re: #456 A Mom Anon

Thank you. I’m SO tired of this shit. “Why doesn’t she just leave? Why is she defending him or keeping silent?” I NEVER hear the first question being “What the fuck is WRONG WITH HIM? Why is he such an asshole? What the fuck is going on in this culture that this is so common?” No, it’s almost always something about the victim first.

You know what domestic violence cases all have in common? A PERPETRATOR.

And I’ll say this again too: I can assure you, this is NOT the first or the last time he hit her. It NEVER happens “only once”. It just doesn’t work that way.

All too true. They never seem to ask “Why did he hit her?” instead of asking about the reaction after the hitting took place. It sounds like they accept violence in relationships as something to be naturally expected.

Which I guess does say a lot about preconceptions.