Why Men Need Feminism (Really, You Do!) — Everyday Feminism
This one’s for you, guys.
Assuming you don’t believe in the common myths about feminism, you still may think that feminism is all about women’s issues, reproductive rights, celebrating femininity…pregnancy…motherhood…PMS…boobies…vaginas…who knows.
You may have thought:
“I can’t be a feminist. I’m a dude.”
“I support women’s rights, but feminism is not really my thing.”
“My life isn’t really affected much by feminism.”
Well, I’ve got news for you!Truth
Even though women are oppressed in many ways that men are not (let me be clear about this: in many, many, many ways), the system of traditional gender roles that we live in harms ALL people.
This includes you.
Don’t think so? Well, ask yourself the following questions.
Have you ever felt:
Insecure because your body wasn’t big enough, strong enough, or slim enough?
Pressured to be tough, aggressive and competitive beyond your comfort zone?
Ashamed of your interest in cooking, fashion, dance, or some other activity because you were told it made you “gay” or “a girl”?
Offended by media representations of helpless adult men who cannot feed, clothe, or bathe themselves without the help of a woman?
Burdened by expectations to objectify women, have sex with many women and be sexually aggressive?
Helpless when dealing with feelings of sadness, hurt, and shame because you were taught to believe that emotions show weakness and that “real men help themselves”?
Confused at how to be sensitive and kind but still be sexually desirable?
Alone when you suffered an injury but had to “handle it”?
Afraid of being called a “sissy,” “wimp,” “f*g,” “p*ssy,” or “b**ch,”?
Ambivalent about what it means to be a “real man”?
If even one or two of these is true, then you need feminism.
Why Feminism Helps Men
Feminism is about changing the gender roles, sexual norms, and sexist practices that limit you and punish you when whenever you deviate from them.
And the experiences listed above (and more) do exactly that: tell you what a “man” should be and punish you when you want to act differently.
All men have been hurt by the traditional gender system.
You may have accepted these realities as normal - just part of being a guy.
But feminists say that’s not right. That you shouldn’t be expected to live up to an unrealistic ideal. That you shouldn’t be bullied or ignored for being different. That you shouldn’t have to participate in sexist practices. That you deserve much, much more.