re: #99 DaddyG

That is horrific. If there was anything that was bad about losing virginity it was the physical pain it caused the woman. Who would even think to do this with a sane mind!?!

Seriously- I’ve been very open with my kids about my past, why I became chaste once I joined the Mormons, the challenges of doing so, the joys of reproduction and intimacy for non-reproductive reasons, good reasons to wait, the challenges of waiting, etc.

Acting like people don’t have drives and desires or that its easy to control them until marriage (a wise idea but not an easy ideal) just makes kids think adults are clueless. Plus if they fail while thinking the adults around them are perfect it leads to secrecy and guilt.

Repression does not equal chastity. Open discussion of reality and caution leads to chastity.

Grrr… these lunatics are going to destroy the families they claim to defend!

But a lot of the religions *want* you feeling repressed and guilty.