Why Gay Teens Are Being Expelled From Christian Schools
A strange thing happened to Tristan at the end of eighth grade: He received a Facebook message from someone he didn’t know who seemed, somehow, to understand him better than anyone. “The message was like, ‘Hey, I’m pretty sure you’re gay. I just wanted to let you know there’s some of us at this school. If you ever want to talk, let me know.’” Tristan was shocked that the message referred to his homosexuality, which he thought he’d thus far been keeping under wraps. In fact, he didn’t think he had a choice. As a student at a private Christian day school in eastern Georgia, he knew coming out would spell trouble; as a Christian who’d been taught that being gay was an abomination, he had spent a long time not admitting his sexuality to himself. He tried dating a girl as a cover-up, though that didn’t end well. “We went to a friend’s house, and she tried to kiss me, and I pushed her away.” He then started proclaiming himself asexual. “I was like, ‘If I can keep telling people this, then they’ll believe it, and then I’ll believe it.’” Finally, he gave in and began dating a boy from another school whom he’d met at the supermarket; he thought his boyfriend was the only person in the world who knew his secret. And yet, here was this mysterious message from a stranger.