I think one of these arguments started because I said that someone in the news seemed literally “retarded” (I even argued that in detail) and I was told that using that word, ever, was no longer acceptable.
That was an attempt to control me by taking a word out of my vocabulary. Not through convincing and argument but through disapproval, then insult ie. direct control. The assumption was that “no” could not be taken as an answer. That I have no freedom at all in the matter, it was decided for me.
You don’t call that an attempt at control? Of course it’s the demand for control.