re: #225 iceweasel

Couldn’t agree more. I can’t tell you how many people have said to me about one of their relationships “I need closure”— by which they mean something that the other person has to do for them.
Closure is something adults achieve on their own. By sucking it up and moving on. No one can do it for you.

Bob Dylan on “closure”:

Fourth Time Around

When she said, “Don’t waste your words, they’re just lies”
I cried she was deaf
And she worked on my face until breaking my eyes
Then said, “What else you got left?”

It was then that I got up to leave
But she said, “Don’t forget
Everybody must give something back
For something they get”

I stood there and hummed, I tapped on her drum
And asked her how come
And she buttoned her boot, and straightened her suit
Then she said, “Don’t get cute”

So I forced my hands in my pockets
And felt with my thumbs
And gallantly handed her
My very last piece of gum

She threw me outside, I stood in the dirt
Where everyone walked.
And after finding out I’d forgotten my shirt
I went back and knocked

I waited in the hallway, she went to get it
And I tried to make sense
Out of that picture of you in your wheelchair
That leaned up against

Her Jamaican rum, and when she did come
I asked her for some.
She said, “No, dear”, I said, “Your words aren’t clear
You’d better spit out your gum”

She screamed till her face got so red
Then she fell on the floor
I covered her up and then
Went and looked through her drawer

And, when I was through, I filled up my shoe
And brought it to you
And you, you took me in, you loved me then
And you didn’t waste time
And I, I never took much, I never asked for your crutch
Now don’t ask for mine

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