constitutional amendment. I do, however, think it likely that even if it passes it will be struck down by the court for same reason as today. It institutionalizes discrimination in state law and state spousal rights based on sexual orientation which the court today defined as "immutable" and therefore suspect as a means of discrimination.

There will have to be time to digest the very long full opinion, and the dissenting responses to it, before we can know for certain whether the CA Supremes will be able to strike down a future constitutional amendment.

Also the chief architects of the proposed amendment will now have a chance to directly react, and frame the initiative in such a way that it responds to the majority holdings in this decision.

543 Athos  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:54:08pm

re: #530 zombie

But they don't realize that there are a LOT of people like me who will grant them reasonable concessions to bring equality to society, but who will fight them tooth and nail once they start pushing too far.

Isn't that like AP's position on HotAir that you're giving up 99 yards and deciding not to fight until it's on your own 1 yard line?

I think a complete domestic partnership law / opportunity provides a reasonable concession to bring equity to those willing to enter into a legally binding partnership. I still fail to see the need to redefine a term 'marriage' to complete the equity equation.

544 Christopher Luebcke  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:54:20pm

re: #514 Iron Fist - I think you'd find that any gay or lesbian couple actually interested in getting married would be among the first in line to slice the tool off any NAMBLA child molester. The whole gay=child molester thing has about as much relationship to reality as the blood libel.

545 sparrowlake  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:56:16pm

re: #511 Killgore Trout

Do you really think straight people are going to turn gay because of this court decision?

I don't know how many will, but I would have to admit that I do think that some will feel more comfortable with the idea. And school curriculums will need to teach children that homosexuality is equal to heterosexuality since legal unions of each are equally sanctioned by the law.

546 Widow'smight  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:56:27pm

re: #530 zombie

BTW, do you have a link for the statement you made the other day about how Moonbats might see the light of Islamofacism if it wasn't for all us "Fundamental, Ultraright wing, hard working, Christian Breeders",
or whatever you called us?

547 Summer  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:56:39pm

Why should anyone even care?

I mean, I get that a whole lot of Christian Conservatives are pissed of...and I understand. But so what? We're not a "Christian" country. "Christ" is not in the Constitution. We are not a Theocracy, no matter how hard they try. I mean, I don't get all up in arms at Christian weddings, saying that they are an abomination against my beliefs, and where would we be if more Christian Conservatives got married and pushed their beliefs upon my kids, do I?

You know, a few decades ago, people thought that marrying black and white couples together was a crime against God as well - a ton of Christian Conservatives thought this as well. Don't give me the BS that you've all come around, or that Christian leaders fought to overturn it. The fact is that the majority of the Christian population thought it was a really bad idea, and could justify it with passages in the Bible.

What's the difference?

Then again, I won't see the answer. I've got better things to do. I'm just spouting off to piss everyone off because I can. =)

Have a good ranting day. Oh and I do agree with your right to rant. I just also have the right to call you on it.

548 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:56:51pm

re: #305 karmic_inquisitor

This decision changes that - marriage is now a civil right. One's standing in society is damaged when one is not recognized as "married" because of one's sexual preference.

A priest CANNOT refuse to mary a black parishoner to a white parishoner if either would be allowed to marry someone of their same race.

This is now a civil right, and has to be viewed under the same tests.

Are you sure? I think clergy can refuse to marry any two people for pretty much any reason. Consider, for instance, rabbis who refuse to participate at mixed marriages. There are lots of them, and it's perfectly within their rights to say, essentially, "Marrying this couple would not be consistent with my concept of Jewish marriage."

And religious reasons are not the only ones that might lead a clergyperson to refuse to performa a marriage. He or she might feel, for instance, that the couple is too immature to marry or that the relationship is abusive.

549 maddogg  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:57:04pm

As far as I'm concerned, gay marriage is nothing more than the rendering meaningless the union between a man and a woman, and therefore the responsibility that entails. Marriage is now reduced to nothing more than a legality, like parking laws. Thats all I have to say.

550 BeerDrinking_VictoryMonkey  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:57:16pm

re: #540 coquimbojoe

Nevermind, Linky didn't work.....


I saw a dog with an Afro wig. Not appropriate for this thread, but I enjoyed seeing it nonetheless.

551 redc1c4  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:58:28pm

re: #515 newsjunkie_ky

In an earlier post on this thread you wrote:


So which is it then?

where's the contradiction?

552 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 12:59:52pm

re: #320 newsjunkie_ky

Seem to remember seeing pictures of public sex in SF on zombie's site. Don't think they were arrested.

No, you saw public nudity. Not the same thing.

553 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:00:33pm
554 newsjunkie_ky  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:00:58pm

re: #551 redc1c4
I'm sorry, is it that you cannot read or cannot comprehend?

555 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:01:03pm

re: #524 ArmyWife

Because more people would be covered on a family plan or employee +1 plan. This costs more for the company - its more expensive to cover more people. Right now, except in certain states, companies do not have to offer insurance unless you are legally married. Also, premiums are based on usage - if you have more people covered under the policy, the spend goes up, even if its only used for non-catastrophic events such as routine physicals.

You could argue that now these people pay for their own policies so its net neutral, however, one of the most common arguments I've seen in support of this is for one partner to add the other to their policy or to cover a partner that doesn't have insurance, or doesn't work so they don't have company sponsored insurance, which is cost prohibitive.

By the way, the answer is NOT universal health care. Just sayin'


What an empty argument:

Again I'll state: we are talking here about 1% of 6% of the population.

Example: California has about 35,000,000 people and only 40,000 of them are registered as domestic partners. The numbers don't add up. They are no threat to your insurance premium.

556 Dad O' Blondes  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:01:10pm

Can the Supreme Court of California legalize lower gas prices?

How about $1.35 per gallon?

.

557 CyanSnowHawk  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:01:14pm

re: #542 Edouard

There will have to be time to digest the very long full opinion, and the dissenting responses to it, before we can know for certain whether the CA Supremes will be able to strike down a future constitutional amendment.

Also the chief architects of the proposed amendment will now have a chance to directly react, and frame the initiative in such a way that it responds to the majority holdings in this decision.

The signatures have already been submitted for the Nov Initiative IIRC, which means that there cannot be significant changes to it without requiring a new round of signature gathering. And one of my previous posts incorrectly referred to the upcoming one as Prop 22. It will likely be in the range of 100-110, since the June ballot has Props 98 and 99 on it.

558 RedSoxNation  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:01:32pm

Thank you... Thank you... Thank you... Thank you Thank you ************** The Republican National Committee

559 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:01:33pm

re: #472 scott in east bay

Scott, I respect your opinion, but disagree.

The potential for things like this reach beyond their scope is always the problem.

I pose a serious question, and not to be cute about it.

What do we expect, when a bisexual couple present their case to the court, expecting recognition of a union between 3 members in a relationship?

Seriously?

Is their a leg to stand on asking to have this judged as a moral argument? From there, what prevents any other arrangement from recognition? I am thinking along the lines of the litigious domino effect it could have.

My opposition has to do with the activism behind these issues, and overwhelming socialism that is proprietary to it.

560 Honorary Yooper  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:01:44pm

re: #504 unrealizedviewpoint

I hope the stick comes out soon. This ones a .. oh forget it.

The stick did come out. He's the only one I've seen be that uncivil in this thread, and he's been banned.

561 newsjunkie_ky  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:01:45pm

re: #552 JustMyView

Perhaps you did not see the picture of the guy giving the other guy a hummer. Go look.

562 redc1c4  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:02:32pm

re: #540 coquimbojoe

Nevermind, Linky didn't work.....

like this?

563 wolfie  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:02:40pm

re: #512 scott in east bay

Just for the record, I keep seeing comments that say that the court overturned a part of the California constitution today.

That is incorrect. Prop 22 was a statute, not a constitutional amendment.

The November ballot issue IS a proposed constitutional amendment. I do, however, think it likely that even if it passes it will be struck down by the court for same reason as today. It institutionalizes discrimination in state law and state spousal rights based on sexual orientation which the court today defined as "immutable" and therefore suspect as a means of discrimination.

Oh. So California can't amend it's constitution? Or can't amend it without court approval?!? What is "immutable"? The judges opinion? This makes no sense to me.

564 Dianna  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:03:55pm

re: #468 joncelli

I am damned if I can take it that way. I don't know - and can barely begin to articulate - how in the middle I am. If this would reduce HIV infections in the gay community, and give lesbians more incentive to become homeowners (not that they're not already frequently homeowners), or otherwise encourage stability and economic success, why isn't it a good idea?

On the other hand, does this affect heterosexual married people? Is it a slippery slope? Is this a good thing overall?

Why or why not? How, or how not?

I'm not the one who needs to be convinced; people like my brother and his wife are the people who need to be persuaded, and so far, they haven't been honestly addressed.

565 redc1c4  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:04:40pm

re: #554 newsjunkie_ky

I'm sorry, is it that you cannot read or cannot comprehend?

maybe the issue is on your end......

s/he said current behavior is "x"

s/he then said that the decision "might cause change"

where's the contradiction in that?

566 ciaospirit  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:04:41pm

re: #92 MigueldowninMexico

This is the next enlightened step California should take.
Already being considered by some Europeans.

Go all the way! Why stop at a third of it?

The goats and camels are ecstatic.

567 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:04:54pm

re: #530 zombie

But Zombie, I think the meeting half way was already thrown out there in many states who were willing to recognize domestic partnerships with essentially all of the same legal benefit as traditional marriage.

The people who won't accept such compromise are the people I am referring to.

I really am, as a business owner, concerned about things like this.

It has a tremendous reach with respect to judicial precedent.

568 Dianna  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:05:06pm

re: #490 wolfie

Yeah, and I'm expecting to get thwacked, shortly.

569 Zach_the_Lizard  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:05:39pm

I personally think gay marriage is wrong. However, as a libertarian, I feel that it should be allowed.

That said, I have a HUGE problem with a court declaring from on high that voters can't have their wish. I have an even bigger problem with other courts declaring that anti-gay marriage amendments are unconstitutional.

But this is California, the exact opposite of libertarianism: socialism.

570 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:07:07pm

re: #556 Dad O' Blondes

Can the Supreme Court of California legalize lower gas prices?

How about $1.35 per gallon?

.

No, but the legislature could do away with the $.45 tax per gallon. On top of that there's a sales tax of 8 1/4 %. On top of that there's the Fed $.18 per gallon.

A tax on a tax, on a tax, on a tax.

571 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:07:13pm

Just to make a point here ...

This is a bad decision because of the damage it does to the meaning of "constitution" and the idea of marriage as a regulated contract.

I am a native Californian and don't have a problem with gays, and know several gay couples who have been together longer (and act more responsibly as a family unit) than some folks that I have known who got married, split up and screwed up their children's lives.

It is hard to find anything under California law and jurisdiction that has been confered on gay couples today that they didn't have until today (like access to the partner in the hospital, medical decisions, forming a family, custody, etc) that the state hasn't already made provisions for in the interest of equality. Substantively, what Gay couples didn't have was the socially accepted designation of "married".

What happens when courts create rights out of whole cloth is that it short circuits democracy and the playing out of social tensions that are necessary to have a cohesive society with common values.

In that sense, this is just like Roe v. Wade. Again, regardless of whether you are "pro-choice" or "pro-life" the argument was taken out of your hands by judicial fiat. As a result, the SOCIAL issue of abortion has never been resolved and remains a wedge that divides us. Now, so will Gay marriage IMO.

This would have been better handled by a repeal of prop 22 at the ballot box, which I think most Californians would have voted for.

572 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:07:17pm

re: #559 formercorpsman

What do we expect, when a bisexual couple present their case to the court, expecting recognition of a union between 3 members in a relationship?

Or... the more likely test case, IMHO... a Muslim man claiming his "right" to marry multiple wives. (Because he'll have multiculti on his side, too.)

573 ArmyWife  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:07:49pm

re: #555 unrealizedviewpoint


Don't misunderstand - it won't affect my premiums at all, I am an Army dependant. HOwever, I am also an HR Manager and this is a hot topic for those that head up Benefits depts, I'll try to find some numbers to link to, I've had professional publications list the impact in dollars and cents. I can't quote (and would want a link to back it up anyway) because I DON'T do benefits (too much paper pushing for my liking). I just bring it up because it IS being debated under these terms.

574 Athos  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:08:17pm

re: #537 Killgore Trout

Because the term marriage has been defined, legally, in the State of California as between one man and one woman. That has been the generally accepted definition for millenium...or as long as the term existed. This is a case of a state supreme court overruling the definition and assigning a civil right to an act that was just a priviledge.

Edouard in #497 linked to
this comment on the dissent to this 4-3 decision on NRO

From associate justice Baxter’s dissent (joined by associate justice Chin): “Nothing in our Constitution, express or implicit, compels the majority’s startling conclusion that the age-old understanding of marriage ... is no longer valid. California statutes already recognize same-sex unions and grant them all the substantive legal rights this state can bestow. If there is to be a further sea change in the social and legal understanding of marriage itself, that evolution should occur by similar democratic means."

From associate justice Corrigan’s separate dissent: “The principle of judicial restraint is a covenant between judges and the people from whom their power derives.... It is no answer to say that judges can break the covenant so long as they are enlightened or well-meaning.... If there is to be a new understanding of the meaning of marriage in California, it should develop among the people of our state and find its expression at the ballot box.

I've seen firsthand gay couples where one was prohibited from visiting their partner in intensive care because there was not a domestic partnership provision in that state. She was prohibited from directly talking to doctors and making decisions for her partner. That is wrong and has, in CA, been fixed by the domestic partnership laws. It is a civil / legal partnership. That is all that is needed to establish equity. If we are going to redefine the term, then I agree with the dissentors in that it needs to come from the people not judges.

575 pfpfutureking  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:09:02pm

I think it is a good thing. Why should only heterosexual couples be forced to suffer?

576 Slumbering Behemoth  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:09:03pm

re: #263 incanus

No, you're a Luddite.

I fail to see how you inferred an illogical fear of technological change from that. ;)

577 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:09:10pm

re: #564 Dianna

I don't know - and can barely begin to articulate - how in the middle I am

You're an extremist moderate!

578 edward cropper  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:09:24pm

Ass not what your government can do for you

579 ArmyWife  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:09:33pm

re: #573 ArmyWife


one more thing - my biggest concern in this debate is how it came about and the slippery slope effect, not so much health insurance premiums. Again, I just brought it up because it is being used as part of the debate -

580 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:09:37pm

re: #560 Honorary Yooper

The stick did come out. He's the only one I've seen be that uncivil in this thread, and he's been banned.

Just an ugly zealot he was. Thank you Charles!

581 Iron Fist  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:09:53pm

re: #533 unrealizedviewpoint,

Google NAMBLA. I won't provide a link, because I doubt seriously that Charles would approve of one. Are they a small minority, yes. But they are there, and they are trying to get the age of consent lowered. I am unaware of any similar heterosexually oriented group pushing for legislation to lower the age of consent. With all due respect to Zombie, he/she has pulled the 99% figure out of the air.

re: #544 Christopher Luebcke,

There are both heterosexual and homosexual child predators out there, but I am unaware of any organized heterosexual group pushing for legislation to lower the age of consent in the United States. I will also say that there seems to be more per capita homosexual (almost exclusively male) child predators than there are heterosexual child predators. Homosexuals are about 3% of the population. I don't know what percentage of child predators are homosexual, but it seems like it would be more than 3%.

