re: #4 Locker

They also had this “flag” on the front of their house which looked like a white shabby square of cloth with a gray plus sign on it. I believe that has something to do with their event as well but I’m really not sure.

That, I’ve got no clue about. Their version of a mezzuzah, perhaps? Very strange.

It appears your step-daughter’s family may have missed the whole religious and/or historical significance of the event. Perhaps a non-confrontational conversation with some information along those lines might be called for, whether you yourself are religious or not. Somebody should help this girl get a fuller understanding of things. That’s just my .02, and I should probably just shut up, it’s really none of my business. I’m just really not into misusing the rituals or symbols of another faith which is what happens when there’s not a genuine understanding of them. It’s disrespectful and intolerant. I personally was very offended by PZ Myers’ games with a consecrated host for that reason.