re: #34 Shiplord Kirel, live from behind wingnut lines

I said this the other day - people who haven’t gone through the grieving process over losing their imagined ‘normal kid’ can’t get past it. They can’t accept their child as they are, and not as they wanted them to be. They need there to be a way to get that ‘normal child’ back.

There isn’t one. And you must accept that.

And once you do, you can begin to appreciate who they are for real. Sure, a small percent of kids On The Spectrum will have severe issues all their lives. Mostly? They’ll learn coping mechanisms and strategies and they’ll find a place in the world.

But if you’re stuck with the idea that they’re broken and need to be fixed, you’ll never be able to help and encourage them to find their path. And you’ll be prone to charlatans who will sell you bleach, or chelation, or some other dangerous and ineffective ‘cure’ out of some belief that their condition is SO HORRIBLE that risking their lives is worth it.

Imagine how growing up with parents who feel that way about you will fuck you up.