re: #680 Obdicut
I listened to an interview with this woman who wrote a book that was all about her affairs as a mistress for wealthy men. It turned out to be popular with women, wives who were helped to understand. She has a concept, advice for women in this case. Negotiated infidelity is not necessarily permission to cat around, but can be as simple as an understanding attitude about porn and strip clubs.
Add the fact that in the post viagra era, mens sex drives are often (sometimes?) literally outlasting their post menopausal wives. The next sexual revolution (not a fan of that overused overblown term) is underway.