The thing that upsets me so about Kathryn Jean Lopez—and this is not limited to rightie pundits, Rebecca Walker has hacked me off with it too—is this assumption that other women just haven’t THOUGHT about all of this. We’re just in la-la land, making dumb choices and risking being so sad if we can’t fulfill our lives by having babies…

Most of the women I know have given quite a lot of thought to the shape of their lives.