re: #288 Talking Point Detective

I’m not suggesting tolerance of bigotry. I’m struggling with how to react in a way that is reflective of my disgust but that also works within a larger frame. In other words, it was a disgusting joke but I don’t think that it lends much credence to the assumption that he supports bombing abortion clinics. When you make that insinuation, IMO, your criticism loses credibility.

Obsessing over what we find offensive is a losing proposition. Pathologies like obsession only escalate and that renders the individual less able to deal competently with reality.

What is effective is to transfer that anger into elevated behavior. Find an outlet to express not so much what bothers you (source of obsession) but rather express your higher ideals.

On a personal note, I used to be very defensive when it came to criticism of the right. After time here I find my core beliefs have been strengthened because I can reject what I know is BS. I will condemn the crazy and defend what I know to be truth. I cvan tell from personal experience the amount of hate mail I get from some elements of the right would stun you, all because I had the temerity to defend CJ. I still get that mail!

I don’t need to hate anyone, persecute anyone or marginalize anyone. I can agree with them, disagree with them or find common ground.

Not everyone is as aware as you are or understand where you come from. That is worth remembering. Further, just because someone disagrees with you does not mean they are of lesser or no value.

This isn’t a zero sum game.

I have had occasion to change some opinions, and fortify others. The real strength comes from change and nuance.

My two cents.