TO BE SURE WE ARE ON THE SAME PAGE: Real Feminism Loves Men
It seems that a lot of people think that feminists hate men. They say that we insult our fathers with promiscuity and incorrigibility. They assume we raise our sons to be ashamed, to expect failure, to feel inferior. They believe that we disrespect our husbands, demean them, and expect them to be our slaves. I think it is important to clarify something.
I am a mom of two sons. I am a feminist not because I hate men, but because I love them. I am a feminist because that will make my sons better, stronger, more moral men. I am a feminist because I want my daughter in-laws to be strong, independent, educated, happy women. I want my grandchildren to be raised believing that the world is their oyster and they deserve it… No matter their gender.
Raising young men to believe that they are entitled to rape and disrespect, and slut shame women is raising young men who will have troubles in all aspects of life. Feminism gives them the gift of a life they can be proud of.
In spite of what some might tell you, feminists don’t desire to disparage men. We desire to stand with them equally. We don’t dislike men, distrust men, or lack desire for them in our feminism. In fact, by demanding equality and independence we are free to make the choice in our relationships. This means that instead of being bound to men by fear and force, we are bound by love and devotion. When we choose to be in families and relationships with men, when we are free and able to go whenever we want but we choose not to, we give men a kind of love that misogyny cannot imagine.
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