re: #117 Aceofwhat?

Generally, if it’s a formal marriage, feel free to assume that it’s not. I’ve heard of ‘open relationships’, but fully ‘open marriages’ are like ligers, IMHO…

No disagreement. The trick is to not let one’s assumption (“I assume they’re monogamous”) spill over into judgment in the face of evidence to the contrary. And even then personal judgment isn’t the same as proof of professional misconduct. There are lots of steps in between, “He cheated on his wife,” and “So he should resign.”