re: #289 HoosierHoops

It happened so suddenly…Yea..I burned up 2 weeks off and the whole I’m hanging out in Indy went out the window..It’s OK..But this has been a shock.
Monday morning 8am

It’s hard to imagine right now, but a few weeks of that normal routine will help. It takes the edge off the pain and, in my case, allowed me to relax in ways I couldn’t otherwise.

Find little rituals you can do - I light a candle every time I go to church because that was something my mother deeply believed in - that will help as well as it gives you a focus point for the pain that keeps it out of your heart.

On Sunday, go to that club you’ve talked of (Moose? Elk? Something like that) and be there with friends. They will get you past that day and throughout the regular days which will, really, be much harder.

I still have my father, but it doesn’t make the ache for my mother go away. Accept that ache as a given and it will help tremendously. It will always be there to a greater or lesser extent.

All we are doing; all we can do; is survive. That is at once harder and simpler than we ever expect before we find ourselves in that spot.