re: #324 klys (maker of Silmarils)

Highly seconded. You can still be the primary person to take care of the bills, but she should know how your system works and what’s involved before she’s having to figure it out in the middle of an awful situation.

Thank you. As one who was suddenly widowed, I can’t even imagine having that ignorance on my plate as well. I was lost, insane, my life’s rug pulled out from under me. At least I had that under control as much as possible having been the bill-payer. I knew how to keep things running even while the rest of my world was spinning. I’ve know so many women who had no clue because their husbands had always taken care of financial matters who were lost, and often taken advantage of. Keeping a partner in the dark is no gift.