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Seth Meyers: A Government Shutdown Is Imminent, and It's Entirely the Responsibility of Trump and the GOP

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A Mom Anon1/18/2018 1:07:41 pm PST

re: #446 HappyWarrior

I’m having some issues right now with my son, he’s really not getting what he has to do to actually “get” dating and reciprocal relationships. I worry that he will end up vulnerable to this shit because he’s not getting that the problem is his, not the young women he can’t seem to connect with. He’s a good person, but he’s also really self focused and cheap as hell (to the point of not buying new shoes or underwear when they’re falling apart), which isn’t helpful either. I do not know if this is Aspergers related, just being a 23 yr old dude or a combo platter.

Here’s something else I see happening: A lot of young men seem to have a very specific type of woman they want. She has to be a certain height, weight, etc. Of course we all do this, have a physical “type” we’re attracted to, but in the case of these young men, that creates all kinds of barriers to what could be good relationships. Because the standards are so rigid. That leggy supermodel type or whatever she “should” be is the only women they pursue and so the rejection is almost guaranteed. They won’t consider any woman outside of their super narrow definition of what they think is perfect. So if she has the wrong hair color, or isn’t a size 3, or doesn’t like the same music then that’s it, she’s not worth another look , EVEN IF SHE ACTUALLY WAS INTERESTED at first. So, I think a lot of this “gamergate” and MRA type anger is based on this crap, in part at least. I have a hard time getting this, and I’ve had my share of shitty treatment from men in my past.

My personal taste, the ideal guy for me looks like Chris Cornell or Eddie Vedder. Did I fall in love and marry a guy who looks like either? Nope, lol. I married an overweight, tattooed up biker looking dude who is a skilled tradesperson. Because I didn’t shut out possibilities , even after a messy divorce and abusive relationships in my past. So what are we doing to young men and boys to make them so unrealistic. Not that young women are not frought with their own cultural challenges, but I don’t see the level of hate and huge numbers of groups online hating on men like we are seeing with men.

YMMV of course, but I really wonder how some of this can be countered. It’s not healthy for us as a culture or community to have so many disconnected young (and older) men out there being so pissed at women in general.