I would expect them to be the minority of them because, after all, they are a minority in the population. Still, to compare it to the blood libel is absurd. There are homosexual child predators.

Last time I checked, no Jews were really making matzho out of the blood of Christian children.

582 DesertSage  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:09:59pm

re: #547 Summer

Why should anyone even care?

I live in CA. I voted to keep marriage between a man and a woman...along with 61% of my fellow Californians. Now a single judge, in a 4-3 split decision overrules a vast majority of the people of California.

That's why I care!

Not because I'm a Christian (I'm Not).
Not because I'm bigoted (I'm not).
But because of judicial activism which sees it as their duty to overthrow the will of the people.

Question: If you and 61% of the people in your state voted to legalize gay marriage, and a single judge overturned you and your fellow citizens will, and made it illegal....would you care then?

583 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:10:02pm

re: #548 JustMyView

Mixed in which way? By race? I was not aware that clergy could refuse such a marriage. They certainly can on the basis of faith differences or even perceived orthodoxy of the parishoners. But I am pretty sure that, as a matter of law, they cannot refuse solely on the basis of skin color (and most would find some other reason so as to dodge the issue).

584 Daisy  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:11:42pm

re: #114 Occasional Reader

"I don't really think the Folsom Street crowd were just waiting all along for a legal justification to settle down into stable, monogamous marriages, and join the PTA. But that's just me."

Me too. Gay culture is not the same as straight culture. The designation 'straight' is not exactly complimentary - it really means kind of white bread boring. This marriage thing is a phase for gays. As soon as the novelty wears off, it will be something else. So, I am opposed to legalizing marriage for gays (also polygamists, etc). However, if gay people want to become partners in some kind of civil ceremony and share their fortunes, I could care less.

585 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:11:46pm

re: #573 ArmyWife

Don't misunderstand - it won't affect my premiums at all, I am an Army dependant. HOwever, I am also an HR Manager and this is a hot topic for those that head up Benefits depts, I'll try to find some numbers to link to, I've had professional publications list the impact in dollars and cents. I can't quote (and would want a link to back it up anyway) because I DON'T do benefits (too much paper pushing for my liking). I just bring it up because it IS being debated under these terms.

I call bull. It's a smokescreen. Folks want to legitimize their bigoted opinions with falsified numbers.

586 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:11:52pm

re: #572 Occasional Reader

Exactly.

Although I personally have other objections to it, I realize, like Killgore alluded to, in a melting pot, I might have to accept beyond my comfort level.

My argument has always been, what does this do to other people's rights? Employers? Businesses? etc.

To think somehow this just stops at the door of marriage is foolish.

How often has anything like this not been the springboard for other motivations?

587 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:12:26pm

re: #573 ArmyWife

Yes, you are correct.

588 Grok the Fullness  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:12:42pm

I mean, what is normal? If anal sex isn't a line crosser then neither is incest.

589 The_Vig  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:13:00pm

To the folks that think that adolescents will try gay sex because it is socially acceptable are living on another planet. Kids do socially unacceptable things because they are socially unacceptable. Girls kissing girls has gotten to the point that it is so acceptable that girls won't even kiss each other when you get them drunk anymore. (What is the world coming to.)

Bottom line kids rebel against society. It is what they do to define their individuality. Legalizing gay marriage is the best thing that we can do to get kids to not become gay.
It also has a nice little side affect that I think will make this country a lot better. Gay Divorce As these marriages come to term, as most marriages do, the divorce proceedings are going to create some beneficial precedents. For men that is. What happens in a divorce today usually goes against the men. Men almost never get custody, unless the wife is completely unfit. Gay Divorce will cause the courts to look at these hearings in a gender neutral fashion. In the long run we will hopefully get equity in these proceedings. Then we will all be truly equal.

590 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:13:17pm

re: #577 Occasional Reader

You're an extremist moderate!

I nominate.

591 Creeping Eruption  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:15:56pm

re: #560 Honorary Yooper

The stick did come out. He's the only one I've seen be that uncivil in this thread, and he's been banned.

How do you know? Is there a list kept somewhere, or are yo just part of the illuminati?

/

592 markus  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:16:19pm

Polygamy should be legal.

Marrying your mother.

marrying yourself will be soon.

593 Nemesis6  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:16:45pm

Good for them. It pays off not to use an ancient book to judge people who are different. The land of the free just got a little more free, but lots of stuff like this remains.

594 danolt  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:17:06pm

I wonder how many companies will increase or drop spousal benefits for their employees.

If marriage can be open to any consenting adult, why not get married just for insurance coverage? Don't like dorms? Marry your roommate so you can get to married housing. After all, what does love have to do with marriage throughout most of human history.

How about "Don't ask Don't tell. Well, ummm I will need married housing but umm, errr?" If this comes to pass someone is gonna enlist just to get on Oprah and hope for a big fat trial lawyer/talk circuit paycheck.

There will be a lots of ripples from this decision.

Eventually, the government will not be able to identify it's own most basic structure, the family.

595 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:17:21pm

re: #585 unrealizedviewpoint

You know, none of her posts from I've read have been inflammatory.

This is my argument as well.

If you don't think that an insurance company is paying numerous lawyers, and actuaries big money to decipher risk you are fooling yourself.

Numbers do play into it.

Life expectancies play into it.

Everything is considered to define a threshold for profitability.

To think somehow this is not factored is amusing.

They do it with drivers.

596 sparrowlake  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:17:26pm

re: #535 buzzsawmonkey

If you want to say homosexual sex is sinful, I'll agree with you. But so is sleeping with your unmarried girlfriend--or your blind date. If you want to say homosexual sex is abominable, in the idolatrous sense, we can have an interesting discussion on whether it is idolatrous per se or only when it is done in the service of a deity. But the notion that it is "abnormal," or forbidden because it is "abnormal," is absurd.

I am for the next while going to refrain from engaging in religious arguments here. Besides, even if homosexual sex is sinful, that is not by itself a reason to deny it civil status. And the same goes for the "abomination" argument.
That leaves us with what I take to be your refusal to discuss whether homosexuality is abnormal. I would be prepared to discuss that but you are not.
So we really have nothing more to discuss.

597 maddogg  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:17:48pm

re: #592 markus

Polygamy should be legal.

Marrying your mother.

marrying yourself will be soon.

I have known some guys who should have married their hand.

598 Grok the Fullness  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:19:02pm

re: #597 maddogg

I love my hand. It knows my needs.

599 DesertSage  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:19:02pm

re: #593 Nemesis6

Good for them. It pays off not to use an ancient book to judge people who are different. The land of the free just got a little more free, but lots of stuff like this remains.

You call a single judge overturning a vast majority of voters "freedom"?

You're sick! I call it a tyrannical abuse of power!

600 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:19:06pm

I'm out.

601 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:20:03pm
602 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:20:20pm

re: #386 formercorpsman

You have seen the story floating around about the guy who called the catholic hospital main number, asked if they did sex change operations, knew the answer would no, and now has a lawsuit.

Think about some small business person who may decide to hire someone, or not based upon certain attributes they feel might have a negative impact for their success.

This type of thing has a major domino effect.

Stories "floating around" are not a very good basis for argument. Is there any documentation that such a thing actually happened? Because, you know, Catholic hospitals refuse to perform abortions all the time, and they do not get sued for it.

I think a business person who could provide a business-related reason for hiring or not hiring someone would be on safe grounds. The Americans with Disabilities Act, for instance, requires employers to make reasonable accommodations for people w/ disabilities, but it does not require that they hire people whose disabilities prevent them from doing the job under any circumstances.

603 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:21:09pm

re: #581 Iron Fist

, Google NAMBLA. I won't provide a link, because I doubt seriously that Charles would approve of one. Are they a small minority, yes. But they are there, and they are trying to get the age of consent lowered. I am unaware of any similar heterosexually oriented group pushing for legislation to lower the age of consent. With all due respect to Zombie, he/she has pulled the 99% figure out of the air.

You just said it's a small minority. I'm not interested in finding out how small, as that would require researching NAMBLA. I don't want to do that. I venture to say probably less then 200 folks. I'd say that's a minority. Not representative in a country of 330 million.

Your argument that gays are primary offenders with regard pedophilia is false. I'm certain some others will debunk that for me. links please.

604 Ringo the Gringo  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:21:12pm

Expect the Prince Tony marries Prince Adam fairy tale books to be on the elementary school library bookshelves by Monday.

605 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:25:03pm

re: #595 formercorpsman

You know, none of her posts from I've read have been inflammatory.

This is my argument as well.

If you don't think that an insurance company is paying numerous lawyers, and actuaries big money to decipher risk you are fooling yourself.

Numbers do play into it.

Life expectancies play into it.

Everything is considered to define a threshold for profitability.

To think somehow this is not factored is amusing.

They do it with drivers.

The argument doesn't carry weight. So few gays will partake. Just as so few partake now.
Again - California has a population of appx 35 million and only 40 thousand of them partake.

606 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:25:04pm

re: #600 formercorpsman

I'm out.

On the "gay marriage" thread, you might want to rephrase that.

607 Vergeltung  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:25:19pm

re: #588 Grok the Fullness

I mean, what is normal? If anal sex isn't a line crosser then neither is incest.

it's completely, and untterly abnormal, and that is quite obvious. Only liberal PC took homosexuality off the list of psychiatric abnormalities in the 1970s.

608 Dianna  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:27:31pm

re: #552 JustMyView

Ah, no. There was actual sex.

Sorry.

If it's any comfort, I was surprised, too.

609 debutaunt  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:27:32pm

re: #143 song_and_dance_man

Well, at least they won't be able to procreate.

Well there you go, pointing out the fact that most gay people are brought into the world by straight people.

610 Nemesis6  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:28:15pm

re: #599 DesertSage

Well, what the majority believes is irrelevant in this case. It's the right thing to do. Right supercedes democracy. I believe it's the first amendment that specifies that congress shall make no law respecting any establishment of religion. And these issues of ban on gay marriage and general bans on homosexuality are just that. Here's the way to do it: Legalize it, and don't force any churches to marry them if they don't want to. How about that?

611 Peacekeeper  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:28:30pm

Tomoorow morning they will still be posting and SFTUing on this thread.

612 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:28:38pm
613 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:29:17pm

re: #602 JustMyView

Actually, just because I have not looked for the links does not cancel it out.

IIRC, I think it might have been a topic of discussion here before. Actual thread, I can't recall, but it was out there.

As well, I was planning on leaving, but knew this was coming.

As an employer, and someone in the medical field, I can confirm, if you think that somehow this is only in the spirit of fairness that the push behind issues such as this, you have blinders on.

This topic, just like many others clogging our judicial system are for the express benefit of having objectives met, that otherwise are dead on arrival if actually left to the will of the people.

Now I am really out.

But rest assured, I know your background, and I will dig up the link when I get back tonight from a hockey game.

In fact, I am looking to get out of medicine after 18 years because of these very issues. (The broader scale)

614 noraono  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:30:11pm

this saturday is the Long Beach, CA pride festival which normally means a lot of drunk people at 10AM and i have to move my car to the other side of the street or else i'll be fenced in all day.

I gather it's going to be considerably more rowdy this year...one of my dogs just loves it so i have to take him so he can prance around with the drag queens.

615 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:30:12pm

re: #612 buzzsawmonkey

but so are those heterosexual couples who decide to engage in anal sex now and then for a bit of variety

OKAY, LISTEN UP, LIZARDS... SHOW OF HANDS...

616 sparrowlake  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:30:43pm

re: #609 debutaunt

Well there you go, pointing out the fact that most gay people are brought into the world by straight people.

You are ignoring all those children of lesbian mothers. Remember, homosexuality does not preclude procreation - it only makes it more challenging.

617 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:31:34pm

re: #605 unrealizedviewpoint

You and I will have to disagree.

You are looking at it through one set of glasses, I another.

It's not just California.

Think about in the terms of universal health care.

It has socialistic agenda behind it.

618 vestalmiss  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:32:08pm

I am a rare breed. I am very liberal about some issues like gay marriage and abortion and very conservative about other issues like small government.

It does not bother me one way or another if gays get married. I have been married for 17 years and I say let them suffer with the rest of us. I just wish I was a divorce lawyer because the odds of a gay couple staying together are very small. I think it is in the 20% range.

619 tankascribe  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:32:11pm

In this state, it's not about equality -- gays have had that for almost two decades now. It's not about tolerance -- they've had that, too. It's about approval, a purely social artifact. If the majority of Californians don't approve of such a thing, why then we must be forced by law. That's what sticks in our craws.

I'm a native-born Californio but my state has turned into a socialist cesspool where anything goes. The city next to my town just declared bankruptcy due to their love of socialist do-goodery programs and catering to union demands. I despise this "everyone must get everything" attitude. I'm not even particularly religious, but one must adhere to some set of higher laws/principles that aren't based solely on satisfying one's animal urges to do anything to anyone in any place at any time, which is what we're rapidly approaching. I often feel like I have a front-row seat at another fall of the Roman Empire, which is extremely depressing.

As for discrimination, as a straight female I can't marry another female (gay or straight!), either. And the fact that I wouldn't want to doesn't matter, either. It's illegal to rob banks; just because I don't want to anyway, doesn't mean that robbing banks still shouldn't be against the law.

620 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:33:12pm

re: #463 The_Vig

I guess because it fits?

Very funny! People who have worked in emergency rooms can confirm that there are few openings capable of receiving a penis into which someone has not tried to insert one.

621 Dianna  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:33:33pm

re: #577 Occasional Reader

That's me, all right.

622 runrabbitrun  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:34:41pm

re: #589 The_Vig

To the folks that think that adolescents will try gay sex because it is socially acceptable are living on another planet.

Don't conflate experimenting with gay sex with being gay, though. The question might be if decades of normalization of gay marriage in our culture will normalize and create a social/emotional expectation of gay experimentation in couples in adolescence, even if many individuals do not have a strong gay orientation biologically. If many more young individuals and couples thus discover that physical pleasure can be obtained in gay OR hetero sex, why should future generations feel constrained to choose one OR the other? (not a judgement, just another question about the effects on culture).

And btw - why do people so often imply that only Christians have religious opposition to gay sex or marriage? If I'm not wrong, some liberal Christian churches had preachers who were the first to officiate at gay marriages, and almost all religions have injunctions against gay sexual acts, including many Buddhists, Jews, Muslims, and so on.

623 Oh no...Sand People!  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:35:09pm

Eventually 'natural selection' will take it's course...

624 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:35:17pm

re: #607 Vergeltung

Congratulations! You, and Grok the Fullness have outted yourselves.

625 Slumbering Behemoth  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:35:48pm

re: #294 MandyManners

Some would say that being homosexual is a choice...

