re: #117 Jadespring

re: #95 marjoriemoon

I don’t hide it. Realized that my comments might have come off that way.
I’m proud of who he is. :) My comment was more about the types of reactions I do get when it comes to light, enough that sometimes I’m just cautious at introducing it right off. It’s also coupled by the fact that he to most eyes is ‘passable’ as a white guy. Interesting though that his people recognize who he is right away. I’ve had people who were fine when they thought ‘just normal white guy’ get all weird when they find out that it’s not the case, like the guy who came into the house to work. He was perfectly fine in the driveway.

Silver lining though is that it is easy to find out who is really bigoted and racist. In mixed company people tend to be nice and good. If they think they’re safe in a non-mixed crowd and the nasty comes out. There have been several occassions where bigoted comments have been made in my presence and I will gladly speak up. The best is ‘Really? Glad to know how you really feel about my husband.” Them all confused. “What are you talking about?” Me: “My husband he’s XXX”

I have no problem admitting that I thoroughly enjoy the squirming and the attempted mea culpas.

As a man in a ‘mixed-race’ (I’m rolling my eyes here) marriage of some 34 years I’m in your corner and empathize with you completely.