This is a mess where there is no good reality.

Most cases of rape, the woman is rather clear from the start that she is not interested in many different ways. There really is little grey zone there.

We start getting into intractable parts of the law when we hit the grey zones of her changing her mind and when she changed her mind.

Obviously, obviously, the nano-second a woman says no, you (as a man) police yourself up - even if she was literally (and I mean in actuality) seducing you before, seemed “completely into it” up until that nano-second and you are one nanosecond from finishing.

Of course, how often does such a thing really happen? I have never encountered myself or met anyone with a story about a woman changing her mind mid sex.

This strikes me as so rare an actual behavior, in fact, that if a woman claimed she started out interested, and proceeded to the point of actual sexual relations, and then claimed that she changed her mind midway, and then was pressing charges, I would tend to suspect she is gaming the system and actually “changed her mind” much longer after the fact.

If such a thing did happen, she actually had second thought mid coitus, the only recourse a man has if she does something like that without a very good reason, is to consider her crazy and run screaming.

Obviously obviously, women are abused terribly the world over and given the basic nature of things, default support needs to go to the woman.

The flip side of this is, what about the small number of cases where the man is actually being set up by the woman? The vast majority of rape cases were an actual rape. I am not arguing that, and that is not my direction with this.

What I mean is that there is a subset of these cases where the man is actually being set up by a woman who is exploiting the system for whatever reason. There are all too many cases like this.

Now suppose you are the defence attorney of the accused man. The only thing you can do is attack the credibility of the woman.

This is why there will never be a solution. Say 9/10 accused rapists are guilty as sin, scumballs who deserve the worst punishments. 1/10 is not in that category. All 10 out of 10 have only one defense option, which is to counter attack the credibility of the woman.