And they'd be wrong, at least by my way of thinking. I believe a person can't help what they are attracted too. Some fellers like blondes with big boobs, I prefer brunettes with more "modest" endowments.

Besides, if being gay were a choice, I would have "chosen" to be gay years ago. It would have saved me an awful lot of headache and heartache, and I would be getting laid much more often.

Alas, I cannot find other men attractive in that way, it's just not how I'm wired.

626 debutaunt  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:35:54pm

re: #189 cblesz

Exactly...the MAJORITY of Californians are not nutso...

OK...a large amount are...but the majority are still sane.

Maybe Californians had a meeting and decided to make it more difficult to bring Sharia law here.

627 Dianna  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:36:34pm

re: #588 Grok the Fullness

The most abnormal sex is having none.

628 Iron Fist  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:37:59pm

re: #603 unrealizedviewpoint,

Um, re-read my post. I specifically said that I thought that homosexuals were the minority of child predators. What I said was that they are also a minority of the population, so that is what one would expect. What also seem clear from anecdotal evidence is that they are a larger percentage of pedophiles than they are of the population as a whole. The easy example of this is the problem of gay, child-molesting priests in the Roman Catholic Church. It's a minority of priests who are gay (probably), but it seems to be the majority of the problem priests are also gay priests.

It doesn't seem that the problem is as widespread among heterosexual priests.

629 eschew_obfuscation  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:38:11pm

re: #612 buzzsawmonkey


Homosexuality exists in some form in all societies, among all people, and has been well documented in the animal kingdom. It is perfectly normal in that sense. Some people, by whatever combination of genetic predispositions and early childhood development, will always be more tempted to engage in it than others--and some people, from the same combination of influences, will never be tempted to at all.

So...you were saying?

Interesting.....I know this is a bit of an exaggeration to make a point, but couldn't you say the same thing about murder?

Where's the line?

630 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:38:19pm

re: #617 formercorpsman

You and I will have to disagree.

You are looking at it through one set of glasses, I another.

It's not just California.

Think about in the terms of universal health care.

It has socialistic agenda behind it.

Yeah, I'm looking at from a perspective of freedom for folks. What the hell. They want to marry, who cares? Everybody else can marry, why can't they? You're telling me cause your insurance might go up 10 cents they can't?

A better argument is needed.

631 Ringo the Gringo  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:41:11pm

I have no doubt that homosexual themed stories and discussions will be introduced into school curriculum at the kindergarten level in public schools just as soon as teachers are given the go ahead by the unions. Parents who complain will be dismissed as bigots.

Little Johnny will be taught that someday he might marry Susie or maybe someday he'll marry Billy.

I guarantee you that more parents than ever will start home-schooling if same-sex marriage becomes the law of the land...And the demand for school vouchers will increase by 100%.

632 Oh no...Sand People!  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:41:57pm

Let'em have at it. Just as long as I don't have to cover the bills and medical expenses of damaged psyche's and the living of high risk lifestyles...oh wait!

633 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:42:18pm

re: #475 sparrowlake

I agree with you.
But many feel that homosexuality is an abnormal condition and that granting equal legal status to homosexual relationships will encourage homosexual conduct and will eventually result in a substantial increase in the proportion of homosexuals in the society. They would argue that an abnormal condition must not be allowed to become too common, lest it achieve a kind of critical mass which then begins to destroy or at least transform the society in ways that then may begin to threaten the existing institutions.

The fact that many "feel that homosexuality is an abnormal condition" does not make them right. There's no doubt that, compared to heterosexuality, it's relatively rare, but so is left-handedness relative to right-handedness.

We do not yet, as far as I know, understand the biological substrates of homosexuality, but the idea that it is, in most cases, chosen defies credulity. Think about it. When did you choose to be heterosexual?

634 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:44:09pm

re: #628 Iron Fist

I believe many of the older gay pedophile priests sought refuge within the church to hide from societies watchful eye.

635 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:47:48pm

re: #631 Ringo the Gringo

I guarantee you that more parents than ever will start home-schooling if same-sex marriage becomes the law of the land...And the demand for school vouchers will increase by 100%.

Well then, the entirety of commenters here should be all for this, as home schooling and vouchers may very well be this countries salvation.

636 danolt  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:48:02pm

re: #630 unrealizedviewpoint

I have a friend who can't work because he has a terminal illness. I don't want to work but I don't want the illness either. But it is just not fair that I have to work and he doesn't, so to get the same benefits as him I want to redefine the illness to include myself and people who think like me.

How could that possibly hurt?

637 lostlakehiker  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:48:44pm

Amendments to a Constitution cannot be unconstitutional. They revoke, en passant, any existing provision to the contrary.

But just to be on the safe side, the amendment ought to read, notwithstanding any provision to the contrary, in the preexisting constitution, etc. etc.

The trouble with what the court has done is that they've not ruled this ballot initiative unconstitutional. They've ruled elections unconstitutional.

If the state legislature impeaches them for this ruling, the justices can simply rule that the legislature has exceeded its authority. They can rule that the sun rises in the west, and that nature has exceeded its authority. It's intoxicating, to be the ultimate, unchallengeable authority, ruling all and answerable to none.

638 Ringo the Gringo  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:48:56pm

re: #635 unrealizedviewpoint

Do you agree with the first half of my comment?


I have no doubt that homosexual themed stories and discussions will be introduced into school curriculum at the kindergarten level in public schools just as soon as teachers are given the go ahead by the unions. Parents who complain will be dismissed as bigots.

Little Johnny will be taught that someday he might marry Susie or maybe someday he'll marry Billy.

639 Carolina Girl  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:49:21pm

Having now waded through all 172 pages (with footnotes) of this decision, and grateful for a morning where I'm merely processing judicial junkmail from plaintiff's attorney, it would appear that the California Supreme Court is really BEGGING the citizens of California through this decision to decide one way or another. The 2000 vote in Proposition 22 merely altered that Section of the Family Code (308.5) that defined marriage - it didn't, as some have suggested, alter the California Constitution.

There is before the Secretary of State a petition to place the issue of gay marriage on the ballot in November by making the definition of marriage as one man/one woman an amendment to the California Constitution. Early polls show that this amendment would pass, hands down.

Unless requested otherwise, this decision must be implemented within 30 days. I predict that in light of the propsed ballot amendment (which Ah-nold, the hypocrit, doesn't support, even though he once said it was for the VOTERS to decide), the Court will be requested to first postpone implementation until certification of the ballot measure and if the ballot measure is certified, to again postpone implementation until after the results of the November election.

640 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:49:23pm
#552 JustMyView

re: #320 newsjunkie_ky

Seem to remember seeing pictures of public sex in SF on zombie's site. Don't think they were arrested.

No, you saw public nudity. Not the same thing.

? ? ? ? There was plenty of outright public sex. Look at it again.

641 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:50:39pm

re: #636 danolt

I have a friend who can't work because he has a terminal illness. I don't want to work but I don't want the illness either. But it is just not fair that I have to work and he doesn't, so to get the same benefits as him I want to redefine the illness to include myself and people who think like me.

How could that possibly hurt?

Please restate this. I am not understanding at all.

642 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:50:59pm

re: #127 BuddyG

Au contraire.

}:)     [Your turn.]

643 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:51:02pm

re: #583 karmic_inquisitor

Mixed in which way? By race? I was not aware that clergy could refuse such a marriage. They certainly can on the basis of faith differences or even perceived orthodoxy of the parishoners. But I am pretty sure that, as a matter of law, they cannot refuse solely on the basis of skin color (and most would find some other reason so as to dodge the issue).

Yes, I meant mixed in terms of religion, but, really, I think clergy have the right to refuse to officiate at any marriage. They can give any reason or no reason. No one has a right to a particular kind of religious ceremony.

644 Carolina Girl  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:51:45pm

re: #640 zombie

No kidding - I was terrified the IS Gods would see what I was looking at and I'd be summoned upstairs to the Director of Admin and offered psychiatric help.

645 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:52:35pm

re: #608 Dianna

Ah, no. There was actual sex.

Sorry.

If it's any comfort, I was surprised, too.

I stand corrected.

646 incanus  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:53:58pm

re: #392 zombie

I stand by my statement: a lot of conservative pundits are just opposed to gay marriage in principle, but they'll use the "judicial activism" aspect of this story (which is a valid aspect) to make it seem like they have a different motivation.

People publicly misrepresenting their motives happens all the time.

However, as one of the leaders of Team Secular, you have an astonishing propensity to ascribe motives to your opponents that they have not voiced, and for which there is no evidence. You're biased, you just don't want to admit it.

647 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:54:03pm

re: #638 Ringo the Gringo

Do you agree with the first half of my comment?

Yes. As a matter of fact it's already happening in places like SF, Boulder, NYC, etc.
As the pendulum swings, it swings back.

That cannot prevent us as a society from granting rights to folks simply because of their orientation. They want to marry, 1% of 6%, who cares?

648 Ringo the Gringo  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:54:40pm

20 years ago when I told people that I was in favor of legalized same sex unions people thought I was a radical.

Now when I tell people that I am still in favor of same sex unions, rather than same sex marriage, they look at me as if I'm a bigot.

649 danolt  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:54:46pm

re: #631 Ringo the Gringo


I guarantee you that more parents than ever will start home-schooling if same-sex marriage becomes the law of the land...And the demand for school vouchers will increase by 100%.

I think the courts in California are already trying to end homeschooling.

650 Occasional Reader  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:55:42pm

re: #633 JustMyView

When did you choose to be heterosexual?

In my case, I'm pretty sure Barbara Eden in I Dream of Jeannie had a lot to do with it. That Farrah Fawcett Majors poster was just the icing on the cake.

651 redc1c4  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:55:43pm

re: #615 Occasional Reader

OKAY, LISTEN UP, LIZARDS... SHOW OF HANDS...

"look honey, no hands......" %-)

652 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:56:32pm

re: #648 Ringo the Gringo

20 years ago when I told people that I was in favor of legalized same sex unions people thought I was a radical.

Now when I tell people that I am still in favor of same sex unions, rather than same sex marriage, they look at me as if I'm a bigot.

Excellent post!

653 maddogg  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:57:51pm

re: #640 zombie

? ? ? ? There was plenty of outright public sex. Look at it again.

Thanks, but no....

654 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:58:44pm

re: #623 Oh no...Sand People!

Eventually 'natural selection' will take it's course...

Not sure exactly what you mean by this, but if you mean that gay people will be "selected out" because they do not, in general, reproduce, you're wrong. Straight people produce gay people.

655 Iron Fist  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:59:06pm

re: #644 Carolina Girl

{Carolina Girl}

Hi!

:-)

656 Ceemack  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:59:31pm

re: #209 Shug

I agree that your vote should count but if the voters approved a ballot initiative that banned surgery on the elderly or something else that violated the constitution, then that would be overturned ( rightly )
So on that account, I can see where a court can overturn the will of the voter and that is a good thing.

That's why amending the State constitution is really the only way any more to make any decision fool proof

Until the 9th circuit court overturns that state court and the state amendment for violation of the US constitution.......

I'm getting a migraine


You're comparing a law against gay marriage to a ban on surgery on the elderly? That's your argument? Good heavens. You should go write a DailyKos diary with that kind of logic.

A law should be overturned if it clearly conflicts with one or more provisions of the constitution. Overturning a law enacted through the prescribed legislative process--especially a ballot initiative passed by a wide margin--is something no court should undertake lightly.

Restricting marriage to a man and a woman does not violate any such provision. The marriage contract is more for the benefit of society than it is for the benefit of the contractors, so society at large gets to define what it is. The argument that restricting marriage to one man and one woman violates the concept of equal protection is specious: the plaintiffs were not asking for equal access to the marriage contract as it is currently defined, but are instead demanding that an entirely new form of marriage be created just for them.

The court clearly overstepped its bounds here, and this sort of judicial activism--which is becoming a pattern here in California--is an abrogation of the notion that California is a democratic state.

But what the hell...as long as they're doing what liberals want, who cares? Right?

657 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 1:59:42pm

re: #148 zmdavid

re: #143 song_and_dance_man

Well, at least they won't be able to procreate.

That's what embryonic stem cell research is for.

Really?  Wowsers.  A lot of effort when they could just use coitus.

}:)     [Like making weather technology instead of buying an umbrella ... ]

658 Oh no...Sand People!  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:00:22pm

The rub (no pun intended):

If we are to be 100% secular with no moral compass, just a 'relative compass', then same sex marriage is inevitable in the eyes of the law. You take God out of the equation and no court in the world will be able to keep marriage to 'one man / one woman'.

If that is the obvious course things are moving to, by the same token let the polygamists / Islamists (As long as it is consensual and not forced, but by whose opinion enforces that distinction?) do what they want since it will be in the courts very soon via the 'Homosexual Agenda' / 'Left's infatuation with Islam' that 'One man / One man' or 'One woman / One woman' will not be good enough:
'One man / One man / One woman'.
'One Woman / One woman / One man'.
'One woman / One high chair / One poodle / One man / One fish tank.'
'One man / One man / One man / One Plunger'.
'One woman / One cheese grater / One skookie grill'.

The COMBINATIONS ARE ENDLESS AND EXCITING...?

So I am hardly surprised. If you are going to go...go BIG.

I just hate paying for it.

659 Ceemack  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:03:10pm

re: #260 WrathofG-d

I live in CA but was unaware that we have passed any ballots against Same-Sex marriage.

One would be surprised to find that we have a Conservative state when we continue to vote in the same leftist idiots.


Read the papers much? We passed a ballot initiative defining "marriage" as the union of one man and one woman.

By something like a 60%-40% margin.

660 DesertSage  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:05:16pm

re: #610 Nemesis6

Well, what the majority believes is irrelevant in this case. It's the right thing to do. Right supercedes democracy. I believe it's the first amendment that specifies that congress shall make no law respecting any establishment of religion. And these issues of ban on gay marriage and general bans on homosexuality are just that. Here's the way to do it: Legalize it, and don't force any churches to marry them if they don't want to. How about that?

I never said a word about religion or churches, so I don't understand why you bring those things up when responding to me.

You say that it's the right thing to do. 61% of Californians disagree. They voted on it....and one judge nullified their vote. That's wrong. That's tyranny by the judiciary.

If 61% of the people voted to legalize gay marriage, and one judge nullified their will....would you be singing the same tune right now?

661 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:06:20pm

re: #659 Ceemack

Read the papers much? We passed a ballot initiative defining "marriage" as the union of one man and one woman.

By something like a 60%-40% margin.

Many here in CA are lacking for local news. I just cannot read the papers. Occasionally I'll hear John & Ken @ KFI. But that's about it,

662 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:06:33pm

re: #153 joncelli

re: #126 JamesTKirk

Full faith and credit. If a gay marriage must be recognized in California, it must be recognized in PA. I would be willing to accept some kind of legal arrangement short of marriage, but accepting gay relationships as marriage diminishes the true purpose of the institution, which is to domesticate men and promote child rearing.

Man, that's just absurd.  First off, why does a man need to be more domesticated than he is?  Isn't that a wee bit sexist?  Women don't need domestication, I suppose?  What an empty argument.

