I never really knew or understood what violence against women was, even as it flooded through so many parts of my life. It’s almost like I never knew the things I saw were considered a crime. Incidents hadn’t reached a level of violence where women were being killed, or bones were broken. There was a lot of noise when I was little. Vague memories of screaming and banging things. One of my first memories was calling my grandma crying because I was afraid. She picked me up and whisked me away to her house where I always felt protected and safe, and got all the chocolate malts I wanted. What I later learned was my grandparents would have epic fights. The kind where dishes were broken and eyeglasses were stomped on. These stories were told to me as “funny tales” of the quirky marriage they shared.
I was probably eight years old when the teenage daughter of my next door neighbor ran from her boyfriend who was choking her. I was just a little girl and she seemed so much older than me. I didn’t understand what happened or what it meant. She was crying and I picked flowers in the front yard and asked my mom if I could take them to her. She was still shaking, with red marks around her neck, as I handed the flowers to her. She said thanks, not looking me in the eye.
An ex-boyfriend and I were talking once when I said I didn’t feel comfortable drinking a lot at a conference we attend each year. “I don’t want to get raped,” I said explaining an honest fear without even thinking about how abnormal that is. “You should be able to have fun and relax without being assaulted by one of your peers,” he said to me. It was almost like I didn’t even understand I had that right. I always assumed that one day I’ll be sexually assaulted - I always assumed one day I would date someone who slaps me and I’ll have to be prepared for how to handle that. I just thought that was what normal looked like.
This post originally appeared on the blog The Outlier Collective. But since that blog is now defunct, and since people have been asking for this post, I’m republishing it here.
I’m typically a huge proponent of the idea that feminism is for everybody. Feminism is for ladies! It’s for men! It’s for individuals who don’t subscribe to the idea of a gender binary! Feminism is for teenagers and small children! In fact, I’m even pretty sure that at least one of my cats is a feminist, although the other one just prefers to think of herself as a cat-ist, because that’s less political. Regardless, I’m usually of the opinion that feminism, as a philosophy, can and should be embraced by everyone.
Lately, though, I’m not so sure. I’ve been seeing a lot of questionable behaviours and comments, many of them coming from purported feminists. I’m starting to wonder if some people might want to re-think whether the feminist movement is right for them. With that in mind, I’ve created a handy-dandy list of ways to tell whether or not this movement is for you.
So without any further adieu, here are ten signs that feminism might not be for you:
1. You are against victim-blaming except in the case of _____
Eric Holthaus, Slate: Climate Change Economics: New Report Says Nixing Fossil Fuels Won’t Be Expensive.
Essentially, the report takes a refreshingly short-term look at what many still assume to be a long-term problem. Here’s the basic calculation: Assume $90 trillion is likely to be spent on infrastructure anyway over the next 15 years, and it would take only an additional $4 trillion to rapidly scale up climate-friendly alternatives. The biggest issue is, at current rates, an additional $9 trillion would be spent in subsidies to the fossil fuel industry over the same time span—a gross misallocation of funds if we’re serious about tackling global warming.
Basically, if we just end government’s long-term relationship with the fossil fuel industry, we could fix climate change. For free.
9 trillion reasons the Kochs spend so much money supporting the GOP.
Leaders from the National Council of Jewish Women Come to Washington to Speak Up for Abortion Coverage
It’s a press release, so here’s the whole thing:
September 17, 2014, Washington, DC - Leaders representing members of the National Council of Jewish Women (NCJW) came to Washington today to urge members of Congress to end federal bans that deny abortion coverage to women enrolled in federal health plans and programs. They joined nearly 200 other like-minded individuals as part of an advocacy and education effort mounted by All Above All, an NCJW-endorsed national campaign that unites organizations and individuals to build support for lifting the bans that deny abortion coverage.
