re: #379 prononymous

we actually had an interesting discussion about TG and alienation, and how surgery is often seen as the first response, it was last night, we both had a lot of stuff to say, it was a good convo. personally, I think surgery should be the last resort. if someone can feel “themselves” without surgery, that’s a win IMHO. it’s why I love the genderqueer movement, because we’re starting to accept the notion that people can feel “in between” the binary, and be okay, and be accepted. And not have to go under the knife to serve the paranoia of these bathroom obsessed bigots.

That’s another thing that made me angry about Ace’s comment, the implied notion that only TG who undergo full surgical transition are worthy of respect.

Surgery is invasive, risky, irreversible and unbelievably expensive under the best of circumstances, and the notion that someone must go under the knife to be worthy of respect as a TG person, like they’re “faking” if they’re preop, that’s pretty weird and dehumanizing. people just looking for ANY reason to feel superior by putting down and dehumanizing others.

I just can’t relate to anyone for whom the bathroom thing is important to them. it just seems barbaric and childish. People who get stuck on the bathroom thing, I can’t relate. Like somehow, they’re put out, they’re SO IMPORTANT

as opposed to, you know, the trans person who’s constantly worried about being confronted by some nasty person in a bathroom, or some bully, which happens.

Safety is more important to me. Respecting people and their self-image is important to me. And it always seems that behind the incessant bathroom talk, there’s people who hate. it’s hateful.