re: #2 Mostly sane, most of the time.

I am uncomfortable with people referring to the Swedish charges as “rape.” He failed to use a condom with a woman who had asked him to use one. Ungentlemanly.

I am uncomfortable with rape being called merely “surprise sex”. EXCUSE ME?? (that last bit is actually directed at the Swedes, not you, because that’s one of the charges listed. WHAT?)

However, when a person says “I want you to wear a condom,” how can anyone interpret that as to mean anything but “I do not want to have sex with you if you don’t”? How can anyone interpret that as permission to have sex anyway?

(Are you sure you just want to go with a mere “ungentlemanly” when the consequences of unprotected sex can be dangerous, or life altering??)