Secondly, children are reared lots of ways that don't involve marriage and seem to turn out just as fine as a corresponding amount of those reared in marriages.  Consider military schools, orphanages, foster care, grandparents raising, gay domestic partners, single and divorced parents, etc.

}:)     [Is today the day for spurious arguments?]

663 Carolina Girl  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:06:52pm

re: #655 Iron Fist

Hi Fist! I sure miss you guys (Dan Rather lawsuit problem).

664 eschew_obfuscation  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:07:45pm

re: #658 Oh no...Sand People!

The rub (no pun intended):

If we are to be 100% secular with no moral compass, just a 'relative compass', then same sex marriage is inevitable in the eyes of the law. You take God out of the equation and no court in the world will be able to keep marriage to 'one man / one woman'.

If that is the obvious course things are moving to, by the same token let the polygamists / Islamists (As long as it is consensual and not forced, but by whose opinion enforces that distinction?) do what they want since it will be in the courts very soon via the 'Homosexual Agenda' / 'Left's infatuation with Islam' that 'One man / One man' or 'One woman / One woman' will not be good enough:
'One man / One man / One woman'.
'One Woman / One woman / One man'.
'One woman / One high chair / One poodle / One man / One fish tank.'
'One man / One man / One man / One Plunger'.
'One woman / One cheese grater / One skookie grill'.

The COMBINATIONS ARE ENDLESS AND EXCITING...?

So I am hardly surprised. If you are going to go...go BIG.

I just hate paying for it.

Exactly the problem with this secular approach......there are no limits in the long term.

And while I like the establishment clause of our constitution, the very principles that underly the entire work have their background in religion.

One can argue that there are similar principles rooted in secular thought (if there truly is such a thing), but comparing cultures that have based their laws on other value systems, it seems that one would be hard pressed to demonstrate a better set than our founding fathers used.

665 Irenike  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:09:51pm

#130 Zombie:

You wrote that man-animal marriage won't happen, not because of "any moral opposition to man-animal marriage, but because the animal is not able to 'give consent.'"

My question for you is sincere. Why is animal consent necessary for sex, but not to slaughter and eat them?

666 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:09:59pm

re: #640 zombie

? ? ? ? There was plenty of outright public sex. Look at it again.

Guess I missed this particular photoessay the first time around. Can't say I'm sorry, but thanks for the correction.

667 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:10:02pm

re: #159 MandyManners

re: #153 joncelli

Full faith and credit. If a gay marriage must be recognized in California, it must be recognized in PA. I would be willing to accept some kind of legal arrangement short of marriage, but accepting gay relationships as marriage diminishes the true purpose of the institution, which is to domesticate men and promote child rearing.

WTF?

You mean you haven't ordered a gelding yet?

}:)     [It's more than a bris ... ]

668 JustMyView  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:10:45pm

re: #650 Occasional Reader

In my case, I'm pretty sure Barbara Eden in I Dream of Jeannie had a lot to do with it. That Farrah Fawcett Majors poster was just the icing on the cake.

Very cute. I remember that poster myself.

669 pegcity  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:12:05pm

Welcome to Canada

670 Uncle Joe  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:13:06pm

re: #194 JamesTKirk

I agree with the "judicial activism" issue; it's the people in hysterics over gay marriage that dismay me.

The "hysterics" are 98% about the judicial activism. The court in California has repeatedly overruled the voters to enact a liberal agenda by fiat. Think about the implications of that for a bit.

Given that the gay community is not known for championing conservative issues (perhaps for good reason) this kind of flatout erasure of democracy in favor of a particular advocacy group makes people absolutely crazy. Yes, you'll see gay jokes - just like you see on liberal sites, i.e., see how they used to talk about Andrew Sullivan when he was conservative - but what makes people feel desperate is when they repeatedly have their vote made a total joke by the liberal plutocracy.

It kind of reminds me of superdelegates.

671 Alibaba  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:13:09pm

Thanks, dopey California judges! Lots of lawyers should be happy today.re: #5 JohnnyReb

672 sparrowlake  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:13:29pm

re: #612 buzzsawmonkey

If by "abnormal" you mean that it is regularly engaged in by only a small percentage of the society, then yes, it is "abnormal"
...
Homosexuality exists in some form in all societies, among all people, and has been well documented in the animal kingdom. It is perfectly normal in that sense.

It is in my view non-sensical to make value judgments about conduct based solely on how common or uncommon the conduct is. Nor would I deny consenting adults the right to engage in whatever non-public sexual conduct they wish. And yes, conduct is abnormal, not wrong, if it sufficiently deviates from the norms of society.
When considering whether conduct should be proscribed it is necessary to consider the risks to society of the conduct. Similarly, in considering whether certain relationships should be encouraged by society it is also necessary to look at the dangers to society of doing so.
My point was very simple. Abnormal behaviours can and should be accommodated and tolerated by society so long as those behaviours do not become sufficiently prevalent that they start to overwhelm or interfere with the society's ability to function in a manner that is acceptable to most people. The concern which I expressed was that granting equal legal status to same-sex unions may directly and indirectly have the effect of encouraging homosexual conduct, and that its prevalence could reach a point where social cohesion and efficiency could be threatened. Just to pick numbers for argument's sake, let's assume that legalizing same-sex civil marriages had the effect, in say 2 or 3 generations from now, of raising the rate of homosexuality from 10% to 30%. Can you tell me that you would not be concerned that such an increase might pose a real threat to our social structures?
That is my concern, and as previously stated I do not oppose the law - I just worry about the future effects.

673 danolt  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:14:19pm

re: #641 unrealizedviewpoint

I guess my previous point was a bit over the top. I was basically trying to say that terms have meaning. If the courts can redefine marriage, can the courts redefine any term they wish.

I was trying to say what would happen if the courts redefined cancer or some other terminal disease and included people who do not actually have the disease. Overtime will it become impossible to identify the patients from the nonpatients.

In short, 50 years from now will the government officially be able to identify a mom/dad/child household or will it all be just households.

674 Oh no...Sand People!  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:16:08pm

re: #664 eschew_obfuscation

My admitted 'low road'.

If I knew my tax dollars weren't going to in any way shape or form go to the same-sex practice, "BE MY GUEST."

Keep your lifestyle and choices in your closet, I will keep mine in mine.

But since it will not be contained to only marriage, but it will be flaunted in the public square and forced on my children in 'school' and various other institutions, I will do all in my power to stop the law, and by the same measure push my agenda's in the public square as well. You want to fornicate with a moose head in your house, as long as I don't know about it, whatever floats your boat.

675 unrealizedviewpoint  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:16:25pm

re: #665 Irenike

#130 Zombie:

You wrote that man-animal marriage won't happen, not because of "any moral opposition to man-animal marriage, but because the animal is not able to 'give consent.'"

My question for you is sincere. Why is animal consent necessary for sex, but not to slaughter and eat them?


zombie may have left to photograph some wild sex street party. in answer to your question, I suspect, because laws are in place (in most jurisdictions) to protect animals from such abuse.

676 brojohn777  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:18:06pm

The timing on this could not be better. Put Dem's on the defensive with blue collar America...question is where does McCain on son a US federal marriage amendment. Now with 2 states running amuck, this should reopen that debate.

677 Oh no...Sand People!  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:20:34pm

All the while we bicker over how somebody should use their bodily parts and orifices, the Islamists are plotting our demise...

678 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:21:17pm

re: #165 BuddyG

re: #162 JamesTKirk
re: #144 Sol Roth

Unless a super majority of homosexual unions adopt and raise children, this can be nothing more that the furtherance of Marxism (nuclear family destruction). Legal instruments already exist that allow homosexuals to transfer property and appoint power of attorney for health care; the biggest arguments for this favoring of a minority population at the expense of ALL our freedoms.

Feh.

I fail to see how this affects my marriage or freedom in any way.

It affects the society in which you live.

< ... counting to three ... >

}:)     [ ... and?]

679 Uncle Joe  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:22:34pm

re: #677 Oh no...Sand People!

All the while we bicker over how somebody should use their bodily parts and orifices, the Islamists are plotting our demise...

...while having crazy gay sex.

j/k

680 quickjustice  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:25:35pm

Apparently the California legislature did vote in favor of legalizing gay marriage, and the Governator vetoed it on grounds that the courts should decide. I think Arnold is dead wrong about that, and that the legislature, subject to Initiative and Referendum on amending the California Constitution, should decide.

In the end, this decision should be for the voters of California. They're the ones who have to live with the consequences, whatever is decided.

681 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:27:12pm

re: #176 zmdavid

1. It's not a law, it's a court decision.
2. How do you know it doesn't force Churches to marry gay couples?

Does the law currently force churches to marry anyone?

}:)     [Well?]

682 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:29:13pm

re: #178 marge45b

I can see it now the Catholic Church will be sued for discrimination when it refuses to perform "Same-Sex" Church Weddings.

Really?  How?

}:P     [Do you think captains will be sued as well?]

683 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:33:11pm

re: #196 incanus

Or that it won't? I'm sure churches would never be accused of intolerance and hauled before a Thought Crimes court because they opted to not marry a gay couple.

"Thought Crimes court?"

}:D     [What do they keep the evidence in?]

684 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:34:26pm

re: #198 jemima

I used to live in a town where a guy would break into a barn to rape a little girl's pony.

I guess it's okay if he really really wanted to do it. Who are we to judge etc.

Okay, my turn to ask ...

}:P     [WTF?]

685 incanus  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:34:43pm

re: #683 Kulhwch

"Thought Crimes court?"

}:D     [What do they keep the evidence in?]

Read up on Mark Steyn vs. his Government.

TA DA! (see I can do stupid snarky shit too at the end of my post)

686 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:39:28pm

re: #203 The Pulchritudinous Patriot

re: #159 MandyManners

WTF?

Single men are like bears with furniture.

So, okay, I don't put down doilies or whatever they're call, still ...

}:)     [Everyone's a critic!  Heeesh!]

687 Sol Roth  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:39:40pm

re: #684 Kulhwch

Posting ankle-biting snark to early posters WITHOUT reading the entire thread which include argument development is considered "tagging"; a troll behavior.

You're not here for honest debate are you.

688 Da_Beerfreak  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:41:02pm

re: #610 Nemesis6

Well, what the majority believes is irrelevant in this case. It's the right thing to do. Right supercedes democracy. [Snip...]

So if that's the way you see it, what's your view of the Dred Scott decision?

After all the SCOUS was just trying to protect the Southern Slave Owner's property rights.

689 sparrowlake  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:41:22pm

re: #633 JustMyView


We do not yet, as far as I know, understand the biological substrates of homosexuality, but the idea that it is, in most cases, chosen defies credulity. Think about it. When did you choose to be heterosexual?

I do not think it is controversial to state that there have been cases where sexual orientation has changed during a person's lifetime. If you agree with that proposition, then how can you be so positive that there is no element of choice whatsoever?
Furthermore, sexual orientation is usually viewed as a continuum rather than an all or nothing proposition. Most individuals are firmly in the heterosexual camp, but there are many who deviate from the majority position - homosexuals, bisexuals, asexuals, etc. So for someone who is on the borderline, how can one rule out choice and societal pressures as determining factors?
I have read that it is normal and common for heterosexuals to have homosexual thoughts or tendencies from time to time. I assume that the same holds true for homosexuals. If that is the case, how can one rule out the possibility that societal influences and/or choice could play a part in the strength of these tendencies and ultimately whether they are acted upon?

690 karmic_inquisitor  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:47:07pm

FYI -

So I have been looking into California case law regarding marriage as a right vs. a privilege.

It is odd.

At some point the privilege became a right. It is referenced in many decisions as a "right" starting from about 1948 when the state dealt with mixed race marriages. Interestingly, it was in the late 60s when marriage became a federal right when the supreme court also dealt with mixed race marriages.

Yet, in all of that, the administration of marriages has remained with the states and is managed as a privilege and is treated that way when people challenge the procedures (like challenging incest laws and marriage licenses).

If someone here knows family law, I'd love to find out if there is any authoritative deliniation of marriage as a right vs. a privilege.

To the degree that the courst have been inconsistent with the administration of marriage I can see why judges would feel free to make things up as they go along given that is what has happened in the past.

691 Ringo the Gringo  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:49:13pm

If courts can redefine a word such as marriage, which defines a relationship, I don't see why at some time in the future they would not be allowed to redefine other words, for example the word parent.

This is a much more slippery slope than many seem to for see.

692 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:51:37pm

re: #207 LeftJustAintRight

The FUN will start when the divorces start
LOL
Now the courts will decide who is the man when alimony payments are requested by both partners
LOL
I just have one thing to say to all the gay people
Careful what you wish / Cause you may just get it
LOL

Now that just shows multilateral ignorance.  At least here in the state of California, alimony isn't paid by a 'man' it's paid by whoever earns the most money, irregardless of gender.  *I* for instance got alimony from my first exwife.  The base assumption that men fulfill certain functions so anyone fulfilling that function must de facto be a man is failed reasoning.

(Another good example of that sort of failed reasoning: a table has four legs, two men have four legs, ergo two men are a table.)

}:)     [You might consider a good cat-scan.]

693 incanus  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:56:01pm

re: #687 Sol Roth

Posting ankle-biting snark to early posters WITHOUT reading the entire thread which include argument development is considered "tagging"; a troll behavior.

You're not here for honest debate are you.

It's like a weird version of Chuck Pelto.

694 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:56:21pm

re: #208 BuddyG

re: #177 JamesTKirk

The society in which I live already includes many same-sex couples known to me personally who are living in long-term relationships, raising children, and so forth without leading to a crisis of biblical proportions. Then again, I have also seen cats and dogs living together...

Why do same sex couples need to be legally married?

Why do oppositely-sexed couples need to be legally married?

}:)     [And what about klinefelters?]

695 nikis-knight  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:59:42pm

re: #170 zombie

EXACTLY.

Actually, the truth is this: there will be a big flurry of about 5,000 gay couples getting married at first, with much media coveragde and fanfare...and then gay marriages will slow to a tiny trickle or only a few every month.

I know a LOT of gay people. (In fact, probably the majority of people I know are gay.) And I can't think of a single one that would have the slightest interest in getting married.

The whole thing is just one of those "prove a point" issues. Like flag-burning. Across America every day, how many people burn an American flag every week? One? Two? Totally unimportant. And yet it became a huge "free speech" issue. Same applies to gay marriage. A few will get married, and no one will really notice or care.

And the world keeps turning.

Yeah, um, not sure about that comparison. How many here would say America is much better now that we have flog burning?
Why should we let them "prove this point"?

Anyway, does this affect my marriage? No, of course not. Only what me and my wife say and do does. But it does affect my society, and the one in which my daughter grows up.
I think marriage has been over-romanticized. It is about establishing the best environment to raise a child. One mother and one father, so the child can be provided for, nurtured, have standards, see how both sexes treat each other and act in society. Does it always work? Hell no. But even the best case scenario of gay marriage deprives a child of either a mother or a father.

