Maybe some lizards can offer me some advice. I’ll try to keep the long story under control. I am by far the oldest student in my class, since I’m starting the whole college thing over again. In one particular class, there is a disturbing dynamic developing. Most of the students get along well, better than any previous class I’ve ever taken. One reason in particular is the knockout who sits next to me. There’s no getting around it, she’s an 11. Now I’ve found it amusing the way that all the guys in my class follow her around like puppies. One of the older students, nearly my age, who sits on the other side of my desk has really been trying hard to “seal the deal”. Really hard. I had also found it amusing how he would “shut down” when I would approach the group. It’s really obvious to everybody and it’s become the joke of the class. But at my advanced age, I’m seeing something that I find disturbing. I talk with this guy sometimes and I listen in when the group is BS’ing and he is really a misogynist. No doubt about it. Conversely, the young woman seems to be lacking the kind of filter you need to keep from spilling TMI. I guess she thinks I’m the harmless grandfatherly type and she’s told me some stuff that just blew my mind. Long story short, she has some glaring vulnerability issues. She’s in a relationship, not a red hot love affair, but one where she feels safe. She admits to getting wasted sometimes, for example. There’s some other stuff she hasn’t said but I find obvious. The other guy knows this too.
I’m convinced this guy is going to try to take advantage of her. Unfortunately the realization dawned on me too late. We just finished the final exam and everybody was scattering, and I was kind of joking about it with another student on the way out. This student told me that guy keeps taking her picture. If I were younger, I would have been much quicker on the uptake, but that’s another issue. Anyway, this is his last chance to “seal the deal”, and he knows where she’s hanging out this weekend. He tried to get her to go to The Avengers, but when she said no she told him where she was really going to be. That should have been the red flag, but I missed it. It wasn’t even subtle. I don’t know if my slowness is a good thing for me, but I’m really regretting it now.
I can just picture an acquaintance “bumping” into her at a bar. Her friends won’t be alarmed when the “acquaintance” separates her from her friends. Since she readily takes stuff, I can just imagine him giving her something.
Obviously it takes one sneaky, manipulative mean SOB to recognize another. I can honestly say that I have disappointed loved ones, but never hurt anybody. I don’t think this guy is a predator, but he’s really hung up on her, and like I said before, he doesn’t give a shit about women so I think it would be easy for him to justify doing something extreme.
So I need advice. The only contact info I have is a class email list. Not personal ones, just addresses that the school provides and I’m not sure everybody checks regularly. My options are to try to contact her directly through the school email and suggest she change her plans without too much detail on why. Or I could go into detail. Also I could try to contact another student that I know has her phone number and get her to try to change her plans. But should I do this???