re: #248 Dianna

I think…that the plural of anecdote is not data, but gossip. I think…that you are responding to something you’ve encountered, somewhere, a generalizing to an extent I find eye-brow raising.

Honestly, I don’t care for this broad-brush approach. I’ve met many religious women who quite clearly enjoyed contact with their husbands. I do not presume to tell you that they’re having great sex, but they certainly seemed happy.

There is absolutely no broad brush, in the extent of being too broad brushed that it is false, to say that women’s sexual response is normally a bit more complicated than a man’s. Given this, there is no broad brush to say that for women to have enjoyable sex lives, they need to be able to know what they like and communicate that to their partners - and he needs to be able to listen.

Therefore, if one comes from a culture where it is impossible to discuss these things, it is unlikely that sex will have all that many fireworks for her. This is common sense for any non-virgin.

Why is the old line of advise to new brides from Victorian England “Lie back and think of England?” Hmmm? Where did this come from, and why would it become popular?

I did not say that most marriages on the far right were unhappy. I said that it is likely they frequently do not have the best sex lives because they have a great deal of ignorance about how sexuality works, and they do not talk about it, and women in particular think it is something that they can not talk about. There is more to marriage than sex however, they may still be happy.

I get very tired of people refusing to hear the obvious and then saying that I paint with a broad brush just because they do not wish to look at common sense.