re: #434 suchislife

Manipulative and sincere in terms of this certainly are opposed: you’re alleging, it seems to me, that he’s positing this in such a way as to say that all responsibility lies on the parent, that they’re to blame if they don’t give enough love or communicate it right, and using this as an ‘or else’ to force or coerce caregivers into not abandoning a kid no matte how they behave.

This is inconsistent with believing that he’s sincerely saying that a parent perceived to give up hope may be a triggering event for an ostracized and violent kid, and so, acknowledging the parent wants the best outcome for the kid (and themselves), this should be avoided strenuously and that even if you can’t handle the kid on your own, showing that you’re not giving up is important— and that it may sometimes be impossible, since these kids may choose to ignore love.