re: #64 Justanotherhuman

I think this psychiatrist has a point:

vanityfair.com

“When a much younger, less sophisticated person takes a lover the age of a parent, says Dr. Leo Kron, the director of adolescent and child psychiatry at St. Luke’s/Roosevelt Hospital in Manhattan, “it may create for her the opportunity to avoid the anxiety of normal development. It can be a way to avoid socialization. It’s a safe haven with a parent figure, an escape from the normal vicissitudes of growing up. The fact she had such a deprived early existence makes it more difficult for her to become independent. There’s a greater risk of getting involved in a relationship where she has to be taken care of.”

This is a link to a paged story on Woody Allen and his relationship with Mia Farrow’s adopted daughter,

Although he’s talking specifically about Soon-Yi and Woody Allen, it could apply to everyone. It’s something older people should absolutely consider when looking at a much younger person as a mate.

This could all apply if said person is not yet fully developed.

I would like to think that in my case (she 35, me 54), the difference is no longer one of personal development, I have simply been around a bit longer. She has had a reasonable relationship with her parents and no serious authority/abuse issues. Heck, in a lot of ways, she is a lot more socially developed than I am…