Should a man, incapable of loving a woman, live with a man [or vice versa]? Well, I sure want no law against it, or laws specifying what sexual acts they can commit in private. But it cannot be marriage, even if they love each other forever. That's not what marriage is for.
And giving social sanction to it will lead to an increase (especially among women, for whom sexuality is less defined). No, that won't end my marriage. But it will lead to less reproduction, and less well adapted children.
Look, the single biggest problem in urban America is a lack of Black fathers in familes. Call lesian couples living together, even happily and forever, marriage, and you cannot legally deny them rights to adopt (although I wouldn't argue that it is worse than an orphanage. So I am a bit conflicted, and wouldn't condemn a particular case without knowing the details, it is a bad trend). That would lead definitionally to more fatherless households. If you think a woman can replace a man in a child's life, I disagree. With the converse, as well, of course.
Of course, I'm not against "gay rights". I think it is a red-herring, though, in that I don't think gays are denied anything that straights have. Marriage is a man and a woman living together to raise a family, hopefully in love or at least faking it. It simply isn't for everyone, and that's fine!

696 incanus  Thu, May 15, 2008 2:59:54pm

re: #694 Kulhwch

Pressed the wrong button, sigh.

697 nikis-knight  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:07:34pm

re: #194 JamesTKirk

I agree with the "judicial activism" issue; it's the people in hysterics over gay marriage that dismay me.

I didn't see ANY hysterics in the 193 comments preceeding yours.
Does one have to prove it is a worst case scenario before deciding it might not be a wise experiment?

698 dainn  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:07:47pm

This issue always makes me laugh. Only in American, and certain backwards middle eastern countries, can such a minor thing be so earth-shatteringly important.

Who does it hurt if gay and lesbian couples marry? What will it change, societally speaking, if we allow it. I have heard next to zero answers to this question that aren't wrapped tightly around a religious point-of-view, including in the posts above (as many as I could read of them). The net result is that America's problem with gay marriage is because God has a problem with it.

The government should not legislate morality. Less government is often better, and almost always better when it comes to social issues like this one.

My solution has always been to abolish the concept of governmental marriage entirely. Everyone can have a civil union with any other "person" and any governmental benefits that now apply to marriage can apply to that. If you want to get "married," go to a church and get married. The government won't stop you, or encourage you, or license you, or pay you for that matter. Government stays out of your private life; you sacrifice your "procreation subsidy" as a consequence.

Problem solved.

For all you people taking your heart medicine because the gay lobby won another round, take a breath. Nothing will get right-wing conservatives out to vote more than a "marriage amendment." Pictures of Gavin Newsome blessing gay marriages on the steps of San Fransisco City Hall will be enough to get this amendment passed here in California.

699 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:15:31pm

re: #214 Widow'smight

I didn't say it was a disaster,

re: #154 JamesTKirk

Regardless of whether you call it a "right" or an "obligation", neither term explains why it's a disaster if gay people do it.

JamesTKirk never said you said it was a disaster.

I said it wasn't a right,

And as he DID say, you didn't explain why.

nor is it even mentioned in our Constitution. And, according to our Constitution, it should be left up to the LEGISLATURE of each State.

<best Tennessee Ernie Ford voice> Now wait just a cotton-pickin' minute ... you say it (without saying what it is ... presumably marriage?) isn't mentioned in the Constitituion but when it is mentioned in the Constitution the Constitution says it should be left up to the Legislature of each state?

So is it or is it not in the Constitution?

My problem is that some of the same people pushing so hard for Gay Marriage are also pushing for lowering the Age of consent to 10 or 12.

Names ... ?  Or is this just a spurious accusation?

In that case, the child would no longer be protected from gay/straight predators, but would have to face defense lawyers and such. Unless they were kids in my family, the SOB would have a private Pre-trial hearing, then an opportunity to check out the nearest healthcare facility.

Why is it that people who want to demonize gays always attempt to play the pedophile card first, as if that's all a gay person has on their mind?  And why is it always done with partial truths and no facts to back it up?  Sometimes you folks just amaze me at your meanness quotient, spreading gossip and using it to build up a full head of hatespeech like the above.  Then, of course, there's always that disclaimer (sister of the "I know many fine black people, I even have some black friends!"):

I'm sure most Gay folks don't think that way, but lacking is the reporting on the supporters of this movement, and their real intent.

It's just like watching the snopes site in action ...

}:)     [Congratulations, now I need to wash up ... ]

700 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:18:28pm

re: #216 Killgore Trout

re: #154 JamesTKirk

Exactly how are gays going to ruin the institution of marriage. Haven't heteros already done that?

<Fist clenched high ... > Working on it, bawse ...

}:)     [ ... working darned hard on it ... ]

701 Ringo the Gringo  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:20:49pm

re: #698 dainn


Who does it hurt if gay and lesbian couples marry? What will it change, societally speaking, if we allow it.

My main concern is how it will be presented in public schools where I have no doubt it will be used to indoctrinate children - young children - into viewing homosexuality as no different than hetrosexuality.

See my post 631.

It also opens the gates for the very same arguments to be made for allowing polygamy. And it will also pave the way for courts to redefine other words which become "outdated" such as the word parent for example.

702 Nemesis6  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:26:36pm

re: #660 DesertSage

What I mean by the whole first amendment thing is that the ban on homosexuality and ban on marriage between people thereof is pushed by agenda-driven Christians. Essentially, anyone who pass any laws prohibiting homosexuality in any way, be it marriage or whatever is pushing the agenda of a religious establishment.

Now about the actual vote - Basically, that IS unfair, but it's really stupid to put something like this to a vote in the first place when it should not even be subject to ANY legal restrictions at all. If you pass legislation to make it illegal for someone to marry someone of the same gender, or just generally be gay, you're a fascist and you should not be allowed near a voting booth. But then again, fascists have the right to vote, too. That is not flaming or a pick at you, I believe that anyone who wants to control someone else's sexuality in any way is a fascist. I really find it disgusting for someone to claim to have that right.

703 sparrowlake  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:27:51pm

re: #691 Ringo the Gringo

If courts can redefine a word such as marriage, which defines a relationship, I don't see why at some time in the future they would not be allowed to redefine other words, for example the word parent.

This is a much more slippery slope than many seem to for see.

They already have. In Ontario, Canada, for the purpose of support obligations, "parent" basically includes any person who treats the child as if he was the child's parent. This is how they nail the mother's boyfriend if he's not careful.

704 nikis-knight  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:29:39pm

.re: #304 Maximu§

OMG...Gay Marriage is legal?

Our whole world is coming to an end.....we're finshed! Our whole society is going to fold like a Chinese lawn chair! Lock up the kids!

s/

Seriously, you people need to calm down. Gays are an extreme minority and their getting marrried hurts no one. I expect at least 4-5 negetive mark downs from the Zealots in here for this comment, but thats Ok, I can take it.


There is a lot of people telling others to "just calm down" and yet I see no one is worked up except those over eager to find bigotry.

705 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:29:53pm

re: #226 song_and_dance_man

Gays can get married in the eyes of the State, but they will never be married in the eyes of God.

And?

}:)     [And awaaaaaaaaaaay we go ... ]

706 Sol Roth  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:32:56pm

re: #693 incanus

It's uncanny.

707 Ringo the Gringo  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:33:18pm

re: #702 Nemesis6

The issue is about courts changing the definition the word marriage.

It has nothing to do with controlling anyone's sexuality.

708 Dainn  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:36:43pm

re: #701 Ringo the Gringo

My main concern is how it will be presented in public schools where I have no doubt it will be used to indoctrinate children - young children - into viewing homosexuality as no different than hetrosexuality.

That is a different issue, and one you'll have my support in fighting. It really annoys me when school boards decide to raise my children in spite of me, and I've had my share of "parent meetings" because of this, though never on this gay issue.

That said, my kids have grown up with a friend of the family that is gay, have met his partner, and don't see it as such a big deal. That is how I socialized my kids on this issue. If you go around worrying about how other people live their lives you won't be living your own.

I'll thank the local public schools to butt out, though, if you please.

It also opens the gates for the very same arguments to be made for allowing polygamy. And it will also pave the way for courts to redefine other words which become "outdated" such as the word parent for example.

This is the famous "Bill O'Reilly" argument. I guess my response is: so what? Who really cares if consenting adults decide to marry each other in figures other than 2? Again, at the root this is a morality argument. God says one man one woman, so the law should too. Thats the thinking we see in the extreme in the middle east.

The problem with the FLDS polygamy that is in the news is not so much with adults marrying adults, but kids marrying kids. That is a whole different argument.

The government can't run itself. Please keep it out of my bedroom as well.

709 wolfie  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:36:47pm

re: #665 Irenike

#130 Zombie:

You wrote that man-animal marriage won't happen, not because of "any moral opposition to man-animal marriage, but because the animal is not able to 'give consent.'"

My question for you is sincere. Why is animal consent necessary for sex, but not to slaughter and eat them?

That's a very good question!

re: #675 unrealizedviewpoint

zombie may have left to photograph some wild sex street party. in answer to your question, I suspect, because laws are in place (in most jurisdictions) to protect animals from such abuse.

That's not a good answer.
In any case, I doubt that a single law against bestiality in this country was originally passed with the intention of protecting animals from abuse.

I'm by no means convinced that the slippery-slope argument applies to the issue of gay marriage, BTW. I just like Irenike's question because it is provocative........i.e., it provokes thought.......or should.

710 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:37:21pm

re: #238 BuddyG

re: #217 JamesTKirk

Why shouldn't they? And if they want to, why are you telling them they can't?

Because (as someone mentioned earlier on this thead) it's another attack on the nuclear family.

How so?

It erodes tradition.

So?  So did air conditioners, drive-thru churches, and vaccinations ... your point?

And if same-sex couples are permitted to legally marry, then where do you draw the line?

What line would that be?

}:)     [I keep running into so many non-answers on this ... ]

711 nikis-knight  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:37:57pm

re: #369 zombie



Strange how these social issue debates bring out the real rifts in the lizard community. We agree on so many other things.

Not that strange. The Not-wanting-to-live-under-sharia Party is a VERY big tent. (Even after the no-Nazi plank was added to the pary platform.)

712 danolt  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:40:14pm

The courts could fix all of our illegal immigration problems using the same technique. Just redefine citizenship, only fascists would be against that.

713 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:43:03pm

re: #251 CyanSnowHawk

re: #89 stead63

thats just around the corner I fully agree. What about a man and a horse? I mean the gate's standing wide open

Um, why is one of the first arguments against gay marriage almost always bestiality? That seems to me to be a rather big leap.

When one doesn't have a true argument, one must resort to scandalous attacks against reason for emotional mileage.  Hence an appeal for the children (pedophilia) or against the total destruction of rules and ethics (beastiality).  Either that or one is too stupid to tell the difference between the two actions.

}:)     [I know which of the above *I* think it is ... ]

714 Ringo the Gringo  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:44:42pm

re: #708 Dainn

Fine, but then your initial comment...


What will it change, societally speaking, if we allow it.

...is disingenious, because you acknowledge that it will change a great deal societally...It's just you're just fine with the changes.

715 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:45:24pm

re: #254 Occasional Reader

re: #237 zombie

Want to make love to a park bench

Ah, no, you lost me on that point right there. That's public behavior, and the state has a legitimate interest.

Unless you put a park bench in your garage ...

}:)     [Just sayin'  Oy, the splinters!]

716 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:48:29pm

re: #258 Peacekeeper

Want to make love to a park bench and then stage a wedding ceremony with it, presided over by a taxidermed aardvark? Be my guest.

What if I want to walk down the street without my toddler seeing two leather clad freaks caulking socks? Do I have a right?

Why do socks need caulking?  Wouldn't that mess up the shoes?  Eeeewwww ...

}:)     [Okay, you totally lost me on this one ... ]

717 Ringo the Gringo  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:51:24pm

re: #708 Dainn


Again, at the root this is a morality argument. God says one man one woman, so the law should too. Thats the thinking we see in the extreme in the middle east.

I have not mentioned God in any of my arguments.

The word marriage has always meant the union of a man and a woman. To change that is radical.

If we wish to add a new union - that is, a union between two people of the same sex - then we shoud create a new term to describe it, as the two things are not the same.

718 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:53:20pm

re: #259 BuddyG

re: #250 JamesTKirk

I'm fine with a man & a woman having children and creating a family.

So you're fine with gay men donating sperm so that lesbian couples can reproduce?  Golly!  That's awfully white of you.

}:)     [Thanks!  But wait, why do they need YOUR approval?]

719 mekan  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:54:34pm

Marriage as a concept and a legally binding contract died in the 70's. Currently the term only has meaning to those that hold to the religious contract. No-fault divorce and abortion without the consent of the father and the like have created a word that is but a shell. So what is the big deal? With the divorce rate above 50% and the number of single mothers who have never been married on the rise, does it really matter if two men or two women marry? For that matter, does it matter if one man to many women marry, one woman to many men, humans to animals, men to boy, woman to girl, or human to inanimate object marry?

For those with older parents that need insurance I would recommend that you simply marry them because it should be legal by the basis of this ruling and the logic behind the judicial opinion.

720 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 3:56:52pm

re: #267 Shug

re: #266 JamesTKirk

Public sex is illegal regardless of the genders and orientations involved.

and whether or not the couple is married

Really?  If you're married, it's easier to have public sex?  I must have missed a memo!

}:)     [Wait, shoot, I'm divorced ... doesn't do me any good!  Damn it!]

721 Dainn  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:01:01pm

re: #714 Ringo the Gringo

Fine, but then your initial comment...

...is disingenious, because you acknowledge that it will change a great deal societally...It's just you're just fine with the changes.

Disingenious? I don't think so. It's not the same world that I grew up in, and my children will have the same feeling when they are my age. The younger generation have been exposed to the existence of Gay and Lesbian couples now in one way or another and are making their own decisions about it. From what I am seeing, it's just not a huge issue for them, but things may be different here in So Cal than in the rest of the world.

How will it change?

Gay people are already in relationships. And those who want to get married are obviously on the more dedicated side, most already considering themselves married no matter what Uncle Sam says.

Will more people become gay? No, just as being being Muslim doesn't make people turn arabian.

Will it deteriorate the institution of marriage? If you make that argument, then you have to look at the institution. We straight people have pushed it to the breaking point already: just look at the divorce rate. I doubt adding gays and lesbians to such a troubled institution can do anything more to hurt it. If that is the concern, scrap it now because of straight marriage.

Pedophilia, beastiality, free love, bathhouses: all these are issues that stand on their own and have no more to do with same-sex marriage than straight marriage. They are all red herrings, straw man arguments meant to invoke an emotional reaction. I'm a rabid dog when it comes to punishing pedophiles, yet I let my kids hang out unsupervised with my gay friends (gasp). Gays are not moral degenerates, at least not at any higher rate than the rest of us sinners.

If you think that it will change society, look around. It's changed.

722 Nemesis6  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:05:55pm

re: #707 Ringo the Gringo

To quote Wikipedia -

Marriage is a personal union between individuals.

