Dude, you’re being a jerk
Let’s get this straight: Yes, I waited to have sex with my husband until we were married. I agree with a lot of what this man is saying, I just think he’s wrong in how he’s saying it.
Contrary to what many people believe, no, our wedding night wasn’t awkward or difficult. Grown adults can handle things like…grown adults. I think it makes courtship and marriage stronger to wait; it makes people evaulate each other on the important stuff, and not get distracted.
However, this editorial irritated me. We have explained to our children that other people are not bound down by our religion. It’s our religion, not theirs. I am bound not to drink or smoke. If your religion has no problem with it, then it’s just a less-wise decision*, not a sin. I can eat bacon without it being a sin, and some people can’t.
Looking back, I think that the women saying those things felt like the floozies they ultimately were, and the men, with their fickle manhood tied to their pathetic sexual conquests, felt threatened.
I have a picture in my mind of a woman in 1948, walking down the street with frizzy bottle-blond hair, bright-red lipstick on crooked, low cut dress, and stiletto heels at noon, on her way to the bar to drink her lunch. Floozy? In 2012?
So, to recap: Don’t insult people because their values are not your values. Or, as it was recently stated in LDS General Conference, “Don’t judge me just because I sin differently than you do.”
And, yes, people can and do wait until marriage, and it works out perfectly fine and there’s nothing wrong with them. Unless it’s that they tend to be smug and insult people.
*My husband’s favorite aunt died of lung cancer. Smoking sucks.