re: #108 Wendell Zurkowitz ((slave to the waffle light))

A listener wrote to ask if it’s a “red flag” that his fiancé doesn’t want to take his last name. No it’s not just a red flag. It’s a dealbreaker. Men, don’t marry women who won’t take your name. That’s a wall of separation she wants to keep between you. It won’t be the only one.

Germany allowed double names but did not change the law on the wife being able to keep her name unchanged until the late 1980’s.

My sister, my niece, and I all kept our last names when we married, though our policy was to marry men whose last name started with the same initial as ours so that monograms would be unaffected. ////

When we were engaged, my fiance initially insisted that I take his name and I almost broke up with him — and then he finally confessed that he was fine with it — it was just his warped sense of humor.