But less than 24 hours after arriving at the retreat, she and her spouse were told to leave. The military chaplains who organized the program last month said that the couple was making others uncomfortable. They said they had determined that under federal law the program could serve only heterosexual married couples.
Lieutenant Hardy is a lesbian in a same-sex marriage who had hoped that the repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” in 2011 would allow her to fully participate in military life. But she and many other gay and bisexual service members say they continue to encounter a raft of rules and regulations barring them from receiving benefits and privileges routinely accorded to heterosexual service members.
Lieutenant Hardy had been assured by the chaplain’s office in the weeks before the retreat that she and her wife were welcome to attend. The chaplains said in hindsight that those assurances were given in error.
“I felt hurt, humiliated,” said Lieutenant Hardy, 28. “These were people I had been deployed with. And they were telling me I can go to fight the war on terrorism with them, but I can’t attend a seminar with them to keep my marriage healthy.”
Gay marriage is now legal in nine states and in Washington, D.C. But because same-sex marriages are not recognized under federal law, the spouses of gay service members are barred from receiving medical and dental insurance and surviving spouse benefits and are not allowed to receive treatment in military medical facilities. Spouses are also barred from receiving military identification cards, which provide access to many community activities and services on base, including movie theaters, day care centers, gyms and commissaries.
In our concern for the rights of people with mental illness, we have come to neglect the rights of ordinary Americans to be safe from the fear of being shot — at home and at schools, in movie theaters, houses of worship and shopping malls.
Alcohol will now be on the menu at theaters in British Columbia after the provincial government reversed its long-standing ban on booze in cinemas.
Housing Minister Rich Coleman, who is responsible for liquor laws, said this week that multiplex theaters can now apply for a license to serve alcohol in theaters that play adult-rated movies and in adjacent lobbies.
He said the theaters must be closed to minors during screenings because it would be difficult to enforce the rules against underage drinking in a dark theater.
“These changes strike an appropriate balance between allowing liquor service at theaters and limiting minors’ access to alcohol,” Coleman said.
Vancouver’s independent Rio Theatre had spearheaded the fight for the liquor control changes. The theater had been granted a liquor license in late January to serve booze at live events, but the venue’s owner protested because she was told that her multi-media theater could no longer show movies. In February, she was then told she could show movies if she applied to de-license her venue three weeks in advance of screenings and she could only apply to be de-licensed three or four times a year.
“The whole thing is very confusing for most people to understand. No other venue had been treated that way,” said Corinne Lea, the owner of the theater.
Now, she said, “we’ve got the popcorn and the candy - and we also have draft beer.”
Lea said now she’s looking at themed nights where moviegoers at screenings of The Big Lebowski could emulate main character “The Dude” and sip his signature White Russians.
The policy change would allow about 30 live-event theaters and 100 movie theaters to serve alcohol.
She called the government change of heart an arrival at “some common sense.”
Customer is upset that the theater doesn’t want patrons using their phones in the theater to talk or text. I mean, it’s HER phone and we’re in the USA Magnited States of America!!!!!
It’s all about HER, and what she wants to do with her phone, and to hell with the theater rules set up to ensure a distraction-free environment for all patrons.
The theater takes her call and makes a great ad - click this link for access to the audio. NSFW.
It seems like a simple rule: No talking or texting while the movie is playing. Yet it’s a rule that is sadly broken way too often in cinemas across the country, to the displeasure of REAL movie lovers.
The Alamo Drafthouse in Austin, Texas, has a very clear policy: You text, we kick you out. And it would have ended there for one unlucky patron whom the cinema kicked out, except she later called and left a lengthy, angry voicemail rant on the moviehouse’s answering machine.
Voila! Instant anti-texting PSA, now being played for appreciative patrons at the Drafthouse.