re: #10 ErikJ76

If a man goes to a bar and meets a woman and they go back to his or her place, have sex, fall asleep, and the next day she wakes him giving oral stimulation, is he being raped?

there’s a fundamental assymetry in your analogy. The man’s body is not being penetrated - physically and psychologically, it’s different. Not saying there aren’t guys who might feel freaked out if that happened to them, especially if it was a woman they didn’t feel entirely comfortable with - but it is still different.

How would the guy feel if he woke to find a woman had been rogering his arse with a large dildo?