re: #104 Guanxi88

Would you attribute bigotry to a Black man who finds himself uncomfortable living in, say, small-town Idaho after ahving lived in Detroit all his life?

How would he know what is expected? There are endless unwritten rules to any culture. If you’re from outside that culture, you have to feel your way and you have to be alert to the nonverbal cues signaling that you’ve transgressed such a rule.

This walking on eggs is a burden for anyone and naturally leads to some discomfort.

Being out in the wider world can be exhilarating, enlightening, scary, genuinely dangerous in some places, —-but it’s always less comfortable than an old shoe or the culture you’ve already assimilated to.