The Washington, DC, event was the culmination of All Above All’s Be Bold Road Trip, a cross country effort that coordinated events across eight states to raise awareness about the harmful impact of restrictive federal policies such as the Hyde Amendment. Since passage of Hyde in 1976, politicians have withheld abortion coverage from the nearly one in seven women of reproductive age enrolled in the Medicaid program, as well as women who are federal workers, Peace Corps volunteers, and Native American women, among others. NCJW has long fought to end such bans and to ensure that every woman has the ability to obtain an abortion on the same basis as she obtains any other needed reproductive health care service.
Rabbi Lori Koffman of New York City, NCJW national board member and chair of NCJW’s reproductive justice initiative, asserts that lifting bans on abortion coverage is key not only to protecting women’s health and safety, but safeguarding her moral agency. “Getting rid of bans is not only about protecting a woman’s health, but also her religious liberty. The decision to end a pregnancy is deeply personal, and every woman must be able to follow her own faith tradition, moral values, and conscience in making this decision,” Rabbi Koffman said, adding, “By denying abortion coverage, legislators impose one religious view about abortion on all of us — interfering in a woman’s personal decision and denying her religious freedom.”
Participants in the Washington Lobby Day were equally adamant. “I came to Washington because I believe our lawmakers have an obligation to ensure every woman can access the health care she needs, including abortion, without risking her or her family’s economic security,” said Linda Slucker, immediate past president of NCJW. She added, “Congress should not restrict one woman’s ability to obtain the care that is best for her, just because she is poor. That kind of discrimination is unacceptable, and many people of faith believe as I do.”
Bans such as the Hyde Amendment most harm low-income women, who today are disproportionately women of color. When a woman cannot afford to access abortion, the consequences on her and her family can be far-reaching. Women who seek abortion but are denied are three times more likely to fall into poverty than those who can obtain such care.
To highlight the myriad harmful ways that coverage bans impact women and families across the country, the All Above All road trip began in Los Angeles on August 9, visiting 12 cities and logging 10,000 miles. In addition to NCJW’s participation in the All Above All Hill Education Day, NCJW leaders spoke at rallies in Los Angeles and Philadelphia. They helped mobilize for the Chicago rally and the Philadelphia event, where they were also part of the planning efforts. In Rochester, NCJW assisted in the effort to gather signatures on a petition urging Congress to lift coverage bans and also helped plan the local event.
Additional NCJW participants in the Lobby Day include Linda Slucker of West Orange, New Jersey (NCJW immediate past president); Joni Cohan of Dallas, Texas; Meryl Gindin, Bala Cynwyd, Penn., Donna Gutman, Chicago and Carole Levine, Evanston, Ill.; Sharon Lipton, Waterford, Mich.; Anne London, Lutherville, Md.; Stella Sayles, New York City, N.Y.; Janet Solitt, Fort Lauderdale Fla.; and Sue Tilis, Atlanta, Ga.
The National Council of Jewish Women (NCJW) is a grassroots organization of volunteers and advocates who turn progressive ideals into action. Inspired by Jewish values, NCJW strives for social justice by improving the quality of life for women, children, and families and by safeguarding individual rights and freedoms. More information on Facebook and on Twitter at @NCJW.
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If you’ve been following the story of this image and it’s attendant copyright issues, then you’ll probably enjoy this…
Monkey feel vindicated that U.S. Copyright Office rule Bad Man ineligible to claim Monkey Selfie as intellectual property. Monkey advised by counsel not to comment while issue being adjudicated, but now that ruling has been issued Monkey grateful to be able to speak out for first time, and perhaps provide valuable context.
When Monkey snatch camera from Bad Man and run hooting into tall grass, Monkey see it as liberating act of self-expression, and, yes, perhaps even blow against human cultural hegemony. The fact that Monkey not realize at first that camera was camera and try to eat it, irrelevant. Once Monkey recognize that device make clicky sound, Monkey become fascinated. In that moment, Monkey reborn as Artist.
