re: #36 Justanotherhuman

I had a somewhat similar discussion (the polite term for it) with my daughter. At the time, she was 22 and I was 52. I happened to mention to her that I had had a very nice evening with a young lady, who was 26. Daughter ripped me a new one. She calmed down after I explained it was a date with a friend, not an overnight fling with a lover.

Daughter rose the question whether I would entertain dating a woman older than me by 26 years (meaning 78). I had to say honestly, no I would not. My ex is almost 6 years older than I, and even that small difference in years was like we were a generation apart.

On the other hand, my father’s father married twice. Once when he and his fiance were teenagers. And again when that marriage crumbled about 30 years later. His new wife was 20 years old, and that marriage lasted almost 40 years until the old man died at 84.

Re-marriages can be rough on the kids from the first marriage, even more so if the new spouse is younger than the kids. My grandfather and his second wife burned every letter involving their romance, and the correspondence with wife 1 and son 1. Even my dad (son 3) didn’t know all the details, though he met son 1 one or twice.

May-September romances sometimes work out well. Sometimes not. I have no recommendations on this matter, but I would think twice about marrying a woman anywhere close to my kids’ ages.