re: #619 lostlakehiker

That’s not the way it went back in Kansas, back in the 50s and before. A woman could go her own way if the husband didn’t treat her right. Perhaps the law said that there had to be grounds for divorce, but abuse is, and was then, grounds.

As to leaving affairs, which is what I was talking about when I spoke of “good time was had by all”, those were always arrangements that either side could walk away from for any reason or none at all.

I don’t know what you’re talking about. What job could a woman do in early 1950s? 40s? She had 3 choices of profession. nurse, teacher, telephone operator, with very few options in between. How would she support herself? A divorced woman was shunned in the 40s. She was a wanton woman. She wore a scarlet letter (figuratively) so I don’t know what you’re going on about. We ain’t in Kansas.

Well that’s great. But it illustrates my point. It is better if men are trained to consider it important that they be a father to their children, that their children need that attention and help. That the mother needs help, even if she doesn’t need money help. The idea isn’t that women should have to stay, but that men should feel that they ought to stay.

When you find this most perfect world, then you come let me know. In the meantime, I want the option of taking care of myself and my family.