, and to once again quote it -

A marriage may be celebrated with a wedding ceremony,[27] which can be performed by a religious officiator or through a similar government-sanctioned secular process. Despite the ceremony being led by someone else, most religious traditions maintain that the marriage itself is mediated between the two individuals through vows, with the gathered audience witnessing, affirming, and legitimizing the marriage."

So marriage can be a secular thing, too. Guess you just need to contact the state or whatever about it.

723 DesertSage  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:09:51pm

re: #702 Nemesis6

You really stepped into this time. You, with your measly little 115 comments somehow has the audacity to think you know me?

How dare you imply that I'm somehow a Fascist because I disagree with your point of view! Your implying that I'm a Fascist without any kind factual basis to back it up. That there is Fascism in and of itself!

And then pretend to know what's in my mind as far as homosexuality goes. You have no idea how I feel about homosexuals. I have family members who are homosexual. I have many friends who are homosexual.
I could care less if someone is a homosexual!
So get off your high horse and don't pretend that you can speak for me or anyone else.

And talking about 'speaking', that's exactly what the people of CA did....they spoke with their vote. 61% of them said that they wanted marriage to remain between a man and a woman. Are you going to tell me that 61% of the residents in CA are Right Wing religious extremists? You'd be surprised how many of my homosexual friends also voted to keep marriage between a man and a woman. But I guess they don't count either. They must also be Right Wing/Fascist/Religious Extremists, huh? How condescending you are.

And you never did answer my question: if 61% of the people in your state voted to legalize gay marriage, and one judge overturned that vote....would that upset you?

724 Roger  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:11:09pm

re: #722 Nemesis6

Wikipedia? Wikipedia? Wikipedia?!?!?!?!

725 Dainn  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:12:55pm

re: #717 Ringo the Gringo

The word marriage has always meant the union of a man and a woman. To change that is radical.

If we wish to add a new union - that is, a union between two people of the same sex - then we shoud create a new term to describe it, as the two things are not the same.

Things change. We evolve. Saying that something is what it is because it has always been that way is a very weak argument (see: slavery, women's sufferage, monarchy). Sometimes holding on to outdated concepts is just as radical.

Radical Islam for example.

726 Roger  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:16:33pm

re: #725 Dainn

Things change. We evolve. Saying that something is what it is because it has always been that way is a very weak argument (see: slavery, women's sufferage, monarchy). Sometimes holding on to outdated concepts is just as radical.

Radical Islam for example.

Bad example.

727 DesertSage  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:18:10pm

re: #725 Dainn

Things change. We evolve. Saying that something is what it is because it has always been that way is a very weak argument (see: slavery, women's sufferage, monarchy). Sometimes holding on to outdated concepts is just as radical.

Radical Islam for example.

What a stupid argument.

The constitution says we have the right to free speech. If the Leftists somehow took control of our country and banned free speech, would you call that 'evolving'? I hope not. The constitution says what it says...and that's it....period! It's NOT outdated! And it's NOT a radical concept!

728 Ringo the Gringo  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:23:24pm

re: #721 Dainn

My only point was that you asked, "Who does it hurt if gay and lesbian couples marry? What will it change, societally speaking, if we allow it."...You seemed to be asking this rhetorically, then you acknowledged that it would change things...thats all.

I too live in So.California and have many gay friends, in fact a lesbian couple often babysits for my two year old daughter.

I don't have a problem with same-sex couples, what I have a problem with is courts changing the definitions of age old institutions.

Marriage has always referred to the union of a man and a women. If we as a society would like to add a new institution for the union of two people of the same sex, then we should create a new word to describe it.

As I said above; 20 years ago when I advocated same-sex unions I was considered radical. Now when I advocate same-sex unions - rather than same-sex marriage - I'm considered old-fashioned, even bigoted.

Basically I see the redefinition of marriage as part of a larger deconstructionist a agenda.

729 Dainn  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:24:15pm

re: #727 DesertSage

The constitution says we have the right to free speech. If the Leftists somehow took control of our country and banned free speech, would you call that 'evolving'? I hope not. The constitution says what it says...and that's it....period! It's NOT outdated! And it's NOT a radical concept!

Until the following text is in the constitution, I don't see where you have much of a point:

Marriage in the United States shall consist only of the union of a man and a woman. Neither this Constitution, nor the Constitution of any State, nor State or Federal law, shall be construed to require that marital status or the legal incidents thereof be conferred upon unmarried couples or groups.

Like it is about most things, the constitution is pretty non-commital on the subject.

730 Ringo the Gringo  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:27:00pm

re: #722 Nemesis6


To quote Wikipedia -

Marriage is a personal union between individuals.

Well, if wikipedia says it, it must be true.

The fact is that marriage has always referred to the union between a male and a female.

731 donk1100  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:27:22pm

please someone in calif. post on lgf the first flaming gay marrige divorce.....it will be worth the plane ticket....i can not wait....it should be about 2 wks after the first wedding....

732 Irenike  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:27:25pm

#713 Kulhwch

You wrote: "When one doesn't have a true argument, one must resort to scandalous attacks against reason for emotional mileage. Hence an appeal for the children (pedophilia) or against the total destruction of rules and ethics (beastiality)."

The people who are pushing for gay marriage are defining marriage according to sexual preference. Why is it unreasonable to assume that polygamists might argue the same way gays have? And how can one legally refute their argument?

There is a world of difference morally between gays and pedophiles, or gays and bestiophiles. (For the record, some of my dear friends and family are gay). But if the only crition for marriage is sexual preference, how can you deny other groups the right to marry according to their preference?

733 Dainn  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:28:02pm

re: #728 Ringo the Gringo

Basically I see the redefinition of marriage as part of a larger deconstructionist a agenda.

(Good discussion btw.)

I'm not afraid of the "slippery slope" on this issue, even though I agree there are many out there on the extreme-left that would like to see major changes. On this one change, though, I have no fear. Maybe I should, but I don't.

Gay married people just don't scare me.

734 Ringo the Gringo  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:31:49pm

re: #725 Dainn


(see: slavery, women's sufferage, monarchy).

The definitions of those words have not changed.

Slavery is now illegal, thank goodness, but the word slavery still means the same thing...It has not been redefined.

735 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:37:05pm

re: #257 JamesTKirk

More musicals, apparently. Hey, I liked "Chicago", so bring 'em on!

Can't wait for Mama Mia to get to the cineplex, as a matter of fact.  And I do know a whole bunch of show-tunes (Man of La Mancha's my favorite, but West Side Story isn't bad), and I do like to watch Victor Victoria and Rocky Horror.  But, no, drat it, still straight, still lusting after women.

}:)     [Somebody give me a cliche that works!]

736 Irenike  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:37:28pm

#675 Unrealizedviewpoint:

If anti-bestiality laws are designed to protect animals from abuse, why is slaughtering them not considered abuse? Why is it legal to kill and eat animals, but not to have sex with them?

737 debutaunt  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:39:52pm

re: #650 Occasional Reader

In my case, I'm pretty sure Barbara Eden in I Dream of Jeannie had a lot to do with it. That Farrah Fawcett Majors poster was just the icing on the cake.

Most of us know what our sexuality is. I can't imagine trying to choose something different. Not possible.

738 Dainn  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:40:08pm

re: #736 Irenike

#675 Unrealizedviewpoint:

If anti-bestiality laws are designed to protect animals from abuse, why is slaughtering them not considered abuse? Why is it legal to kill and eat animals, but not to have sex with them?

Why can I swat a fly but I can't kill my neighbor?
::shrug:: Must be the liberal media.

739 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:44:41pm

re: #276 Sol Roth

IMHO, the re-definition of marriage to include non-reproducing homosexuals dilutes its original intent; to provide a stable, monogamous mating of a heterosexual pair for the production of offspring that have the maximum fitness to survive and pass on that fitness to the next generation.

Unless this is the intent of homosexual marriage proponents, and what I have read it is not, then you have a dilution of a practice that has served to stabilize societies for thousands of years. It may indeed be a slippery slope to weaken and ultimately destroy the nuclear family which, if we take the out-of-wedlock black birthrate as an example, wholly unhealthy to society. Destruction of the nuclear family is a stated goal of Marxism. You can read their propaganda here: [Link: www.fifthinternational.org...] This is where I see threats to my marriage and freedom.

So people who are sterile, or past the child-bearing years, ones that have bad genetic diseases, etc., all shouldn't marry?  That reproduction is all marriage is meant for?  Says who?   Source?

As well, many homosexuals do and can reproduce, and do and have relationships where they raise their kids.  This would seem to dodge your thinking, above.

By the way, including in the definition the word you're trying to define, in this case heterosexual, seems to be circular reasoning.  Just an FYI.

}:)     [Sorry, just pointing out leaks as I encounter them.]

740 Irenike  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:45:39pm

#738 Dainn,

You haven't answered the question. There is a difference between a human and a fly.

But when talking about a particular animal, we are talking about one action being acceptable (killing and eating), and one action not (sex).

So, I'll ask the question again: Why?

741 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:47:50pm

re: #278 Killgore Trout

re: #261 MandyManners

What about the photographer who's in hot water for refusing to photograph a homosexual wedding?

That's a tricky issue. It gets complicated; Imagine if the photographer refused service to blacks? Or a muslim photographer refusing service to Jews? What if it was a gay photographer refusing to service heteros?

As well, did the photographer have a contract w/the people who put on the wedding?  Did he refuse to honor the contract?  Were the conditions in the contract, if any, incorrect, harmful, dangerous, or ... ?

}:)     [Too many simple generalities flying around, I tell you .... ]

742 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:50:18pm
743 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:53:10pm

re: #283 Shug

So are heterosexual couples that don't want any or can't have any children still allowed to marry?

That's what I'm asking!

}:P     [Getting answers is like pulling teeth with some of these folks ... ]

744 Dainn  Thu, May 15, 2008 4:58:03pm

re: #740 Irenike

#738 Dainn,

You haven't answered the question. There is a difference between a human and a fly.

But when talking about a particular animal, we are talking about one action being acceptable (killing and eating), and one action not (sex).

So, I'll ask the question again: Why?

Why is killing one animal (fly) different than killing another (man)? Why can I own a dog but not a person? Why can I marry a woman but not a man? These are all ethical questions, and ethics is not like logic: it changes as the sum of moral thought in a group changes.

Perhaps in some future I hope I never see (or Tijuana, every night at happy hour) sex with animals will have the same moral significance and BBQing them. Not today in America.

On the other hand, we protect the rights of same-sex couples to be together. That is a relatively new thing. Not so long ago it was a death sentence.

I am interested in how bestiality always seems to come up in discussions like this. As far as I know, it has nothing at all to do with homosexuality. Unless you consider both perversions. I don't.

745 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:03:44pm

re: #665 Irenike

#130 Zombie:

You wrote that man-animal marriage won't happen, not because of "any moral opposition to man-animal marriage, but because the animal is not able to 'give consent.'"

My question for you is sincere. Why is animal consent necessary for sex, but not to slaughter and eat them?

You're asking the wrong person. I'm a vegetarian, for exactly that reason. I think it's wrong to have sex with animals, and to kill animals. But that's just me.

746 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:07:24pm

re: #244 JamesTKirk

You're free to hold that belief, but the state's not in the business of determining God's intent in any case. Besides, it's "til death do we part" for all of us... None of us will be married on Judgement Day when we meet the Dude.

And the Dude abides ...

}:)     [http://www.dudeism.com/]

747 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:15:20pm
re: #298 song_and_dance_man
re: #274 JamesTKirk

Only if you're saying that gays aren't allowed the same life, liberty, and pursuit of happiness that the rest of us have.

I'm not saying that. It was to illustrate that our nation was founded on the principle and acknowledgment of a Creator in refutation to your suggestion that the state's not in the business of determining God's intent.

So according to you we ARE in a theocracy wherein it is the State's business of determining any Deity's intent?

<blink>

<blink>

Since when?

}:)     [Hey, man, friends share their drugs, you know?]

748 Irenike  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:15:28pm

#744 Dainn,

The reason bestiality comes up in debates like this is because gays are shifting the terms of the debate by saying that their sexual preference should be the justification for re-defining marriage. Okay, so if sexual preference is the defining characteristic, why shouldn't people be allowed to marry the object of their desire, whether human, animal, or multiple partners? Nobody who supports same-sex marriage has yet answered this point satisfactorily, in my opinion. And, for the record, I have read what Andrew Sullivan has to say.

When people apply for a marriage license, nobody asks if you are gay or straight, fertile or infertile. The standard is, no matter what your sexual preference, you are allowed only to marry somebody of the opposite sex. At least, this was the norm before the court decided otherwise.

Look, I am extremely sympathetic to gay unions. I think more monogamy among gay men especially, would be a net benefit. But I don't see how you can cherry-pick who can marry and who cannot once marriage is re-defined. In my opinion, it is a Pandora's box that once opened, can never be closed.

As for what I'm getting at in my questions about killing animals, I would say that there is no secular argument that can logically argue for what we have now (i.e., killing is okay, sex is not.) I believe the prohibition against bestiality has to do with the fact that sex with animals debases humans, that it corrodes the notion of the "holy" inherent in what it means to be human. Sex is the nuclear weapon of human relations, and there are reasons why it has been so strictly proscribed throughout history. One reason is that wanton sexuality hurts women, for reasons I'd love to talk about but which space does not permit. My argument on this subject is a religious one, and if I open that can of worms, I will be flamed by all the agnostics and atheists on this board. I have a lot more to say on this particular issue, but I'm not wearing my flame-proof suit and my post is already getting too long.

749 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:19:07pm

re: #646 incanus

However, as one of the leaders of Team Secular, you have an astonishing propensity to ascribe motives to your opponents that they have not voiced, and for which there is no evidence. You're biased, you just don't want to admit it.

When did I say I wasn't biased? I have my opinions. Opinions, beliefs, bias, whatever you want to call it. And just about anybody with unapologetic political opinions is similarly biased. I don't see it as anything to be ashamed of.

We ascribe crypto-motivations to leftists all day long every day. Did Hillary or Obama ever say they want to turn this country Socialist? I mean, overtly say it? No. But we ascribe secret motivations to them and discuss the hidden meanings in their words. We do the same for moonbats constantly too ("They're traitors"), even those moonbats who themselves try to put a non-traitorous veneer to their motives. And so on. If you were to look at the other side of the aisle, they're doing the same thing to us all day long too. We're all fascist, we want to make America a totalitarian police state, we want to nuke Iran, we want to commit genocide on Muslims, etc. -- even though we never say those things.

So, guessing or positing what one personally thinks are the secret motivations of other is commonplace. Is it "biased? Is it "unfair"? Possibly. Depends on who's accusing who. But sometimes the diagnosis is accurate.

I still feel the some conservative pundits secretly (and sometimes not-so-secretly) have personal moral reservations about homosexuality in general, and so attack gay marriage not because they're specifically anti-gay-marriage, or because they don't like judicial activism, but because they wish homosexuals would just go back in the closet.

