re: #46 Targetpractice

It’s a very patriarchal way of thinking that guides them in such circumstances. The whole “lady in the living room, whore in the bedroom” belief that says a woman’s job in the marriage is to keep hubby happy and if she’s failing that job then it’s on her and not him when he strays. That if he comes back to her and begs forgiveness, then she’s expected to forgive him and work to address her failure to satisfy him. But he keeps straying and she stands by him, then it reflects negatively on her because he’s not getting what he “needs” at home and is looking elsewhere. But, of course, since it’s a patriarchal thought process, the flip side is if she walks out on his ass for his cheating, then she’s responsible for the marriage’s failure because she’s supposed to stand by him “til death do them part.”

IOW, for men so disposed, “heads I win, tails you lose”.