re: #1359 Typicalwhitey

She said tonight that she was not going to do it for that very reason.
She had to have a cesarean and went back to work two weeks later, which is way too soon imo.
The asshole told her that lots of people do that and he was not going to help her financially either since she is able to work!

I feel for you. But if this is who the guy is, she’s very lucky to have him gone NOW rather than succeeding in talking him into pretending to do the right thing. He would only screw up her life and the child’s.

My sister married a wretch who got her pregnant and claimed to love her. Turned out to be an abusive drunk. Divorce. Trial. Drama. Now he gets unsupervised visits (a legally blind drunk!) every other weekend during the school year and every second week in the summer, plus every other holiday. My niece is now six and will have to put up with this guy until she’s eighteen, along with my sister. He uses his child as a way to hurt and get even with my sister. He constantly berates her by email, spewing lies about her and my whole family. But the court decided it this way, and we have to live with it. Pray God he doesn’t get drunk some time and lose track of her. As I say, he’s blind and a self-admitted alcoholic.

You’re far better off with this guy gone now, as I know you realize. But you should definitely see a lawyer to take whatever steps are necessary to make sure he can’t come back all sentimental-sorry-acting and try to give some judge a line about needing contact with his child. Just because he’s on not on the birth certificate doesn’t mean he can’t/won’t make that type of trouble. Get some serious advice.

Your daughter will get over it. The worst thing is to be stuck with an abusive jerk for decades.

God bless.