re: #59 SanFranciscoZionist

She seems to me like someone who’s gotten very good at deflecting criticism of her parenting style, even from her husband, by claiming it’s cultural. There’s a basis for that—a lot of what she says about Chinese parentingstyle is true—but she’s clearly set herself up as being the only one who knows what she’s doing, and is ignoring other input.

I’m glad I’m not her student. She must be a treat to ask for an extension.

I guess I don’t think I need to decide what areas my son needs to “perfect” in. As far as I’m concerned, he is perfect the way G-d made him. I do expect him to work hard, not because I want to be proud of him, but I don’t want him to be disappointed in himself later.

I know there is a cultural difference in that in the West we seem to do everything for our children, and in the East they do everything for the elders. I’m not raising someone to support me when I am old, I just want him to be able to support himself.