re: #207 windsagio

Here’s the thing, I have some pretty ‘not on the officially enforced gender distinctions’ traits, a great number actually.

After a number of years trying to figure out what the hell I was I realized that society couldn’t force me into anything. It’s not like it was 40 years ago.

People with true gender dysphoria have my sympathy its a really fucked up thing to have to deal with. For the other folks, the ones who just don’t quite match? I’d say instead of whinging learn that you define yourself as yourself. I was so much happier once I figured that out.

Well, it’s not really about “matching”. Gender roles assigned by society are different than an internal sense of self. You can have extremely ‘feminine’ FTMs, extremely ‘masculine’ MTFs, extremely ‘feminine’ cis men, and extremely ‘masculine’ cis women. Much like gender identity and sexual orientation, how you fit gender roles isn’t really related to gender identity outside of people perhaps trying to fit the former to the latter in hopes of fitting in better.