Investigators said the suspect, Eric Frein, 31, of Canadensis, belonged to a military simulation unit in Pennsylvania and may be acting out the war games in real life.
Apparently this guy belonged to some type of re-enactment group.
The local newscast I just watched simply referred to “European wars” but didn’t give any further detail. I just watched a newer broadcast and the exact phrasing was “the group was focused on European history in the Cold War”. Not sure what that means though. They also said that he had a couple of minor run ins with the police. Also, friends/acquaintances said that he is a very experienced survivalist and will be hard to track down.
My local school district was closed today due to fear that the kids at bus stops could be in danger. I still have one child left in school so I’m glad they’re erring on the side of caution for now. I just wonder how long they’ll keep the schools closed if he’s not captured soon. Tough call since we usually lose a lot of school days to snow - this is up in the Pocono Mountains.
More: State Police News Update
Sprinkle yourself in fairy dust and say the magic words “I sincerely believe,” and that’s really all you need for the right-minded judge to sympathize with your oh-so-burdensome burden of having to obey the law and then wave his magic gavel and say, “Okay, you are exempt from the laws you don’t like.” David Sam, senior judge of the United States District Court in Utah, is one such judge.
In Perez v. Paragon, he waved his magic gavel for Vergel [or as the judge calls him in the opinion, “Vernon”] Steed, a member of the Fundamentalist Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. If that name sounds vaguely familiar, perhaps polygamist “Prophet” Warren Jeffs rings a bell? He’s the leader of the FLDS cult who thinks god wants him to bang kids. Or at least he was, before he was sentenced to spend the rest of his life — plus 20 years! — in prison for sexually assaulting his 12- and 15-year-old “spiritual wives.”
As ThinkProgress reports, in addition to screwing children literally, the cult is under investigation for violating child labor laws. For Jeebus. Allegedly, but who are we kidding? If these scumbags were okey-dokey with raping children, they probably were even more okey-dokey with using children to pick their pecan trees, and no, that’s not a euphemism. Now the feds are looking into that too, and they’ve issued a subpoena to get some answers, but ol’ Vergel/Vernon, well, he just doesn’t want to cooperate because — surprise! — religious beliefs:
So Polygon showcases the AEI’s anti-femminist response to #gamergate talking about how games are for dudes and dudes need that space to continue being dudes and bitches should get back in that kitchen where they belong.
Link is to Polygon - No links for AEI.
It’s called the FBI’s Next Generation Identification system, and the agency said it became fully operational Monday. The government expects the system’s database to house 51 million photographs by next year — and keep growing.
Adding a whole new meaning to Big Brother is watching you.
Raiderettes Lawsuit: The Team Will Pay $1.25 Million and Increase Cheerleaders’ Salaries to Minimum Wage. Yay?
he two Raiderette cheerleaders who revolted against the team this year—suing the Oakland Raiders for paying them less than minimum wage, withholding paychecks until the end of the season, and never reimbursing them for business expenses—have declared victory. Lacy T. and Sarah G., who filed a class-action suit on behalf of their fellow Raiderettes this spring, have reached a settlement with the NFL franchise. The team will pay out a total of $1.25 million to 90 women who cheered between 2010 and 2013. That translates to an average $6,000 payout per cheerleader per season for the first three seasons covered by the suit, and an average of $2,500 each for the final season. (Right before Lacy’s lawsuit hit, the Raiders unexpectedly padded the 2013 cheerleaders’ checks with additional cash). According to Sharon Vinick, lawyer for the Raiderettes, future Raider cheerleaders will be paid minimum wage for all hours worked, receive checks every two weeks, and be reimbursed for business expenses they incur in the course of the job.
“We are excited that the Raiders have decided to pay their current cheerleaders in accordance with the law,” Sarah G. said in a statement through her attorney. “This was our goal and I am pleased to say I was a part of an organization whose management decided to make these changes. Now we can just go back to dancing, being respected and taking down the Niners when they try to step onto our field!”