Now, I'm just as tired as you of the in-your-face gay indoctrination of popular culture and of our school system; and I'm tired of subsidizing through my taxes the burden on the health care system of irresponsible people who gets AIDS as a result of their irresponsibility; but gay marriage, per se, is a minor a trivial issue to me personally, and I take no offense in it. If anything, it will serve to "tame" the radical groups like ACTUP and Queer Shame and so forth, and blunt their arguments. I have no problem with "battling the gay agenda," but this particualr battle is not one I wish to fight because the social terrain is unfavorable.

750 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:19:33pm
751 Irenike  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:21:22pm

#745 Zombie,

I respect your viewpoint. I've struggled with the issue of vegetarianism since I was 15, but I can't seem to permanently make the jump, for a number of reasons.

752 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:24:32pm
re: #301 BuddyG
re: #295 JamesTKirk

If same-sex marriage is allowed, where would you then draw the line?
And what are your reasons for that boundary?

What line?  And why is it necessary to draw it?  What's wrong with just leaving people alone to have their own lives, allotting them the same measure of happiness and choices towards any status you enjoy?

And what boundary do you imagine you see JamesTKirk or anyone else drawing?  Aren't you projecting a bit here?

}:)     [Mind your mote, dude ... ]

753 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:27:09pm
re: #306 Sharmuta
re: #298 song_and_dance_man

I'm not saying that. It was to illustrate that our nation was founded on the principle and acknowledgment of a Creator in refutation to your suggestion that the state's not in the business of determining God's intent.

But the State's NOT in the business of religion! It's in the First Amendment!

Dude, you're screaming into the wind again.

};)

754 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:30:30pm

re: #318 Killgore Trout

That's a pretty loaded argument but it's not a choice for many/most gays. It simply isn't. Attempts at curing homosexuality don't work and are often psychologically damaging to the "patients". If gay sex really was a choice why would so many pastors, priests, and conservative politicians ruin their lives, careers, and families by pursuing gay sex. Gay sex must be really fantastic because people take great risks and pay high prices to get it.

Excellent point.

}:)

755 Killian Bundy  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:36:15pm

Next up . . .

/pets

756 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:37:22pm
re: #320 newsjunkie_ky
re: #266 JamesTKirk

Seem to remember seeing pictures of public sex in SF on zombie's site. Don't think they were arrested.

Really?  I must not have been paying attention again.  I suppose it's futile to ask if you actually have a citation, etc., on this, just so I can go check, right?  And if there were, you aren't sure if they were arrested or not, right?  Just so's I understand you here ...

}:P     [Is it rumor or innuendo?  Damned if I know.]

757 zombie  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:41:47pm
#756 Kulhwch
re: #320 newsjunkie_ky
re: #266 JamesTKirk
Seem to remember seeing pictures of public sex in SF on zombie's site. Don't think they were arrested.

Really? I must not have been paying attention again. I suppose it's futile to ask if you actually have a citation, etc., on this, just so I can go check, right? And if there were, you aren't sure if they were arrested or not, right? Just so's I understand you here ...

}:P [Is it rumor or innuendo? Damned if I know.]

Here it is:

Folsom Street Fair, 2007

Lot and lots of overt public sex. No one getting arrested.

758 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:45:57pm
re: #335 MandyManners
re: #318 Killgore Trout

That's a pretty loaded argument but it's not a choice for many/most gays. It simply isn't. Attempts at curing homosexuality don't work and are often psychologically damaging to the "patients". If gay sex really was a choice why would so many pastors, priests, and conservative politicians ruin their lives, careers, and families by pursuing gay sex. Gay sex must be really fantastic because people take great risks and pay high prices to get it.

But, for those who believe it IS a choice, and a sinful one at that, it would be forcing them to violate their own religious beliefs. Is the next step forcing a church to perform the ceremony?

Then someone who feels it is sinful probably shouldn't marry someone of the same gender as them, right?  And they should mind their own business about how other people orchestrate their lives, I'm thinking.

Seriously, do you have a specific church in mind where gays attend but where the church won't marry them?  After all, few people get married in a church they don't attend.  Or is all of this just a bit of supposition?  I'm legitimately curious.

}:)     [Just my two cents worth.]

759 Slumbering Behemoth  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:46:49pm

re: #732 Irenike

The people who are pushing for against gay marriage are defining marriage according to sexual preference.

I think that's more accurate, now.

760 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:49:10pm

re: #341 Squirrelguy

Let them get married. Let be be as unhappy as I was. Let them give up half of everything they own when they want out.

Equality can be a bitch.

Hear, hear, brother!

}:)     <Raising glass.>

761 solomonpanting  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:49:58pm

#750 buzzsawmonkey

Which brings me, reluctantly, back to religion. The Torah recognized the prevalence and normality of homosexual desire, and forbade giving way to that desire in the interest of social cohesion--just as it forbade adultery.

This would a major point argued by those who desire to preserve marriage as it's been, even absent any religious overtones.
After hearing that the 2000 Proposition 22 passed roughly 60% to 40%, I wondered not about how many people voted to pass the Proposition, but was somewhat stunned at the number of people who voted against it. After perusing this thread my wonderment has been somewhat abated.

762 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:51:51pm
re: #345 BuddyG
re: #332 JamesTKirk

You'd be okay with multiple consenting adults all getting legally married to eachother as a group ?

You mean if they wanted to, or against their will?

}:)     [Shhh ... be werry werry qwiet ... ]

763 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 5:58:58pm

re: #347 zmloh

Well, goodbye California it was so nice to know YA!

}:)     <Waiving.>

764 Tigger  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:02:01pm

re: #78 zombie

The big deal, in my opinion, is this: they can do whatever they want, live together and have _the same civil rights_. However, I am absolutely against applying the words "marriage" and "family" to this. A partnership of two homosexuals is _not_ the same as family, and they are _not_ married. Don't you see that this is all about hijacking words and ceremonies to prove, primarily to homosexuals, that they are _normal_. No, they are not. The fact that modern science cannot fix an abnormality does not make it a normal condition. I refuse to accept the idea being imposed on me that homosexuality is simply an alternative lifestyle. Being congenitally blind, for example, is not a choice either (though I don't necessarily believe in this part), and yet it is not an alternative lifestyle.
Another thing I adamantly oppose is allowing homosexuals to bring up children. If one absolutely has (they say, this is not a choice) to have sex that cannot lead to procreation, then they have to live with the consequences. Absolute NO to two fathers or two mothers.
Third, we should stop using euphemisms for homosexuals. Why do they have to be referred to as "gays"? What's wrong with the very word "homosexual"?
Finally, how come marriage has become a right? Who then do the millions of heterosexual single sue for violation of their rights?

765 solomonpanting  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:02:04pm

re: #332 JamesTKirk

I don't care if they're from different races (It was as recently as 1967 when Loving vs. Virginia struck down the laws against mixed-race marriages!)

I can understand why you would cite this if you believe there is no difference between men and women.

766 Irenike  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:02:27pm

#759 Slumbering Behemoth,

You didn't address the point I made after that one. Are you just smearing my argument because, presumably, you have no argument to offer?

I said that a person doesn't have to declare his or her sexual preference when applying for a marriage license. There have been many straight men and women throughout history who have thought: "Damn. This marriage thing means no more multiple lovers. That goes against my sexual preference."

Now address my point. Homosexuals are specifically defining marriage according to sexual preference. How can they ignore the slippery slope?

767 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:02:38pm

re: #349 opnion

i am just saying that throwing beastiality in here seems like such bigotry against Islam. Ya know it"s a cultural thing.
Ok a stretch

Gee, what are the odds of an Islamic marriage being beastial?

}:P

768 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:15:02pm
re: #351 unrealizedviewpoint
re: #198 jemima

I used to live in a town where a guy would break into a barn to rape a little girl's pony.

I guess it's okay if he really really wanted to do it. Who are we to judge etc.

re: #321 zombie

What are you talking about? Gay marriage is the same as bestiality rape?

Weird.

Like I said before, there should be some test administered somewhere between hatching and delousing prior to granting posting privileges.

Some sort of a Kobayashi Ao-Kanahebi ...

}:)     [I like the idea ... ]

769 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:19:17pm
re: #356 Widow'smight
re: #287 Kulhwch

Well around here, some folks speak PA Dutchified, Vunst.

I have a financial obligation to my Wife and Children, a Moral Obligation to them, and an Obligation to protect them.

BTW, THIS wife is a real blessing to me and our kids. I can speak honestly about Marriage being an obligation cause I went through a real ugly divorce.

Since you and I have similar experiences, then, we speak from shared ground.  I do question, however, if that was precisely the best word, considering, but I'll leave further nits alone.

}:)     [One man's words being equal to any others ... ]

770 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:23:14pm
771 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:27:22pm
re: #380 song_and_dance_man
re: #306 Sharmuta

But the State's NOT in the business of religion! It's in the First Amendment!

That's up to interpretation and has been argued by better minds.

From what I'm seeing, it would almost have to be.

}:)     [Thanks for the clarification even if seems equivocated ... ]

772 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:29:23pm

re: #381 Shug

I like team zombie

Me too ... let's get some bowling jackets ...

}:)     [How about Team Undead if Team Zombie doesn't fly?]

773 Uncle Joe  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:31:52pm

"It's about human dignity. It's about human rights. It's about time in California," San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom, pumping his fist in the air, told a roaring crowd at City Hall. "As California goes, so goes the rest of the nation. It's inevitable. This door's wide open now. It's going to happen, whether you like it or not."


[Link: ap.google.com...]

774 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:38:05pm
re: #386 formercorpsman
re: #204 JamesTKirk

You have seen the story floating around about the guy who called the catholic hospital main number, asked if they did sex change operations, knew the answer would no, and now has a lawsuit.

Nope, haven't seen it.  Got a source for that?

}:)     [You're not going to make me listen to crickets, are you?]

775 solomonpanting  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:39:14pm

re: #770 buzzsawmonkey

Most people who oppose same-sex marriage seem to think that the institution itself would be harmed--but I have never yet seen a coherent, let alone convincing, argument for this.

Changing the definition of marriage opens up numerous configurations. Why shouldn't polygamy be allowed, or other combinations?

776 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:39:45pm
777 sffilk  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:42:48pm

Excuse me, but as a gay man who posts here, I find the anti-gay rhetoric abhorrent. Are you saying that as a gay man, were I to marry the man I love, that it would desanctify marriage as an institution? Are you saying that if I want to get married, I have to live a lie as a man married to a woman? How would living a lie sanctify marriage?

As a gay man who's also a veteran, I served honorably. Are you telling me that I should be treated as a second-class citizen, or worse?

Are you saying that people I know who were gay-bashed had it coming to them?

Maybe you should remember the words of Kinky Friedman, who ran for governor of Texas:

I support gay marriage because I believe they have right to be just as miserable as the rest of us!

Ah, but in this case, it's easier to bash the ones who are different because G-D made us that way. We should be entitled to marry the one person we want to marry. We should be able to visit our loved ones in the hospital without fear of anti-gay rhetoric (which, by the way, with those of you espousing such, you put yourselves in the same boat as fred phelps).

I could go on, but I know that I am going to be attacked for believing that I deserve the same EQUAL rights as everyone else. Let me remind you of what Solomon said (Prov. 6:6).

Now, prove me wrong.

778 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:44:20pm
779 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:45:45pm

re: #410 ArmyWife

I am opposed to gay marriage. I am not opposed to gay relationships - I don't care much what happens in people's bedrooms so long as its not harming me or something innocent such as a child or animal.

What we need to remember is there IS a cost associated with this - health insurance premiums will go up, that being the biggest one. Is that enough to say we shouldn't do this? I am not sure, but we kid ourselves if we don't think this isn't a part of the debate. I also don't buy the "discrimination" argument. If gay people wanted to marry for the insurance benefits and whatever else, no one is stopping them - so long as they marry someone of the opposite sex.

The scary part of this particular issue (CA) is the way it came about. It flies in the face of necessary checks and balances - that should scare you whether you are gay, straight or undecided.

So some people don't deserve good health care or coverage, or should be put into loveless marriages to get said coverage, even if they love another?

Wow.

Also knocked out by your understanding of why marriages happen: not because of love or attraction, but because one wants benefits.  I'd pursuit this, but I don't want to be carving too close to the bone on this ...

}:)     [Doubly glad I'm divorced now ... ]

780 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:50:44pm
781 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:55:23pm
re: #418 Sol Roth
re: #285 JamesTKirk
re: #276 Sol Roth

IMHO, the re-definition of marriage to include non-reproducing homosexuals dilutes its original intent; to provide a stable, monogamous mating of a heterosexual pair for the production of offspring that have the maximum fitness to survive and pass on that fitness to the next generation.

I know many married couples who have no children, nor plan to have any. Are you going to rule their marriages invalid? Is childbearing to be a legal requirement for married couples?

Marriage of heterosexuals that are sterile, or who don't want children are no threat to the original purpose of marriage.

Sir, your petard awaits.

}:)     [Boom!]

782 Slumbering Behemoth  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:56:55pm

re: #766 Irenike

You didn't address the point I made after that one. Are you just smearing my argument because, presumably, you have no argument to offer?

No, I am not trying to smear your argument, but I suppose it's not beyond the realm of possibility for anyone to presume I have no counter-argument of my own to offer.

re: #732 Irenike

The people who are pushing for gay marriage are defining marriage according to sexual preference.

I altered this part (in it's original state here) because it's obvious to me that it is those who are against gay marriage that are the ones who are "defining marriage according to sexual preference", and not the other way around as you assert. I wasn't trying to smear or be snarky.

The point you made after that one:

Why is it unreasonable to assume that polygamists might argue the same way gays have? And how can one legally refute their argument?

I'd say that it is unreasonable to assume such because plural marriage was banned by an act of congress back in 1862; the Morrill Anti-Bigamy Act, signed into law by A. Lincoln. I would also say that is how one can legally refute their argument.

I am unaware of any federal laws/congressional acts that specifically ban same sex marriage, but if you have evidence that states so I would like to read it.

There is a world of difference morally between gays and pedophiles, or gays and bestiophiles.

On this, you and I are in complete agreement. I find that such comparisons are terribly dishonest, and in some cases quite despicable.

783 Tigger  Thu, May 15, 2008 6:57:41pm

re: #776 buzzsawmonkey

I think I've explained why it enrages me. It's one of the "hijacked" words. If it's OK to be homosexual it's OK to use the word. In a language, euphemisms are attached to concepts that are deemed either scary or shameful.

784 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 7:01:47pm
785 Slumbering Behemoth  Thu, May 15, 2008 7:09:57pm

re: #777 sffilk

I don't think anyone is saying all those things, but then I must admit I haven't read every single comment either. As far as the Phelps Phreaks go I am certain that if anyone were parroting their hateful rhetoric here they would be quickly banned, and their comments deleted.

re: #784 buzzsawmonkey

Also, "gay" is quicker to type than "homosexual". Some of us :cough*me*cough: are just being lazy.

786 LemonJoose  Thu, May 15, 2008 7:13:27pm

While I'm not a fan of having this kind of stuff decided by the courts, as a resident of MA who opposed the legalization of gay marriage here, I have to admit that overall this is a trivial issue which has had no negative impact at all on the lives of straight people in Massachusetts. The doom and gloom scenario painted by the religious folks who organized the protest against in MA is extremely overblown.

