re: #533 Walter L. Newton

I have added something to my philosophy of life. In the past, I always said you could tell a lot about a “mate” by going on vacation for a couple of weeks.

Well, two years ago I took a girlfriend to France with the last of the “good” money I had made as a programmer. Bi the time we got back, well, that was all over.

And now I add getting to know someone when they have had a catastrophic accident, as my “girlfriend” has.

I have found her to be the most nasty, vain, entitled person I have met in a long time. She has no health insurance, yet she treats the hospital staff as if they owe her the world.

In my effort to help out, I have had to pick up on some of her personal finance and business problems. I am finding out all sorts of stuff that I didn’t know. The utility company was ready to turn off her power yesterday because she has not paid her bill in 6 months, and she applied for assistance a few months ago. But I found out she lied to the assistance program 8 ways to Sunday.

She has called the person at the energy assistances program a “fucker,” and talks nice to her physical therapist yet curses at him behind her back.

I find she has passed bad checks all over town. She told me she lost her ID and other things in her purse, yet I found out she had her girlfriend take all the papers and stuff out of the hospital so they wouldn’t find out that she is gainfully employed in a retail store. She has told the energy assistance program and the hospital that she is unemployed.

And this just goes on and on. The stuff I have found out in the last 6 days could fill a file.

This hospital stay has uncovered a “moral compass” which is far from what I can will deal with. This is not the way I view the world. I am financially in the dumps right now, but I don’t think for a minute about cheating someone or some agency just so I can have what I want.

And you may think I am being very judgmental, but I’m sorry. Maybe I’m to much of an idealist when it comes to morals and karma, but this is not the sort of person I want to be close to.

Sorry to dump on you and the other Lizards, but I just got back from the hospital and every day the “shit” gets deeper and deeper.

sounds harsh, but at least you found out this information about her now as opposed to later when you may have been more committed to a relationship.

It’s strange the boogers some people have lurking in their closets that no one sees until something happens.