re: #76 stabby
I can see that, but I think “co-dependent” isn’t the word you’re looking for.
Whatever the wingnut, positive connotation word for “totalitarian”, “oppressive”, “cruel” would be right.
Righteous maybe?
Actually, co-dependents fall under the martyr category in many, many cases. They don’t see it as totalitarian, it’s all done out of Love and Concern. And, they will make sure you follow the rules if it kills them.