re: #483 Sergey Romanov

Uh no, even if I were to write the claim you attribute to me, there would still be no way to derive “all men are rapists” from it.

No one is saying that all men are rapists. What we are saying is that women cannot tell the difference between a rapist and non-rapist at first sight. Therefore, in order to remain safe, as you suggest, we must take precautions with any man we may meet until we know him well enough to know that we are safe with him. Will you agree with this?

What I’m saying is this:

1. There are, in principle, circumstances when the probability of rape is larger than usual.

2. It’s not wrong, in principle, to try to identify such circumstances.

Exactly. See above. Are you aware that most rapes are acquaintance rapes as Sarah has pointed out? They are date rapes, rapes that happen at parties, rapes by family members. How is a women to “identify such circumstances” in which, by statistical reality, the “probability of rape” is higher when it is more probable as she is simply going about her life.

3. When one does err while identifying such circumstances, it may look bad, but does not necessarily stem from either malice or blaming mindset.

It’s because asking the questions “why did you go out with him?” or “why did you go to that party and leave your drink unattended?” are absolutely victim blaming regardless of the intent behind them.