re: #217 Wendell Zurkowitz ((slave to the waffle light))

To me the worst is when people observe all the forms of civility while being totally rude and condescending, like when a Brit starts out a sentence saying “With all due respect….”

That’s what I always hated about the praise for Southern hospitality. The South tolerated racism and Jim Crow for the century after the war ended slavery, but they were very “hospitable”. And official Jim Crow ended only when through federal legislation and Supreme Court decisions and not because Southern states of their own accord decided these behaviors were wrong.