Conditioning, conditioning, conditioning …

Sometimes the hardest part about getting help when you’re in an abusive relationship is recognizing that you’re in one to begin with. “Many survivors don’t realize they’re in an abusive relationship. Domestic violence is not just physical or sexual abuse. It’s any form of power and control,” says Yvette Lozano, director of intervention and emergency services with the nonprofit Peace Over Violence.

Lozano says noticing any of the following signs in your own relationship or the relationship of a loved one can indicate domestic violence:

-Feeling like you’re being controlled. This could include your partner telling you how to dress, who you can see or talk to, whether or not you can have a job, or your partner is restricting your access to money.

-Feeling fearful of your partner, afraid that your partner might physically abuse them.

-Having a partner who constantly puts you down or calls you name.

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