re: #90 prairiefire
My nephew has 3. It’s enough to see the shaded differences in his actions, but not too much for special attention. Our family gives him the special attention and hopefully the tools to handle himself among the general public.
He has also matured a lot by age 12 and some of his reactions have settled down.
He doesn’t panic over loud noises, for example. He just carries his ear plugs in his pocket, the little sweetie.
Our family’s goal is to keep the girl in a school setting as long as possible. The rural Alabama school our daughter sought out is amazingly hip and cooperative, but becoming flat broke like all the others.