We do this, we men, very often, I think, mostly without knowing it. Every day in every country for every reason the mind can invent for why the violence is deserved. If Eve isn’t guilty somehow, we wager — bringing the blood upon herself — Adam cannot rule the world. And so the blame-shifting lie continues till one day — if we’re lucky and ready — we men drop the story, we start to grieve, and the cycle, the ignorance, comes undone.

There is some powerful writing at this site.