My daughter’s field hockey coach routinely swears at the players, calls them “fat” and “stupid,” punishes them by making them run extra miles in 100 degree weather, grabs their water bottles out of their hands and throws them on the ground if they drink while he’s yelling at them, and grips their arms so hard that he leaves bruises.
If a classroom teacher did that, they would be fired (tenure or not) so fast it would make your head spin. No parent would allow it for a minute. But in sports, it’s considered “building a good team.”
I don’t know which is worse, the way that parents protect their children from the slightest discipline or criticism or regulation in the academic classroom, or the way they seemingly honor abuse on the playing field.