re: #61 Targetpractice
and that there was a time when most people did not choose their mates: they were selected by the family based on an advantageous social or property arrangement.
i.e.: we have three cows but only enough pasture for two. The family in the next village has a boy our daughter’s age and their cow just died. matter settled. she marries and takes the cow, we get a share of the milk.