re: #89 Charles

Somebody should ask her if she masturbates.

I think from this text of one of her essays, she simply gets it on without worrying about that whole “marriage” thang:

“Yes, I am a Christian. Yes, I do seek to surrender my entire life to the will of our Father. That is precisely why I don’t talk about abstinence or secondary virginity when I am asked to speak about sex. Abstinence is a physical discipline, not a calling. It makes our physical condition the goal.

As Christians, virginity is not even our goal. Purity and holiness are our calling in Christ. In Philippians 3:14 when the apostle Paul urges us to “press toward the goal” he is not calling us to push the limits as long as we don’t cross the line. He continues to assure us that it is a prize, a great reward, to live as Christ calls us to live.

I don’t like the term “secondary virginity” because it, too, makes virginity the goal and seems to classify certain people as second-rate Christians. 2 Corinthians 5:17 says that “if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold all things have become new.” It does not say “all things except our virginity.” When Christ heals people from cancer, there is no doubt that the physical body has been restored. Yet sometimes our own shame can cause us to doubt His ability to restore our purity. Christ promises to cleanse us from all of our sins. “

Some heavy rationalization in there. Especially that last line.