Thank you, Bob, for your feedback.

I will try to re-state this assertion in another way which, hopefully, will make it more clear.

Islam offers its followers a basic trade.

Proclaim Mohammed as the final word of God and, in turn, you will be entitled to treat women and children and minorities in the same way that he did.

Only a tyrant would permit the restriction of the rights of women and minorities in this manner. Yes, Muslim men (who decide what happens in Muslim countries by allowing their chieftan to rule) prefer having a tyrant than giving up the right to act as little tyrants themselves over their women and minorities.

You are identifying that if only they knew a better world, they would change their mind. This is paternalistic and, in any event, too hypothetical to matter. Also, it may well be the case that they are happier with the trade detailed above. There is really no way for us to know that, even if we think it, since we have never tried living their way.