re: #435 JordanRules

One of the big takeaways from all the empowered white supremacy these days is people of color and white anti-racists saying you need to talk to your family and friends if they are being bigoted. I think that is ridiculously important. I’ve never seen it go away by being silent and merely not doing it yourself. In fact, that type of complicity emboldens it IMO. When someone says something offensive and you do nothing they think it’s okay.

So I advised the complete opposite of you. Happy will obviously have to decide how he wants to handle it. But part of fixing this is confronting it and doing the work. It’s uncomfortable but not nearly as uncomfortable as it is for the targets of the behavior which, when allied with power is dangerous.

I do think living by example is key though. I do think I was for better lack of a word shaped by my grandfather’s example to my Dad and uncles.