787 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 7:15:26pm
re: #421 runrabbitrun
re: #285 JamesTKirk

I know many married couples who have no children, nor plan to have any. Are you going to rule their marriages invalid? Is childbearing to be a legal requirement for married couples?

No, not every hetero couple can have, or wish to have children - but only hetero couples may bring a child into existence,

Well, technically, In Vitro Fertilization and Artificial Insemination, not to mention Parthenogenesis, all push the boundaries of that, not to mention cloning and stem cell research.  And all of the above can happen in gay marriages, providing children, etc.

which was one of the original intents of marriage:

I'd love a source on this.

to encourage couples which MAY produce children to take financial and physical responsibility for those children. Remember, if a homosexual couple seeks to ADOPT a child, they are investigated and declare their commitment to provide same to the child as a part of the investigation. Not so with heteros, which was a benefit to the culture of couples being married.

So they don't ask these questions of heterosexual couples seeking to adopt?  In every case?  Again, a source would be lovely on this.  It strikes me as they SHOULD ask this sort of thing, not just of adopters, but also of foster parents, etc.

The legal normalization of homosexual marriage may affect adoptions, state/fed funding assistance of religious schools - they may all lose funding and not be able to exist if they teach that a homosexual lifestyle is contrary to their faith.

Sure, hits them in the pocketbook.  No wonder they're so up in arms about this, huh?

It may affect foster care/adoptions by religious groups - which care for enormous numbers of at-risk kids - and there will be demands for equal representation of gay families in textbooks, primers, etc. (not to mention the shakedown of corporations to include gay families represented in movies, ad campaigns, and so on).

It will definitely change the culture - interesting.

I think it's going to be overturned, but it is interesting to watch as it's going on, I agree.

}:)     [Interesting times and all that ... ]

788 Tigger  Thu, May 15, 2008 7:16:07pm

re: #777 sffilk

Excuse me, but as a gay man who posts here, I find the anti-gay rhetoric abhorrent. Are you saying that as a gay man, were I to marry the man I love, that it would desanctify marriage as an institution?
Yes, the institution you would be in cannot be termed marriage, period.

Are you saying that if I want to get married, I have to live a lie as a man married to a woman? How would living a lie sanctify marriage?
Let me get this straight. The important thing is not that the other person's life would be ruined (think McGreevey) but that _you_ would be living a lie? Tell me, why do you so desperately want to use this specific word "marriage." Please explain, why no other word would suit you?

As a gay man who's also a veteran, I served honorably. Are you telling me that I should be treated as a second-class citizen, or worse?
Why, just because you can's marry doesn't violate you civil rights. Getting _married_ is not a civil right. Being able to provide benefits for a life partner, be it a friend or a lover, may be a civil right, that I don't know, but getting married isn't.
Are you saying that people I know who were gay-bashed had it coming to them?
What's that has to do with "marriage"?
the ones who are different because G-D made us that way.
Well, I don't have the privilege of knowing His intent. To create someone a certain way and declare the manifestations of that specific way an "abomination" - wouldn't that be perfidy?

We should be entitled to marry the one person we want to marry. We should be able to visit our loved ones in the hospital without fear of anti-gay rhetoric
You should be entitled to partner with whomever you want and visit whoever agrees to be visited by you. Yes, but not marry. And as far as "fear of rhetoric" - freedom from being offended cannot become a right. Should the law care what offends a heterosexual's sensibilities?
I could go on, but I know that I am going to be attacked for believing that I deserve the same rights as everyone else.
You deserve them. But getting married is not a right. I used to love a person, who wouldn't marry me. So, was that a violation of my rights? Who do I sue?
And no, you are attacked because you insist not on rights but on hijacking words, ceremonies and institutions.

789 Tigger  Thu, May 15, 2008 7:17:11pm

re: #784 buzzsawmonkey

No, it's not silly. It's linguistics.

790 Irenike  Thu, May 15, 2008 7:24:10pm

#782 Slumbering Behemoth

Thank you for taking the time to answer my objections.

Marriage constrains everybody's sexual preferences. Humans --especially male humans -- are polygamous by nature. So are women, but to a lesser degree. Maybe "serially monogamous" is a better way to describe people, as I have heard some anthropologists argue. Marriage, in the ideal, tells two people to go against their nature and commit to each other, and only each other. If you think straights have "lucked out" because they get to marry the sex to which they are attracted, just remember that a man who thinks his wife is no longer attractive (or a woman who thinks her husband has grown unbearably repellent) wouldn't be so quick to consider themselves lucky.

If re-defining marriage would only affect gays, I would have less of a problem with it. But I don't believe it will be confined only to the gay community. People with radically different sexual preferences will argue that they have the right to marry the object of their desire, and they have a logical argument.

You state that there is no law specifically banning same-sex marriage, but there is an anti-bigamy statute. Well, laws can be reversed. Prohibition is just one example of this. I worry that if same-sex marriage is legally endorsed by the state, polygamists and other differently-oriented people will clamor to have their sexual preferences enshrined in marriage. Any prohibitions against their kind of marriage may well be overturned by a sympathetic court, aided and abetted by recent legislative and social changes.

791 MacGregor  Thu, May 15, 2008 7:24:49pm

One concern is gay communities are bio-hot zones.
From spinoff links:

S.F. gay community an epicenter for new strain of virulent staph

Deadly Staph Infection MRSA Strikes Gay Community

...
"We probably had it here first, and now it is spreading elsewhere," said Binh An Diep, a researcher at San Francisco General Hospital and lead author of the report. "This is a national problem, and San Francisco is at the epicenter."
...

792 solomonpanting  Thu, May 15, 2008 7:25:13pm

re: #770 buzzsawmonkey

I can accept the idea that same-sex marriage would mar social cohesion precisely because I argue that homosexual acts are, in fact, normal--and that instituting same-sex marriage could therefore expand a subculture that otherwise would not expand. Most people who oppose same-sex marriage seem to think that the institution itself would be harmed--but I have never yet seen a coherent, let alone convincing, argument for this.

Ah, but here you agree that "social cohesion" would be marred, regardless of the effects upon marriage as an institution. Isn't that enough of a reason for preservation? Isn't that enough of an objection now? Is it necessary to cut off society's nose to spite its face?

793 Kulhwch  Thu, May 15, 2008 7:27:13pm
re: #451 zombie
re: #254 Occasional Reader

Ah, no, you lost me on that point right there. That's public behavior, and the state has a legitimate interest.

I didn't mean in the park. Just a bench in your living room.

Again, I reiterate: oy, the splinters ...

With that, dudes and dudettes (and those undecided), I'm a ghost.  My life is rudimentary as it is, if I don't want it to become vestigial, I need to get cooking on some pasta and chicken for tonight.

Glad to be a member of Team Zombie for a bit ...

}:)     [Hisself, on the way out ... ]

794 wanumba  Thu, May 15, 2008 7:33:58pm

Love how in these political/cultural battles the "children" are used as proof that divorce is fine or there are "gay" couples raising totally well-adjusted adopted kids. Or the sperm bank kids don't need no daddys to clutter up the scene.
All very self-serving.
These things trend to selfish self-indulgence, NOT to putting any child's best interest at heart. Raising children succesfully requires putting aside one's own selfish desires for the sake of the child, not using kids as decorations in an artfully constructed tableau.

And children look around and ask, "Where's my daddy or where's my mommy?" And an adult tells them, "I DECIDED that YOU don't get one."

795 t2139dldps[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 7:46:50pm
796 RoughRider  Thu, May 15, 2008 8:22:37pm

This is just the start. Give the country a President Obama and a Democrat Senate, and you'll see all sorts of young activist moonbat judges fast-tracked onto the federal bench where they will pollute the Judicial Branch for decades.

797 Uncle Joe  Thu, May 15, 2008 8:30:34pm

re: #777 sffilk

As a gay man who's also a veteran, I served honorably. Are you telling me that I should be treated as a second-class citizen, or worse?

Are you saying that people I know who were gay-bashed had it coming to them?

Oh, I don't know...Are you using red herrings?

I'm not in favor of gay bashing in any form but equating resistance to gay marriage with mobs beating up gays in the street is disingenuous and inaccurate. It's calling those who disagree with you a bunch of bloodthirsty animals and it doesn't help your case.

Much of the national discourse about race and sexuality is based on a totally dystopian view of the world of 30 to 60 years ago. As bad as things sometimes were, there were not hourly lynchings of black people on every street corner in America and gays were not being hunted like animals by gangs of hooting rednecks. Society was not pure evil and most people know that.

Pretending that the dystopian fantasy world is where things are now just makes people wonder what else you're bullshitting us about. Probably nothing, of course. You're just upset over what you see as mistreatment and a lack of understanding, but when people know they're being bullshitted, they don't trust.

The feminist establishment that talked for years about "equality" has shown that the concepts they're really interested in are things like "revenge" and "supremacy." People who trusted schools to teach their kids about sexuality have been shocked and disappointed to find their kids getting graphic sex ed classes and lessons about homosexuality at very young and inappropriate ages. Is it surprising that people are worried about further state sanctioned and enforced reshaping of the community, even with the best of intentions?

I actually think most people are like zombie and myself in that we don't really care one way or the other about gay people getting married. At the end of the day, it's not the marriages themselves that people are freaking out about, it's the state placing its full legal authority behind lifestyles that they don't want to be forced to participate in via schools, workplace law and God knows what else. Add to all that the state stepping in to completely invalidate ballot propositions on the subject at hand and, yes, people are pissed off and distrustful.

798 Slumbering Behemoth  Thu, May 15, 2008 8:36:26pm

re: #790 Irenike

Thank you for taking the time to answer my objections.

You're welcome. I am not at all familiar with you, but my first impression was/is that you seem to be a reasonable person, and I did not want you to get the impression I was smearing your argument.

I am not all that hospitable, though. If I thought you were a jerk I would certainly be snarky, and might even offer you one of these: t("t)

re: #794 wanumba


And children look around and ask, "Where's my daddy or where's my mommy?" And an adult tells them, "I DECIDED that YOU don't get one."

Aw c'mon now, let's not ignore the fact that the more common (and hopefully unspoken) answer to the missing parent question is "HE/SHE decided that YOU don't get one".

799 jenv  Thu, May 15, 2008 8:38:28pm

re: #665 Irenike


My question for you is sincere. Why is animal consent necessary for sex, but not to slaughter and eat them?


I'm with you. That line of reasoning leads to PETA demanding we all become vegetarians, a horrible fate indeed.

800 Boogberg  Thu, May 15, 2008 8:47:09pm

Gotta go with the James T Kirk/Zombie Alliance on this one. They totally destroyed the opposing Hierarchy. :D

801 wanumba  Thu, May 15, 2008 8:51:42pm

re: #798 Slumbering Behemoth

Aw c'mon now, let's not ignore the fact that the more common (and hopefully unspoken) answer to the missing parent question is "HE/SHE decided that YOU don't get one".


There's a corollary of all this:
"Here's a new daddy for you. Oh never mind, here's a new daddy for you. Here's a new mommy for you. Uh, well that didn't work out, here's another mommy for you ... HEY! How come you give me attitude!?!"
My parents have 5 marriages and 4 divorces between them. I have had my fill of immature adults. My kids have friends who don't know what a regular family looks like - except that they like it when they see it and would take it in a heartbeat if it would ever be truly offered to them.
I don't see "gays" or "straights" when it comes to marriage. I see either grown-ups with great personal restraint and a fundamental understanding of the great responsibility of true parenthood, or selfish immature brats who want everything for themselves at everyone else's expense.

802 zmdavid  Thu, May 15, 2008 8:52:19pm

re: #681 Kulhwch

Does the law currently force churches to marry anyone?

}:)     [Well?]


Note the ? at the end of my 2nd point.
It used to be said that the courts couldn't force states to accept gay marriage, so we didn't need a marriage amendment. I'm thinking about the future. Also I'm not sure today's decision doesn't, its a zillion pages long and I'm not going to read it because I'm not a lawyer and I'm not in California.

803 Irenike  Thu, May 15, 2008 9:01:58pm

#798 Slumbering Behemoth,

I like you. You're a decent person to have a debate with, because you don't let the discussion sink into name calling, and you sincerely try to address the issue at hand instead of resorting to ad hominem attacks.

What does t(t") mean? Is it like flipping the bird in computer-ese?

804 solomonpanting  Thu, May 15, 2008 9:02:46pm

re: #216 Killgore Trout

Exactly how are gays going to ruin the institution of marriage. Haven't heteros already done that?

No.

805 eclectic infidel  Thu, May 15, 2008 9:08:12pm

Excellent!

806 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 9:20:55pm
807 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 9:23:04pm

re: #774 Kulhwch

Here are your crickets.

Read my posts from before, I said I would be going away and coming back tonight.

[Link: www.foxnews.com...]

808 Slumbering Behemoth  Thu, May 15, 2008 9:24:08pm

re: #801 wanumba

There's a corollary of all this:
"Here's a new daddy for you. Oh never mind, here's a new daddy for you. Here's a new mommy for you. Uh, well that didn't work out, here's another mommy for you ... HEY! How come you give me attitude!?!"
My parents have 5 marriages and 4 divorces between them. I have had my fill of immature adults. My kids have friends who don't know what a regular family looks like - except that they like it when they see it and would take it in a heartbeat if it would ever be truly offered to them.

Well, that is your personal experience, and I am sorry for you. Not to be mistaken for pity, I'm just saying that it's sad you had to go through that.

My experience: My parent (yeah, singular, because the other participant in my arrival was/is a f*cking deadbeat that dropped "the family" like a hot potato) was married only once.

Which was my point re: It is more often the case that the one who leaves is the one that decides how many parents a child gets, and not the other way around.

I don't see "gays" or "straights" when it comes to marriage. I see either grown-ups with great personal restraint and a fundamental understanding of the great responsibility of true parenthood, or selfish immature brats who want everything for themselves at everyone else's expense.

And again we have another example of two Lizards who appear to disagree on some things, yet completely agree on others. Gay parents can be just as responsible as straight parents, just as gay parents can be just as irresponsible as straight parents. Selflessness v. Selfishness, these things have nothing to do with sexual orientation.

809 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 9:25:26pm
810 buzzsawmonkey[deleted]  Thu, May 15, 2008 9:31:10pm
811 formercorpsman  Thu, May 15, 2008 9:32:45pm

re: #630 unrealizedviewpoint

Yeah, I'm looking at from a perspective of freedom for folks. What the hell. They want to marry, who cares? Everybody else can marry, why can't they? You're telling me cause your insurance might go up 10 cents they can't?

A better argument is needed.

By reducing everything I pointed out, to your best argument of insurance going up 10 cents is moronic.

In fact pure projection. I never made an insult, nor slur with respect to the moral of this argument.

I am looking at the subject from different angles than what motivates you. I think your ability to totally look beyond any other aspect, considering what may follow behind this decision just shows your a