re: #153 Wendell Zurkowitz ((slave to the waffle light))

I have to grant him that the first one is important - if she has or has had a dysfunctional relationship with the first man in her life, it is likely to affect things down the line.

I met this lady in Frankfurt, went to her place for the first time and saw a family picture, asked what her dad did for a living.

“My father is a bastard,” she replied. “I’ll never love him.”

But I ignored that advice and we wound up marrying and stayed that way for 13 years before I gave up trying to deal with some serious emotional problems.

How someone gets along with family is huge. I hate drama and going into someone else’s family drama is too much for me to deal with.

That said, what this guy is doing is interviewing instead of living. A date should be fun and exploratory. If you are actively looking for an out, which he is, the date and any possibility of a relationship will fail.

And, bam! You’re an incel.